Frances Barrios

“Seeing is believing.” For many, those words simply represent a motto. She was modest, quiet and observant, taking in everything around her and always thinking before acting. She was a realist, someone who was efficient and practical in everything she did. She was a friendly person who truly cared about those around her.

       She was the daughter of Ancesion and Anastacia. Raised in California, she was brought up to be tolerant and trustworthy. As a child, she learned to be conscientious, responsible and punctual. These were all traits that she would carry with her throughout her life.

      As a young girl, Frances was always aware of how others around her felt and this quality served her well. With a deep capacity to tolerate the feelings of others, Frances was generally able to avoid conflicts. It seemed as if Frances was the family member who was always working to keep stress at bay. Preferring a quiet environment where she could concentrate, Frances also had the ability to relate well with her family and friends. Frances was raised with five siblings. She had four brothers, Martin, John, Lupe, Tiburcio, and one sister, Sophie. Frances was constantly involved in activities with her family. Frances and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up but they deeply cared for each other and shared many life experiences over the years.

      Love can’t be defined but must be experienced. That was so true for Frances. She was totally committed to Ernest and maintained traditional ideals about marriage. It was as if Frances naturally sensed her spouse’s needs, and accepted those feelings unconditionally. Although Frances disliked conflict, she did not take flight from discord, but rather sought to preserve harmony even during the most trying times.

      Frances was a good mother to her children. She had “old fashioned” parental values and could handle typical family conflicts in a fair and calm manner. Because she trusted emotions, Frances was reluctant to force issues and used gentle persuasion to resolve situations. In this way she seemed to radiate an aura of warmth and caring to those around her, always thinking before acting. In addition, Frances was a master planner. No matter how hectic life around her might be, she seemed to know and track everyone’s schedule. Frances was blessed with four children, three daughters, Connie, Gloria, and Esperanza, and one son, Rudy. They were also blessed with nine grandchildren, Alberto,Luis, Anthony, Michael, Heather, John, Monica, Danny and Alfred.

      Frances liked to experience things first hand, in addition to simply learning about them. This quality influenced Frances' choice of leisure time activities. A methodical and patient worker, Frances preferred to set aside uninterrupted time to work on her hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were crocheting,sewing, knitting, and embroidery. Frances was content to sit quietly alone, enjoying her hobbies all by herself and could often be found just reading about her favorite pastimes.

      Anyone who traveled or went on vacation with Frances had smooth sailing. She would start early and examine all of the possibilities, selecting the best and most effective options. Favorite vacations included Reno, Lake Tahoe, Mexico and Hawaii.

      Frances passed away on September 23, 2013 at Alta Bates Summit Medical Center, Oakland, California. She is survived by her children, Connie, Gloria, Esperanza, and Rudy; 9 grandchildren; and 9 great-grandchildren. Services were held at St. Leander Catholic Church. Frances was laid to rest in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery in Hayward, California.

      It is said that some people can’t see the forest for the trees. Frances was able to focus on each individual tree, tending to its needs, thus making the forest stronger as a whole. Frances was a trustworthy, pragmatic and sympathetic person, the kind of woman to whom everyone was drawn. She was thorough and practical. Frances Barrios was very literal with her words. You always knew where you stood with Frances. She will be missed.

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“Seeing is believing.” For many, those words simply represent a motto. She was modest, quiet and observant, taking in everything around her and always thinking before acting. She was a realist, someone who was efficient and practical in everything she did. She was a friendly person who truly cared about those around her.

She was the daughter of Ancesion and Anastacia. Raised in California, she was brought up to be tolerant and trustworthy. As a child, she learned to be conscientious, responsible and punctual. These were all traits that she would carry with her throughout her life.

As a young girl, Frances was always aware of how others around her felt and this quality served her well. With a deep capacity to tolerate the feelings of others, Frances was generally able to avoid conflicts. It seemed as if Frances was the family member who was always working to keep stress at bay. Preferring a quiet environment where she could concentrate, Frances also had the ability to relate well with her family and friends. Frances was raised with five siblings. She had four brothers, Martin, John, Lupe, Tiburcio, and one sister, Sophie. Frances was constantly involved in activities with her family. Frances and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up but they deeply cared for each other and shared many life experiences over the years.

Love can’t be defined but must be experienced. That was so true for Frances. She was totally committed to Ernest and maintained traditional ideals about marriage. It was as if Frances naturally sensed her spouse’s needs, and accepted those feelings unconditionally. Although Frances disliked conflict, she did not take flight from discord, but rather sought to preserve harmony even during the most trying times.

Frances was a good mother to her children. She had “old fashioned” parental values and could handle typical family conflicts in a fair and calm manner. Because she trusted emotions, Frances was reluctant to force issues and used gentle persuasion to resolve situations. In this way she seemed to radiate an aura of warmth and caring to those around her, always thinking before acting. In addition, Frances was a master planner. No matter how hectic life around her might be, she seemed to know and track everyone’s schedule. Frances was blessed with four children, three daughters, Connie, Gloria, and Esperanza, and one son, Rudy. They were also blessed with nine grandchildren, Alberto,Luis, Anthony, Michael, Heather, John, Monica, Danny and Alfred.

Frances liked to experience things first hand, in addition to simply learning about them. This quality influenced Frances' choice of leisure time activities. A methodical and patient worker, Frances preferred to set aside uninterrupted time to work on her hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were crocheting,sewing, knitting, and embroidery. Frances was content to sit quietly alone, enjoying her hobbies all by herself and could often be found just reading about her favorite pastimes.

Anyone who traveled or went on vacation with Frances had smooth sailing. She would start early and examine all of the possibilities, selecting the best and most effective options. Favorite vacations included Reno, Lake Tahoe, Mexico and Hawaii.

Frances passed away on September 23, 2013 at Alta Bates Summit Medical Center, Oakland, California. She is survived by her children, Connie, Gloria, Esperanza, and Rudy; 9 grandchildren; and 9 great-grandchildren. Services were held at St. Leander Catholic Church. Frances was laid to rest in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery in Hayward, California.

It is said that some people can’t see the forest for the trees. Frances was able to focus on each individual tree, tending to its needs, thus making the forest stronger as a whole. Frances was a trustworthy, pragmatic and sympathetic person, the kind of woman to whom everyone was drawn. She was thorough and practical. Frances Barrios was very literal with her words. You always knew where you stood with Frances. She will be missed.