Dr. Soledad "Solly" Broas Sinsay
November 14, 1943 – August 27, 2020
“If you put your mind to it, you can do anything!” That is what Dr. Soledad Broas Sinsay believed about life. She was a creative woman, a perpetual inventor, who seemed to be able to find a solution for any difficulty confronting her. She had faith in her ability to find those solutions. Solly thoroughly enjoyed understanding how things worked. She possessed an inquisitive, confident, and rational nature matched with a versatile and agile mind. Solly was a person who believed that she could achieve whatever she set out to do.
Solly was born on November 14, 1943 to Angel Broas and Naciancena Montoya. Solly was raised in Cavite, Philippines. She showed her ingenuity even as a child. When she was confronted with a problem, Solly could develop an imaginative solution, and she derived satisfaction from knowing she had that ability.
This same talent for finding solutions had a positive bearing on Solly's family relationships. Solly was raised with 8 older siblings, Fely, Ambrose, Deling, Gemy, Maring, Roming, Ling and Levy. When a difficult situation or dilemma arose within the family, Solly was always there to help figure out a solution for making things work.
Because she was a quick thinker and adept at picking up on new things, Solly performed well in college. She was always on a quest for knowledge and she relished the experience. Theories intrigued her, and she was good at solving complex problems. She always wanted to understand rather than judge. In May 1966, with sheer determination, Solly obtained her Doctor of Medicine in Dentistry degree from the University of the East - College of Dentistry in Manilla, where she practiced from 1966 - 1970.
On January 17, 1970 Solly exchanged wedding vows with her childhood sweeheart, Carlos Cantada Sinsay, at Municipal Court House of Cavite, Philippines. Solly was adept at devising original and creative ways to enhance and improve the marriage partnership. Solly was seldom a critical person, but rather the one who was able to bring out the best in others. Solly was an entertaining conversationalist who was quick to respond to her spouse’s needs. She was full of energy, vibrant personality and she enjoyed verbally sparring with her husband. In fact, those who knew her often remarked that Solly loved to argue for argument’s sake. She was very perceptive in recognizing others’ feelings, especially regarding her husband, famiy, and friends.
Solly's remarkable talent for being inventive influenced her relationship with her children. She would create original, clever and fun games for her kids and had a knack for finding ways to make everyday events, even chores, enjoyable to them. Solly was blessed with 4 children, Charmaine, Christopher, Conrad, and Carolyn. They were also blessed with 10 grandchildren, Mitchel, Ethan, Christian, Kalei, Allan, Jacob, Matthew, Brandon, Charissa, and Alyssa. Someone who was quick to laugh, Solly found it easy to spend lots of time with her children and grandchildren, but she was never overbearing or guilty of pushing herself on them.
As a born inventor, Solly was definitely in her element in her work place. She could easily create new and innovative systems, and incorporate those changes to bring a fresh approach to any work situation. Solly was a focused worker with a strong drive for achievement. She could assess all of the options before her and, using her analytical skills, could comfortably find answers that no one else had even considered. Her personal initiative inspired those around her. Solly was always good at getting a project started and then, at the appropriate time, handing it on to a colleague. She passed the US Dental Boards in 1979, where she soon established her own dental practice in San Jose, successfully practicing dentistry for over 33 years. Her joyful passion for helping others with their dental needs allowed her to establish a growing patient base, which in some cases, evolved into the many close friendships she had formed throughout her life.
Solly's passion for finding a better way to do things was often an end in itself for her. In fact, that interest by itself became something of a hobby for this perpetual problem solver. Since Solly was always searching for new and unusual activities, she developed many interests and leisure pursuits. Some of the things she became an “expert” in might come as a surprise to those who knew her, but most friends and family understood that Solly simply couldn’t be limited to just a few activities or ideas. Solly was always full of energy, living life to the fullest and always staying busy. She was a remarkable cook where she enjoyed hosting and preparing unique meals for her family and friends, most especially during the holidays. Her favorite pursuits were cooking, playing the piano, singing, dancing, gardening, watching sunsets, or saying her prayers. But above all, her biggest joy in life was spending time with her children and grandchildren.
Solly's energetic demeanor and eternally positive outlook served her well in sports. You would always see her running aroung and keeping busy. She enjoyed leisurely walks around the lake front to watch the majestic sunsets with friends, her husband, children, and grandchildren. Solly was also something of a sports fan and enjoyed following her favorite events whenever she got the opportunity. Tops on her list were any basketball game with the Golden State Warriors. Go Dubs!
Solly's talents were well suited for being actively involved in professional and community organizations, something she did throughout her life. She enjoyed being involved and was willing to jump in and help out in most any situation. Solly could bring a breath of fresh air to any organization, simply by introducing her novel ideas and problem-solving strategies. As faith and religion were important to Solly. With strong religious faith, Solly and her husband joined Cursillo in 1994, then later joined Couples for Christ. They were 1 of 6 couples that began the Couples for Christ Northern California Chapter where they continued to evangelize and spread God's word to different areas throughout the United States and the Caribbean. Solly remained a dedicated member until her death.
Having the opportunity to visit and explore a new place always intrigued Solly. Traveling and going away on vacations offered yet another opportunity for Solly to expand her ever-growing inventory of knowledge. Favorite vacations included traveling all over the world but her most favorite destination was visiting Vatican City where she was able to see the Pope.
After relocating from the Philippines to the United States, Solly & Carlos spent 2 years of their humble beginnings in Newark, CA, then ultimately establishing their family in the San Jose foothills for 26 wonderful years, where their children called home and many beautiful memories were created with friends and family. In her later years, Solly never stopped exercising her inventive talents, and this new phase of her life provided new opportunities for stimulating her interests. Though she never really retired, as she always enjoyed staying busy and occassionally still provided dental care to many of her patients. In August 2017, her new life involved relocating to Lathrop, California. She found new pleasure in spending majority of her time enjoying a more peaceful environment away from the hustle and bustle of Silicon Valley. Her and her husband, both enjoyed nice walks along the lake fronts and the majestic sunsets. Lathrop also allowed them the opportunity to spend more quality time with their nearby grandchildren. Solly continued to stay in touch with her old friends and while making plenty of new acquaintances. She was active in the community and felt fulfilled and felt very loved.
Solly passed away on August 27, 2020 at Santa Clara Kaiser Hospital surrounded by her four children, whom she lovingly called “her 4 babies”. Solly had heart complications. Solly’s loving husband, Carlos C. Sinsay, sadly passed away on June 2020, a little over 2 months from her own passing in August. Solly is survived by her 4 children and their spouses: Charmaine and Michael, Christopher and Jennifer, Conrad and Mark, and Carolyn and Alexis, and her 10 grandchildren; Mitchel, Ethan, Christian, Kalei, Allan, Jacob, Matthew, Brandon, Charissa, and Alyssa. Mass Services were held at St. Victors Church in San Jose. Solly was laid to rest in a beautiful mausoleum with her loving husband; head to head so that they may kiss eachother for eternity; at Lima Family Mortuary in Fremont, California.
During her lifetime, nothing appeared impossible to Solly. She met the words “it can’t be done” with the enthusiastic challenge of a “I'll show you, I can do it!” attitude. Solly was able to recognize the possibilities a new idea held, even when those around her could not. For Solly, the traditional way of doing things fell short of her expectations, especially if there were original and untested methods for handling a challenge. For Dr. Soledad Broas Sinsay, the fun of living her life could be found in the challenge. Solly will be remembered for her vivacious personality and her presence that would always make people laugh and smile around her. She was also known as a woman of great faith, in addition to a wonderful, loving, and caring wife, mother, and grandmother. She will be greatly missed by her family, friends, and members of her Couples for Christ (CFC) Family.
Solly’s life was an example of her favorite bible verse:
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
“Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.”
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Dr. Soledad "Solly" Broas Sinsay
September 20, 2020
Just a couple of thoughts to add to the fullness of Auntie Solly's remembrances. I first met her soon after I arrived from the Philippines in 1981. Just as others have effusively mentioned, she was ever so gracious, accommodating and welcoming to anyone and everyone who came into her life, myself included. Her Christ-like virtue of kindness balanced with an uplifting light-heartedness have shined through, without diminishing over the years. These characters are noticeable not only by those impish-looking eyes and infectious smile, but also by the actions and interactions I have encountered with her during our visits, now in retrospect, woefully too few. The RV family trip cross- country was remarkably epic. Auntie Solly was such an unrelenting instigator of fun and laughs, what more can I say. Let me share these profound words from Dietrich Bonhoeffer: “There is nothing that can replace the absence of someone dear to us, and one should not even attempt to do so. One must simply hold out and endure it. At first that sounds very hard, but at the same time it is also a great comfort. For to the extent the emptiness truly remains unfilled one remains connected to the other person through it. It is wrong to say that God fills the emptiness. God in no way fills it but much more leaves it precisely unfilled and thus helps us preserve -- even in pain -- the authentic relationship. Further more, the more beautiful and full the remembrances, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude transforms the torment of memory into silent joy. One bears what was lovely in the past not as a thorn but as a precious gift deep within, a hidden treasure of which one can always be certain.”
September 19, 2020
I would like to pay tribute to my youngest sister, Solly. Being the second to the oldest brother, but the fifth child of my parents, I became Solly’s oldest brother since my dearest oldest brother, Bosyong, passed 2 years ago. As I’m writing this, I am becoming very emotional. However, the Lord is the only one who knows when we are going to leave this earth and he has chosen to bring my sister home. She is in God’s loving arms now.
One regret that I have is that Solly grew up without knowing our Father. He passed away when she was just a baby. She didn’t know anything about him so we all felt that we must tell her everything that we possibly could about him as she was growing up. I am very proud to say that she turned out to be a very successful woman. She had a happy life and was very spiritual as well. She always reached out to help others with unselfishness and sincerity. She was always honest and understanding towards others. She will be remembered as an inspiration and a great model for others. Her motto was, “Everything is possible. Believe in yourself and with the help of God through hard work dedication and determination you can accomplish your goal in life.” I am also very proud of the way she raised her children. They all reached their goals in life and made her very PROUD. Praise God. I miss you very much my sister, I Love You. Solly, you will always be in my heart and mind, till we meet again in Heaven.
Love, Kuya Gemy ❤️
September 18, 2020
My siblings and I have great affection for Auntie Soly because she embodies so much of what we picture a "cool Aunt" looks like. Just a couple of qualifying criteria we have:
1. Relationships. Auntie Soly goes out of her way to cultivate relationships anywhere relationships are to be had. She takes the time to "visit" and have meaningful conversations. There might have been a time that I personally felt uncomfortable with some of the "probing interview" questions, but, in time, i've come to realize that those inquiries were less about curiosity and more about supporting either of 2 possible outcomes: (a) so she can add your achievements in her "Family Tree Brag Sheet" OR (b) simply wants to know if and how she can be of help if there was trouble. She always has a kind and encouraging word and is fiercely proud of "the BroMo family". I could just picture her playing "my kin is cooler than yours" poker: In my family tree I've got 3 doctors, 3 laywers, real estate magnates, and over a dozen engineers in fortune 500 companies... what you got?
2. Hospitaility. Is there even anyone that hasn't been to her home? nuff' said about that.
3. Humor: Auntie Soly is a playful sort who loved to laugh. Sometimes though, I wonder if some of that laughter was her polite way of saying "it didn't quite land but please do try again and let's see what else you got.."
We miss you already
September 18, 2020
I have s many wonderful memories with Auntie Soly as she has been a part of my life since childhood and every stage thereafter. I remember.... her answering my childish questions... teaching me prayers ... adventure trips to Manila on tricycles, buses and jeeps... watching her sew beads on party dresses, putting on make-up and teasing her hair ... learning about grown-up courtship and marriage old-fashioned, provincial style ... availing of her family's warm and welcoming hospitality when first arriving in the US ... working for her as a dental assistant with on-the-job-training ... trips to the casino ... visits, phone calls, chats, family history stories, advice, guidance, support ... a few sad times and a multitude of happy times and laughter. I hope she knew/knows how grateful I will always be... and that she knew and felt the deep love and respect I have for her.
I am sure many family and friends have their own personal experiences of her love and caring, her kindness and generosity and warm hospitality just as I have. So I don't feel the need to share mine. I did want to feature a couple of Auntie Solly's attributes that stood out to me and which are related.
Intrepid comes to mind when I think of Auntie Solly.. There was nothing too daunting or discouraging for her. Neither size, nor gender, nor cultural barriers in a white, male dominated world, nor whatever obstacle or situation comes along. A prime example would be the story of her journey to dentistry... in spite of a full time job and raising 4 young children. Thus she was also inspiring ... in both words and example of how to overcome... It was quite jaw-dropping to me when I heard stories about her boundless energy and drive even as she was recovering from a near-death illness. If only she could have bottled that - then I would have been her first customer
I truly miss you. my beloved aunt, My consolation is that I know you are now with the Father... and your joy is complete
September 18, 2020
I think the most vivid memories I have of Momma Solly were at her Ramstad house in San Jose. Anyone who’s ever been there has climbed up and down the multiple staircases that led to the 3 levels of the house. Those stairs were like a playground for her kids growing up and her grandchildren there after.
I remember during a family party one evening I was playing pool on the bottom floor. I could hear one of the kids running quickly up and down the stairs as many of the kids did. As the steps got louder, the kid that appeared before me was actually Momma Solly running around with a giant smile on her face! She was always the most energetic kid of them all. She was never one to just stand still and let an adventure pass her by.
I’ll always remember Momma Solly for her tremendous strength, the great love she had for her family and being a shining light without even trying. We will try our best to find peace knowing you are watching us from heaven, but we will miss and love you forever.
September 18, 2020
This was taken at my daughter’s wedding on August 18, 2018. We were so happy to have Auntie Solly and Uncle Carling attend this special day. I will dearly miss Auntie Solly, she was very close to our family and appreciate all she has done for my mother and brother. ❤️ Love to all of you❤️
September 5, 2020
You were such a wonderful mom. I count all my blessings knowing that I had you in my life. I’ll always hold all the countless and priceless memories we shared in my heart forever. I love and miss you immensely. Rest In Peace my beautiful mama.... ❤️❤️