Patricia Jean Perez
March 11, 1958 – July 3, 2019
Patricia Jean Perez née Graham, 61, passed away on Wednesday, July 3, 2019, with her family by her side in Clovis, California.
She is survived by her son, Conan Graham, his wife, Lauren Delucchi Graham, her granddaughter Madison Grace Graham, and her partner, Robert Sterling, as well as her siblings: Ann Alemania and her husband Carl, Jack Graham and his wife Shelley, Janice Tompkins, Mary Redondo and her husband Bill, Tom Graham and his wife Judy, Joe Graham and his wife Cathy, Cathy Kreutter and her husband Tim, David Graham and his wife Margarita, Richard Graham and his wife Marcia, George Graham and his wife M.E., and Bob Graham.
Patricia was preceded in death by her husband, Trinidad A. Perez, Jr., her parents, John Owen Graham and Barbara Jean Graham née Gast, her sister, Elizabeth Graham, and her brother-in-law, Roger Tompkins. Patricia was also affectionately known as “Aunt Patty” to her many nieces and nephews in the Graham family.
Patricia, daughter of the late John and Barbara Graham, was born March 11, 1958 in Stockton, California. She grew up in Stockton with her parents and 11 brothers and sisters. In 1973, the Graham family moved to Easton, California where Patricia completed her high school education at Washington Union High School graduating in 1976.
In 1979, Patricia, along with her first husband, James Maroon, were blessed with her only child, Conan. From 1982 to 2006, Patricia lived in Easton with her son Conan and later, with the love of her life, Trinidad Perez, whom she met in 1987 and married in October of 1993. The two were married for 12 years until his death in 2005. This same year also saw the death of both her parents, Barbara and John, as well.
Following the events of 2005, Patricia decided to move to Santa Cruz, California for a time where she developed strong friendships with those she met there before moving back to the Central Valley settling in Clovis in 2009. Upon moving to Clovis, Patricia met Robert Sterling. The two fell in love and lived together until her passing. In 2016, Patricia was blessed with her first grandchild, Madison Grace Graham. She absolutely loved being Nana and spending time with her granddaughter with whom she would dance, play, and sing songs with every time the two were together.
- Graveside Service Monday, July 15, 2019
Patricia Jean Perez
July 15, 2019
Patricia was a very sweet dear friend of mine. We met when she moved to Santa Cruz we both moved there about the same time. She always had that wonderful smile on her face and hey girl how you doing! :-) was what she would say when she saw me . We spent almost everyday together it seemed along with our other friends. Her friendship meant so much to me because she genuinely cared. When you have a friend that genuinely cares you know what that means. We have so many great memories together. She always said in Santa Cruz that was one of the best times of her life. She called me Lucy and I called her Ethel :-) she loved her family that's for sure. She was always proud of her son and love to talk about his life. I will miss our talks I'm just glad she's not suffering and I know she was eager to be with her Trini again... now she must be happy. Sledgehammer was her favorite song we love to dance. She was such a wonderful person I love you Patricia Watch Over Me Girl
July 13, 2019
Dear Patty, I already miss you so much! I remember the times when we were young when you and I listened to Elton John music. Dancing around and singing and acting all crazy, just letting it all hang loose and not a care in the world. I remember the blast we had when the folks were gone to the coast. You and Karen Bradshaw with the other cheerleaders and Pep girls having fun and getting all crazy. I’ll never forget Joe Wolf who had that blazing fast Chevy pick up who took me for a ride and introduced me to what a muscle truck was! Those were fantastic times! After mom and dad passed away, I really appreciate the insights are you shared with me, about how mom and dad felt. I’ll never forget all the conversations we shared about dealing with our demons. I know you tried so very very hard! I love you so much sis! I’m so happy you you are finally resting in peace and finally out of pain! Please say hello to Mom and Dad, my mother-in-law Eleadora, Trinidad and Roger for me. Rest well my sister. Love David, Margarita, Robert and Alejandro.
July 9, 2019
When we were in school there were 3 Funny Girls, you were one of them! Always a smile and pouncing up and down was the greeting everyone was met with. I will never forget the slumber parties we shared and your positive attitude about Life. I could always hear you from anywhere we were and you saw me,
Doooooodiiiiiiiiiie is what I would hear and you would run up to me pouncing.
Gosh I Loved You 🥰🥰🥰🥰
When we were out of school, You babysat my kids while we worked nights, we trusted you with our kids,,,, we received a phone call and your little voice on the phone telling about the child that jumped off the sofa and had the coffee table jump in her way. As we drove away from house to the hospital, you were crying and I never forgot the look on your face.
Gosh I Loved You🥰🥰
You have talked me out of miserable situations in our adult days and turned me on to Christian music. Years later we again had something in common, we both lost a spouse. The pain that doesn’t leave but we muster on. You were a cheerleader for us.
Your Love for your Family was evident in everything you did, you lived and breathed for your child and that made you a Happy Girl!🥰
I Love You Forever and Always Little Friend 😘
Forever and Always
July 8, 2019
I love you Auntie Patty and still can’t believe you’re gone.
I have a bunch of memories from my childhood as well because you lived so close to us. I loved being your niece because you were loud and crazy and funny and beautiful and you wore red lipstick. You loved to dance and sing and you didn’t care who was watching. I will always remember you that way.
It was amazing to me that you knew and befriended my mother-in-law way before I met and fell in love with her son, and that my husband used to play with Conan as little kids. When Dan and I got together in high school, you two already had that connection and you always gave him the biggest hugs and made him feel welcome. You told us, “You two come as a pair,” and I knew that you understood us.
I’m so thankful that I got to talk to you and hold your hand, and sing to you in the hospital. I can’t believe you passed away only 2 hours later.
I am happy that you are reunited Trini, Grandma, and Grandpa in heaven. Please hug them for me.
July 8, 2019
So sad to lose our dear Auntie Patty. When our family moved to Easton from L.A. in the summer of 1988, I was going into the 4th grade, and we lived less than a mile from Grandma & Grandpa Graham's ranch, and Auntie Patty & Conan, who also lived on their property at the time. My summer vacations were filled with fun memories of swimming every day, all day, in the pool with Conan, and occasionally Auntie Patty and Grandma Graham would join, and cool off with us too. Conan and I would spend hours together drawing comics, watching WWF and drinking sodas. (We never got to drink sodas at home!) Auntie Patty would joke that it was like she was raising twins, because Conan and I were so close in age. Auntie Patty and I also had a special bond because our names were so similar; she was Patricia Jean, and my full name is Jeannette Patricia. <3
She still would call me by my nickname - Jeannie Beannie, and later Jeannie Beans though! As I grew up, during middle school and going into high school, she was one of the "cool" Aunties that I would go to for advice on friendships, and boys, and I could tell anything to. A few of my girlfriends from Easton would also go over and all of us would hang out with her. She was hilarious, she had a wonderfully loud infectious laugh, and she was always fun to be around. When we moved to Fresno, and later Sacramento, then settled back in Madera, we didn't get to see her as often, but I will always cherish those memories!
I was so blessed to be able to see her again and hold her hand, in the hospital before she passed away. My sister Hannah and I sang along to one of her favorite songs "Hotel California" to her there in the hospital. I never expected it to be the last time that I saw her alive. I miss her now very much. I am happy to know that she is with her Love, her husband Trini again, as well as our amazing Grandparents in heaven who also loved her so, so much. Rest in Peace and Love Auntie, until we meet again.
July 8, 2019
I miss her so much. When we moved to the Fresno area I was just about to start high school. I didn’t have any friends besides my siblings, so Auntie Patty always let me hang around with her. She had a cleaning business and she let me join her on her jobs. We had so much fun cleaning together for hours and hours. I felt like I could tell her anything and everything. When summer ended, she knew I wouldn’t be able to help her every day. She said she had confidence in me that I was ready to clean all on my own. So at the age of 13 and with the client’s permission, she gave me one of her clients. She would pick me up each Saturday, drop me off and we would each clean our own client’s house. Then she’d pick me up and we would have lunch together or just talk. I cherish these memories and will always credit her with teaching me how to work thoroughly and swiftly, and of course taking pride in my work. I love and miss you Auntie Patty!
July 8, 2019
Patty and I were like twins growing up, always sharing a room. I was shy and quiet and she was outgoing and athletic- we were complete opposites but yet always seemed to have each other's back. At Moms funeral, I was at the podium reading aloud a scripture from Psalms and choked up, struggling. Patty came up from the audience and stood next to me and gave me the strength to finish. She just knew I needed that and I was not at all surprised. Will miss you Patty.
July 8, 2019
Patty, I surely will miss all of our phone conversations especially when we talked about our grandchildren. I will always cherish the time we spent in Hawaii even if we didn’t get to go on a helicopter ride. RIP my dear sister in law. Love you lots.