Ray Barajas

September 2, 1979February 4, 2020
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Ramon Barajas was born on September 2, 1979 in El Paso, TX to Ronnie and Mary Barajas. The youngest of two boys, Ray was an independent and happy child. He always had a smile on his face. He was very kind-hearted; always looking to be a friend to everyone. Ray could often times be stubborn and was known to dish out the sarcasm. Things got done when he was good and ready!

When Ray was six years old and in the 1st grade at Logan Elementary, he got in trouble (one of many) at school and was told that his parents would be informed. That afternoon, his older brother, Ronnie got out of school, and Ray was not at their normal meeting location. He quickly realized Ray was missing. His dad and Ronnie drove through the military housing streets around the school; Ronnie crying, half-hanging out of the truck window, yelling his name. School teachers and staff, even Ft. Bliss military police joined the search. Ray was nowhere on the base.

Of course not, because he had a 45-minute head start heading home. He crossed three major intersections and even went under an interstate overpass. His mom finally located him two hours later, two blocks away from home, walking down the sidewalk with his jacket tied around his waist and a long walking stick in his hand. He said smiling, “Hi, Mom, I almost made it home.” He was tired and hungry, but confused as to why everyone was looking for him. He knew exactly where he was – he was not lost. He had walked almost 3.2 miles.

This event (later recalled as “our lost shepherd”) should have given us an indication of how he would live his life – fearless, independent and on his own terms.

Ray graduated from Stephen F. Austin High School in 1997 and went on to be a Dialysis Technician in Columbus, Ohio and most recently a domestic engineer/full-time nanny to his beloved Chica. His favorite place to be was on the volleyball court. Recreational volleyball was his passion. Another passion of Ray’s was hoodies, backpacks and athletic footwear. If a backpack-of-the-month club existed, he would have been the #1 customer. Ray was very athletic. He also enjoyed playing tennis (and cheering on Serena Williams), and searching for the best road or trail he could walk and hike, all while listening to anything by Beyonce! He could also be found binge watching the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders or anything on Bravo TV, especially any “Housewives” show. He enjoyed watching Lord of the Rings, Star Wars and Airplane. If Ray, aka “Monchi” or “Queen B” were here, you would likely hear one or more of his favorite “Ray-isms”…“Thanks, you’re a peach”; “Bee Bop”, or “Boughie” to name a few. We would like to thank Brody Eick, Robert Boyce and Donavan Aldrich for being in his life and greatly appreciate everything they did for him.

He is preceded in death by his maternal grandparents; Ramon L. and Josephina Valencia and paternal grandfather; Ruben R. Barajas.

He is survived by his parents; Ronnie and Mary Barajas, his brother Ronnie Barajas Jr., his sister in law Patricia Dokie-Barajas, his nephew Jacob Ryan Barajas and great grandmother Emilia M Barajas.

Ray was loved while here with us on earth, and will continue to be loved through time and all eternity.


  • Visitation Tuesday, February 11, 2020
  • Rosary Service Tuesday, February 11, 2020
  • Reception Tuesday, February 11, 2020
  • Funeral Service Wednesday, February 12, 2020
  • Reception Wednesday, February 12, 2020


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Stephanie Marlow

February 13, 2020

I am so sorry for your families loss and wanted to send some love and hugs to the family during this difficult time.

Patricia Dokie-Barajas

February 12, 2020

Today was one of the saddest days of my life. I had to say goodbye to my Peter Pan! Ray Barajas you will be forever young kicking an oil can. I love you with all on my heart and I will watch over your Mom, Dad, and Brother. You left us way to soon! My PIC in getting good “bowls” for breakfast is gonna be missed. But I will continue on in your honor!! Even though Mia will tell me not to.

Kevin Bartels

February 12, 2020

I moved to Columbus Ohio in 2009 and in 2010 I joined an indoor volleyball league. That is where I crossed paths with Ray for the first time. He eventually started inviting me to a bar that had a dirt volleyball court. It is there that Ray started to invest his time in teaching me about sand volleyball. He would pick me to be his doubles partner when nobody else wanted to be my partner. Prior to meeting Ray I had never stepped foot on a sand volleyball court. At the time I never understood what made him want to take me (a complete stranger) under his wing but the more I got to know Ray, I discovered it was just in his character to help others out. We def lost more matches than we won playing sand volleyball but he never gave up on me, not once. I will forever be grateful for his genuine desire to teach me something I had no clue about, forever miss that mischievous smirk of his, how hard he could make me laugh, his generosity and most of all, his unwavering friendship. Until we meet again my friend.

Corey Cox

February 11, 2020

You used to do the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders dances on the sidewalk in front of my window hoping I would see you. I'm just as tough of a couch as Kelly so I'm not sure you would make the squad based on your technique but your passion, big heart, and smile would land you the spot at the point of the triangle. Carlos and I thought you needed your own pair of DCC boots to kick, dance, and do the jump splits in while performing up above. We love you and miss you more than words can describe. Oh and don't get too comfortable as the point cheerleader because when it's my time to join you at training camp that point spot will be mine.

Mario Perez

February 11, 2020

New Orleans 2006 or 2007, we won the A/AA tournament with him. Best tournament ever. He was a great guy and smiled big always. We went to play on a few tournaments together. You will be missed Ray, and we will never forget your beautiful smile!!

Your friend,
Mario Perez

bruce garcia

February 11, 2020

Ray while watching the video it was amazing that in almost 100% pics you have that great smile i remember so well. i remember we had a trio event with DIVA on an off night and it paired 3 of us and i was glad to see i was part of your team. the third person had just joined the league and was so nervous about everything. your patience and encouragement were so genuine and caring. and as the years showed me that was just you being you. glad to have met you and vaya con Dios Ray.

Carlos Tamacas

February 11, 2020

I wish there were words I could use to describe what you meant to me. Since I met you over a year ago, we immediately had a connection. I felt like I had known you my entire life.

I will never forget the countless conversations in the patio. Watching the planes land and take off. We even saw that UFO that night. Our countless walks in the middle of the night trying to figure out so many things. The times we cried, we laughed, the many firsts we experience together.

You changed my life. You taught me so many things you probably didn’t even realized.

You have no idea the void you have left. The emptiness of my soul. I thank God for having met you and for having shared the many things we did...good and bad.

I love you and always will my sweet Ray.

Tony Elizalde

February 10, 2020

I’ve been going back in my years of memories and every time I feel like something new pops up. Even now you make laugh out loud. I will never forget when you told me Columbus was close to Sandusky. I drove 5 hrs to get to you and then another 4 hrs to Cedar Point. It was one of the best times. Our ANTM challenge on the rollercoaster. Your friendship was something at times I couldn’t understand because you felt more like the brother I never had. All the memories I will cherish and take with me. From the many volleyball nights, to the birthdays, and road trips. You taught me what love and brotherhood was and even though we would go some time without speaking it seemed we could always pick up where we left off. I will miss you deeply but your memory will be with me forever.

Love Always

Chris Cedillo

February 10, 2020

I’m from El Paso but I met Ray in Dallas in 2003 through volleyball. He was like a big brother to me. We hung out as much as we could. We took many road trips but the one I remember the most is the one time I slightly wrecked my car in Dallas and my parents were like you need to bring it home so we can fix it. I told Ray I need to go to El Paso do you wanna go? Without hesitation, he said yes diva let’s go! We took that 8 hour drive listening to Donna Summer, Pet Shop Boys, Erasure, Depeche Mode, Anything Box, The Cure, Dead or Alive etc. anything that he could sing and try to dance to. We get to El Paso and of course we want Chico’s and go out and have a drink. I was 20 so we’re like let’s go to Juarez. We cross over go to some bars, have some drinks and cross back. He decided he wanted to go to the OP and the Mining. I was so scared cause I was underage but since I had a wristband from almost every bar in Mexico I said let’s go. Luckily they didn’t card me, we danced the night away and had a blast. It was a great time spent at home. I moved to LA in 2006 and Ray had moved away to Columbus / Chicago. Even tho we didn’t keep in contact that much it was like time never stopped. I randomly ran into Ray over the summer on 4th of July. It was a brief conversation but I’m so glad that it happened and we caught up. You are one of those special people who will never leave us even after you’re gone. The memory of you will always be in our hearts and we will never forget you. Love you ❤️ Miss you

Aunt Caci Valencia

February 8, 2020

My Dearest -

M - Million dollar smile
O - One of a kind
N - Never met a stranger
C - Classy
H - Handsome and boy did you know it
I - Influential

Missing you so much. You touched so many lives; however, none like mine. You left me numerous wonderful memories, smiles and contagious laughs - eternally grateful that you were a major part of my life.

Love....Aunt Caci