Jesse Dustin May

August 3, 1989January 9, 2021

Jesse D. May, 31, of Kansas City, MO, passed away January 9th, 2021.

Jesse is preceded in death by his brothers, Channing May and Isaac Zajac.

Survived by his mother, Sheila (Michael) Durham and siblings, John Hadley, Tony Vonder Haar, and Aimee Durham. Father, Michael (Rhonda) Zajac and siblings, Elisha Zajac, Jonathan Zajac, Lily Zajac, Gabrielle Zajac and Amy Whitaker. A multitude of aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews and of course his special fur babies, Sophie and Clover.

Jesse had a never ending love for the outdoors. He found inspiration in nature and thoroughly enjoyed hunting, fishing and camping. He loved creating things with his hands and coming up with ideas on how to create a better, more socially and environmentally sustainable future. The woods offered him much needed peace, his sanctuary.

Jesse attended an internship in Washington State for forestry services. He also attended classes at the Evergreen Institute in Gerald, MO. He enjoyed learning how to build Chinese greenhouses, build and use solar energy systems, even getting an honorable mention by the Founder, Dr. Dan Chiras, in his book, The Chinese Greenhouse.

He recently spent six months at the home of Dr. Dan Chiras and wife, Linda, still learning different ways of self sustainability, creating an unbreakable friendship with the Chiras’s, which he grew to love like family and who loved him as their “adopted” son. He generously gave of his time to help the Chiras’s catch up on much needed work and treated them with great kindness and a deep love they will never forget.

Jesse had a spark about him that everyone he met noticed. His humor and kindness were contagious, and he was always willing to help everyone he met.

Jesse loved fiercely, cared deeply and most importantly, he loved his family and he loved Riley.

Visitation and Funeral Services will be held on January 23, 2021 at Hillside Christian Church (900 NE Vivion Road Kansas City, MO. 64118)

Visitation from 11 AM - 1 PM; Funeral service from 1 PM - 1:45 PM Graveside services to follow at White Chapel Cemetery.


  • Michael Durham
  • John Hadley
  • David Sink
  • Elisha Zajac
  • Jonathan Zajac
  • Jay Wilson


23 January


11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Hillside Christian Church

900 NE Vivion Rd
Kansas City, MO 64118

23 January

Celebration of LIfe

1:00 pm - 2:00 pm

Hillside Christian Church

900 NE Vivion Rd
Kansas City, MO 64118

23 January

Graveside Service

2:00 pm - 2:30 pm

White Chapel Cemetery



Jesse Dustin May

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Amber Dumler

January 16, 2021

My favorite memory of Jesse was from my wedding when he caught the garter with absolute joy and was so glad he attended. He always had a smile so infectious that everyone could see for miles. He was wise beyond his years and so very smart. I love you Jess! I hope you are enjoying time with Your brothers and Granny and Papa May!

Samir Da Silva

January 15, 2021

Jesse and I worked together at Fogo de Chao during the years I lived in Kansas City (2015-2019).
Our friendship went far beyond work, we were friends in life, Jesse was incredible, loyal, always willing to help, kind and considerate.
During the years I lived in KC, we did a lot of barbecues, hunting and fishing. Jesse shared with me many of the things he knew about the forest (his greatest inspiration), especially when we met at his family's country house to hunt turkeys and deer, and warm up around the fire on cold winter nights.
It was wonderful for me and my family to meet Jesse.
Unfortunately we had to follow different paths in life because of work, but our friendship, despite the distance, remained strong.
I'm going to miss you so much, Jesse passed away very early, leaving us all heartbroken. Rest in peace and in the light my great friend, we are praying for you and your family.

Samir da Silva

Sally McCoy

January 15, 2021

Jesse was a brilliant young man. He had a heart of gold, zest for life and love of family. His passing is heartbreaking and yet knowing he is with Channing, Granny and Papa May gives me some peace. Our last conversation he was reminding life is too short for silly “stuff” 😉 and family is everything and with that he hugged me tight and whispered, “love you Aunt Sally”! Wise beyond your years, gone too soon, never to be forgotten! Aunt Sally loves you too!

Grace Golden

January 14, 2021

I remember Jesse as a fun-loving sixth grader. He loved to laugh...and talk (ha! ha!). I can still see his smiling face. He was such a good reader and loved to get lost in good books.

I'm so sorry to hear of his passing--saddens my heart! I'm praying for you all!

Sheila Durham

January 14, 2021

I can't tell you enough how much I love you and how much I will miss you. You will always be my baby boy, whom I loved unconditionally from the moment I laid eyes on you to this very moment. Please visit every chance you get. Give Channing a huge hug when you see him, tell him Momma will be there in due time.
Till we meet again.