OBITUARY

Ruth S. Charette

October 26, 1935April 4, 2019
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This Eulogy was Written by Ruth’s oldest Grand Daughter Angela, who couldn’t be here today but wanted to be apart of the celebration of Ruth’s Life.

There is so much that can be said about Ruth Charette, also known as Mom, Me Mere, and Me Mere toots. She was born in Lewiston Maine on October 26, 1935 to Albany Turcotte and Emelianne Boulay. The middle child of three Ruth could always be found riding the bike her Dad bought for $.50 or catching a flick with Jannine and Madeline. Mom was a daredevil, a trait that she passed onto her kids. Ruth, Jannine and Madeline were known as the 3 Musketeers, they would jump from the 2nd story of their building in to the snow banks below landing up to their necks. Mom was a jokester, her brother Ray recalls having to chaperone mom’s dates with dad. Mom didn’t like that or the fact that she had to miss going on dates to babysit Ray, so she would chase him around the house with a scary coconut head. Pat was her favorite sister-in-law even when she forgot she had a sister-in-law. Ruth was competitive, even when it came to having children. She’d call her sister Claudette and ask her if she was pregnant yet. They had children close together and would get together and play cards late into the night. Ruth and Bob were the God parents to her daughter Kathy. She also had a special place in the hearts of her nieces and nephews who always referred to her as “My Ma Tante Ruth”

Later, when Mom realized Bob Charette was the love of her life and soulmate. They spent their free time going to the beach, dancing at the hops, or going to the movies always being chaperoned by her baby brother Ray. Mom married Dad on April 13, 1955. They had 6 children; Tom, John, Debbie, Gary, Jim and Steve. Mom lovingly referred to us as her 6 pack. Growing up we got to spend our weekends at the beach having picnics. She was an amazing mother. She could always be found supporting Tom, John, and Steve on the little league field cheering the loudest or going over lines with Jim, encouraging him to try out for the school musical. She was always supportive of her kids. When Tom decided at 9, he was going to be a chef. He started by making breakfast for Mom and Dad, getting creative with his ingredient choices. She always made sure to tell him it was the best food she ever had. Even when her birthday cake was gray and he placed the candles on backwards making her older than she was, she never complained. When Gary would ask her why he was so small or why he wasn’t growing as big as the others, Mom would sing him his favorite song, Que, Sera, Sera and tell him big things come in small packages. She always made each one of her kids feel special even when it was a secret trip with Jim to get McDonalds while the other kids were still in school, or saving some money Dad had given her to get herself something special and buying Debbie, the only daughter, some dresses and matching tights so she would feel pretty and girly.

In 1976 Ruth and Bob moved to Arizona. They became members of OLPH, Mom joined the Ladies Guild, and Mom and Dad served as eucharistic ministers. She was a faithful member of OLPH for 43 years. She and Dad helped to form the youth group. Mom loved to help people. She would put together the layettes for the expectant mothers at the church, and she had a passion for helping those in need, especially the less fortunate. She always put others before herself especially her family. Mom can be remembered for the pride she took in her appearance. She always had on her lipstick and perfume, her earrings had to match her watch and necklace, and she always had to have an angel pin on her lapel. She never left the house without her purse, even making who ever she was with go back to her house to get it if she forgot her purse. Even if she was just going to Gary’s house for dinner, “You never know if I’ll need something out of it” she’d say, and she would always need something it never failed. Mom loved to watch movies. Steve remembers renting 3 movies hoping to finish them all in one night. Anyone who knew Mom, knows she liked to chat. She would have Steve pause the movie so they could discuss the different scenes. An hour-long movie would take all night to finish, but neither of them minded. Mom enjoyed going on late night shopping trips to Wal-Mart with her Daughter Debbie, not to buy anything but to act up on all of the aisles trying on different things and being silly. Mom was competitive another trait she passed on to her kids. Game nights were always a blast, Tina remembers playing Pictionary and when it was Mom’s turn to draw, none of her team members could figure out what she was trying to draw. Mom got so upset because she wanted to win, always. Her sense of humor didn’t end with her kids, she liked to tease their spouses too. Like pretending she didn’t know who Byron was so she could say “April Fool’s Sweetie”, or always calling Eric the wrong name, Henry. Eric isn’t an affectionate person and doesn’t like to give anyone kisses, Mom always saw it as a day to celebrate when she would finally get Eric to give her a kiss good-bye. Ruth’s 6 children blessed her with 15 grandchildren. All of whom had a special one of a kind relationship with her. She always made sure to save a spot for Bobby to sit by her feet so she could scratch his head. She always made time to go “Do Lunch” with Christina so they could have their special chats. She made sure to teach her son how to do his daughter’s hair, inspiring Jessica to later become a hairstylist so she never again had to have her hair too tight. She always listened to them, when Nicole pointed out a stuffed hanging monkey a year before her birthday, Mom remembered and surprised her with it on her 16th birthday lunch as a surprise. She stepped in to be the mother figure Alan needed when he wanted advice. She always made sure to tell Brandon how handsome he was. She always wanted the grandkids to feel special. She was there to listen to Justin when he needed advice, and got him the best thing he ever received for Christmas, a stereo system. She had the best sense of humor, Nicholas remembers how witty she was, always wanting to make everyone laugh. Just ask Jeff, Jeremy, and Jonathan; Mom could make cracking open a lobster hysterical. She loved to tease Jesse about his concrete hair. She loved talking to Ashley about when she was younger with Dad. She made sure to have Angela over for special one on one sleepovers where she taught her to say the rosary. She had a special relationship with Michael, he was the only one out of all of the grandkids to pronounce her name Me Mere and it really touched her heart. When her grandkids started having kids, she couldn’t figure out what her special great grandma name would be. Jeremy did though, she became Me Mere Toots because of him calling her toots on all her trips to Maine. She had a great love for life. She never met a stranger and she loved everyone. She always made sure the kids had goody bags on the holiday’s and a special hand-written Birthday card. They always knew which one was from her because of the stickers. When one of the kids got married, she didn’t gain an in-law, she gained another child or grandchild. Always reminding them that if they weren’t careful, she would snatch up Larry, Crystal or Jeremy. Nothing changed when she began having great-grandkids. 31 in all, she still had her inside jokes like “Peter” and her special shopping trips to Target. Now she has a great-great-granddaughter, Ayla, and a great-great-grandson on the way. She waned to make sure that singing you are my sunshine would stay a tradition. Even though she wasn’t a football fan she learned to love the Denver Broncos, watching them every Sunday from the edge of her seat, rooting them on!

Mom loved everyone, friends were considered family in her eyes. I know that everyone she met held a special place in her heart. Mom was an inspiration to all of us. I know she is up in Heaven, finally reunited with her soulmate, Bob, smiling down on all of us, proud of the legacy she left behind.

  • PALLBEARERS

  • Robert Charette
  • Jesse Charette
  • Alan Charette
  • Jessica Charette
  • Nicholas Charette
  • Brandon Charette
  • Ashley Charette
  • Justin Charette

Services

  • Visitation Tuesday, April 9, 2019
  • Rosary Service Tuesday, April 9, 2019
  • Funeral Mass Wednesday, April 10, 2019
  • Graveside Service Wednesday, April 10, 2019
REMEMBERING

Ruth S. Charette

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Thomas Charette

April 18, 2019

To assume that I am uncaring or aloof, is to misread me. I walk on the positive side of that fine line separating arrogance from an awareness of self worth. Mom, Even though I wasn't always there for you; your have been in my heart and soul forever, every day of my life you were my anchor! And still are.

Gary Charette

April 13, 2019

We love you meme're and we will miss you.

Gary Charette

April 13, 2019

We love you and we will miss you dearly meme're.

Christopher Charette

April 10, 2019

I want to start by saying when I was younger Memeŕe taught me to be faithful and loving but she also taught me that life is a gift. She told me that anything that I dream possible is possible. And if i remember correctly from a point back at my gradeschool ages she stated that when she dies she wants the people who attend to know that shes happy and with the people who come that they should leave dry eyed because she has her husband by her side. I was taught by the ones around me that life isnt mesured by years its mesured by memories and lives touched. I feel it in me to be sad for the passing of such a great role model but i also feel relief because she gets to do and see what ive only dreamt of. I know that within my life time she has set a good course for the people who she has been around. I can reminisce apon lovely innocent times like sitting below her chair while she plays with my hair. Or the silly innocent moments like those. I want to continue to cry for her, believe me i do but i know that, crying is something she wouldnt want. She had more love in her heart then most people I have met. Up there in heaven she is looking down apon all of us happy for all we have acheived in this life and that is something I know. We may not be at the point in life we wish to continue to be on but she knew what was in our hearts was pure.
I wish to close this with a quote by Abraham Lincoln "in the end its not the years in your life that matters, but the life in your years" Witten by ~ Christopher Charette

Byron Coven

April 9, 2019

When I first met Ruth, She already desided she was not going to like me. Her eldest son had been hurt by a few guys that did not treat him well. Even though I truely loved him, she told me " I was not a good match for him." I have to admit, I did not take that to well. Then about 15 years after that and a whole lot of flowers, she began to warm up to me, we moved back to Phoenix and I guess she realized Tom and I were the real thing. Slowly we started talking and being kind to one another. One day, a few years; later she told me she wanted to go to the mall and buy some new shoes. I voluntered to take her shopping for those new shoes. So I went to her house and picked her up and loaded her new scooter in my car (not an easy task). Then getting her from car to scooter (again not easy ) But, we did it. After hours of shopping, looking at every item on every shelf, in every store in the mall. We were talking and laughing the entire time, She found her cumfy shoes. She looked at me and asked " You sure these look okay?" I asked "are they comfortable?" she said "yes" to which I added," Then they look great!" On the way home from the mall, She looked at me and said " You should call me mom instead of Ruth." to that I replied, " I'm not sure I can do that, but I will try". Every time we saw each other after that, she called me sweetheart and I called her mom. The very last time she came home was April 1st, the door to the van opened and there was mom in a wheel chair, we all said "Hi Mom". In a frail weak voice she looked at Tom and pointed to me and said "who's that?" to which in shock Tom said "that's Byron" She replied " I know, April fools" Then she looked at me and said "How ya' doin sweetie?" As long as the lord keeps me, I will always cherish that moment! She was tough on me at first, but in the long run we became good friends and always joked with each other. She knew that her son and I share true love and that I would always put him and her family first. I pray that the lord has embraced her in his arms and that in heaven there is no pain, only joy, for her love and laughter are tremendous blessings for all eternity! I'm gonna miss you till we meet again.

Michael Elton

April 9, 2019

To the only woman that could ever tell me anyting and I would listen she could take me from the darkest depths of my soul to putting a smile on my face with just one look you will truly be missed your loving grandson Michael PS your one true fiance
je t'aime beaucoup😭😭😭

Jim Charette

April 9, 2019

Memere, The special way you loved us will always be remembered and cherished deep in our hearts. We love you so much, Jim, Tina, Nick, Tori , Johnny, Brandon, Alainna, Jackson, Ashley & Jason

Gary Charette

April 8, 2019

We love you Meme're

Gary Charette

April 8, 2019

We love you.

Tina Charette

April 8, 2019

Mom,

I left out the part about how much I love you! That goes without saying, but I wanted to make sure everyone else knows. I LOVE YOU and I will miss you!!

“Your Tina”

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