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Robert Patrick "Pat" Fay

April 12, 1948June 5, 2020

Robert Patrick “Pat” Fay, 72, of Argyle, Texas, with his family by his side, passed into the Light of the Lord on June 5, 2020, after losing a short but courageous battle against Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia.

Pat was born April 12, 1948, in Jackson, Michigan, to Maxwell Charles Fay and Marie Ruth (Chapin) Fay. He and his siblings enjoyed the adventure of growing up on a farm in the Jackson area. Pat said that the most fun part of his life was from 1963-1967 when he played drums and sang for a band called The Potions. During the summer of 1969, Pat played drums three times in Chicago, Illinois, for Bob Seger, just before Seger returned to college and later became famous.

Pat graduated Jackson High School in Jackson, Michigan, in 1967, then attended Northern Michigan University from 1967-1971. Following college, Pat moved to Honolulu, Hawaii, for ten years, where he was a Project Manager for James K. Bidwell & Associates, Building Contractors. Pat moved to Texas in 1984. He retired after over 22 years from the U. S. Postal Service, as a Clerk and Supervisor at the DFW mail handling facility.

Pat married Kathryn Grace (Holder) Fay, the love of his life, on September 17, 1989. They were baptized together the week before they married in 1989. They joined Cross Timbers Community Church in Argyle, Texas, in 2001. When they married, Pat took on the role of father to Jon and Gia Hopper. Pat always said that his life would be complete if he could make a difference in just one life. He made a very positive and loving impact on his grandchildren who called him “Papa”. Raising three of his grandchildren since they were babies – Jon, Layne and Kaitlynn Hopper – he was more like a father to them, and they referred to him as such.

Pat never met a stranger. That was overwhelmingly apparent in the last four weeks of his life, when so many friends came to his house to celebrate his life. He was active for the last ten years with a group of motorcycle buddies. They traveled to many places, including Big Bend, Smokey Mountains, Hill Country, Michigan, and Arkansas. He treasured their friendships. Pat’s optimism, readiness to help and sense of humor were always there to encourage and help others see a way forward in tough times. His bright spirit, stories and laughter will live on in the memories of all who knew him. Pat often used the phrase, “It is what it is.” Toward the end of his life, he changed it to, “It was what it was.”

Pat is survived by his wife of almost 31 years, Kathryn Fay; his twin brother Richard Michael Fay of Lakebay, Washington; his sister Nancy Sue Weiss (Paul), of Ann Arbor, Michigan; his brother Dr. Donald Royce Fay (Michele), of Jackson, Michigan; daughter Gia Bowens of Argyle, Texas; son Jon Hopper, Sr., of Aurora, Texas; five grandchildren, Devin and Braedon Bowens, and Jon, Layne and Kaitlynn Hopper, all of Argyle, Texas; brothers-in-law Jack Holder (Lynda Carol) of Greenville, Texas, and Steve Holder of Wichita Falls, Texas; and many nieces and nephews.

Preceded in death were his parents, Max C. and Marie Fay.

Due to public health concerns with Covid-19, there will be no visitation or funeral service. Pat wanted to be cremated, so his wishes will be honored. J. E. Foust Funeral Home is assisting the family. Rest in Peace, Pat. You were loved dearly by all and will be deeply missed.


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Robert Patrick "Pat" Fay

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Larry/Ruth Shook

June 11, 2020

Ruth and I are so sorry to hear about Pat. We have had such great times together. We have missed not seeing you both, and will always remember you and Pat and the friends you have always been. If there is anything we can do, please let us know.

Bob Sarrine

June 10, 2020

Our prayers go out to all of Pat's family and friends. He was a dear friend of mine. The Fay farm was the center of many social activities for young teens who lived around Pleasant Lake Michigan, which was a virtual paradise for me during the 60's. Pat was among a group of the nicest girls and boys that I have ever been around. Pat, his brother Mike, and his sister Sue became dear friends and our parents often played euchre at their historic farmhouse. We all attended Henrietta elementary school and Pat and I often sang songs during recess which lead to forming a band which we called the Potions. This resulted in four years of great fun playing gigs all around southeast Michigan from 1963 to 1967. Pat was a talented drummer and singer.
Many record hops were hosted at the Fay's farmhouse and we enjoyed Boy Scouts together, having many camp-outs on the ridge between the twin lakes on the farm. Several memorable hay rides were also hosted by the Fays. We were amateur rocket builders and had several launches at the Fay farm. Pat was always available when Pleasant Lake froze over to ice skate and play hockey with us. Bartlett's resort at Pleasant Lake was where we all enjoyed swimming, boating and water-sports during the wonderful summers. We discovered motorcycles together and Pat and I both built choppers ( with help from Max his welder Dad) which we rode on many road trips, some up to the Music Box in Prudenville at Houghton Lake Michigan to enjoy the outdoor summer music and girls. Pat will be missed by all of us, but his memory will forever bring a wide smile to my face!

Chuck Shean

June 9, 2020

Hanging out on the Fay farm back at twin lakes with mike and pat. Also Pheasant hunting with pat and mike and there dog duke. Remember the band playing at Bartlett resort in the battle of the bands which they won. So sorry we lost contact always in my thoughts and prayers. Chuck Shean

Ann Gawlik

June 8, 2020

Condolences to all the family, sorry for your loss .
I remember Pat as one of Sues twin brothers .

Sue Mapes Koch

June 8, 2020

RIP Pat. Deepest sympathy to his family! Remembering all the good times we had at Henrietta School at Pleasant Lake.

Kathryn Fay

June 7, 2020

My heart is breaking. You are the love of my life. I will treasure our 31 years together, especially the sailboat rides on “Faythful” and our romantic visits to Mackinac Island. I played the soundtrack to “Somewhere in Time” as we did so many times on Faythful as you were passing over. I know you heard it. I love you so very much. Thank you for my life with you. Remember to wait for me in the Light, and help me cross over when it’s my time. Put in a good word for me... 🌹

Bob Sarrine

June 7, 2020

The Potions 1965
L to R - Pat, Bob, Junior, John, Chris