Paula Lynam

December 29, 1954March 18, 2020

Mrs. Paula Stewart Lynam, 65, of Thomasville, North Carolina went home into the arms of Jesus Wednesday, March 18th, 2020. Due to the Coronavirus pandemic, an intimate and Spirit-filled committal service was held with 15 family members at 3 o’ clock Saturday, March 21 at Westminster Gardens assisted by Hanes-Lineberry Funeral Home, Greensboro. A Celebration of Life Service will be held to honor Paula and to grieve our loss when it is safe for friends and family to gather again. Details will be announced. Paula Lynam, the daughter of Douglas and June Stewart, was born in Morehead City, NC and grew up in Carteret Co. and Wilson, NC. She graduated from Fike High School and received a B.S. in Sociology from Appalachian State University. It was there that she first met her husband, Steve, and they began their life-long love story of marriage and following Jesus Christ together. After university, Paula and Steve joined One Ministries working and living in inner-city Washington, D.C. There she hosted hundreds of friends and students, who came to serve among the poorest of the poor in our nation’s capital. After almost six years in D.C., Paula and Steve spent time serving in South Africa, working for reconciliation with dear friends there. Pregnant with her first child, Paula moved to Steve’s hometown, Greensboro, to begin what she would say was her most important vocation, mothering Annelise Cora Lynam and Stewart Charles Lynam. Paula was a great mother, who prayed fervently, encouraged enthusiastically, disciplined wisely, and loved unconditionally. Paula was a founding member of Grace Community Church of Greensboro, where she served in many capacities for over 30 years. She mentored, counseled, loved, and prayed for so many, and she is a beloved part of a wider Church family throughout the southeastern United States and the world. In the last 12 years, Paula, always an antique lover and crafting enthusiast, became an entrepreneur, who built a flourishing home-furnishings business called Chartreuse Barn ( or @ChartreuseBarn on Instagram). In recent years, as the family grew to include spouses of children, maybe Paula’s second-greatest vocation began with the birth of her grandchildren, Beauden and William. She always had a gift for being present with people, but her keen attentiveness and winsome playfulness attracted those boys powerfully. Paula’s first love was God. She was not religious, but real and relational like Jesus. Starting in childhood, she was clear about her purpose in life: to love God completely, her neighbor compassionately, and herself correctly. Paula was a light, attracting others to Jesus and not to herself. She expressed Him through her unique personality. Paula’s character was kindhearted, humbly repentant, gentle-spirited, quick-witted, a steadfast lover, with strong determination and an iron-like faith. She loved God’s creatures great and small. She deeply loved her brother Rick Stewart and all of his family and her sister-in-law Carol Koontz and all of her family. She loved her many devoted friends, old and new, including her “barn family”. Paula profoundly loved her husband, Steve, throughout their 43 years of marriage in a way that blessed him and honored God. They were soulmates, who worked at their oneness and were always ready for the next adventure together in faith. In 2018, after much prayer and excellent surgery at Duke Medical Center, Paula was healed by God of borderline ovarian cancer. For almost 2 years, she tested cancer-free and became a great inspiration to so many. She radically changed her diet and exercise habits and gladly shared her growing health knowledge and faith journey. Sadly, less than one month before the time of her death, doctors discovered she had developed advanced metastatic ovarian cancer. Paula firmly believed that God is only good, yesterday, today and tomorrow. In her last days, she was greatly encouraged by prayers, family and friends, spiritual songs, and scriptures like John 14:1-16:33, Psalm 139, Isaiah 41:10, and John 11:25. Paula Lynam was preceded in death by her parents, Douglas Wade Stewart and June Russell Stewart. Paula is survived by: her husband, Steven Alan Lynam; her daughter, Annelise Lynam Cheng and husband, Jack Cheng; her son, Stewart Charles Lynam “Chad” and wife, Rachel Goans Lynam; her brother, Richard Douglas Stewart and wife, Karen Stewart; sister-in-law, Carol Lynam Koontz and husband, Bryan Koontz; and her beloved grandchildren, Beauden Allen Cheng and William Steven Lynam. Online condolences and fond memories can be sent to,, or on Instagram: @ChartreuseBarn. Charitable donations in Paula’s honor can be made to Grace Community Church, 643 W. Gate City Blvd., Greensboro, NC 27403, or online at


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Mandy Lane Kinney

March 29, 2020

Wishing You Steve, your family and all whom Paula touched, Peace beyond understanding and the hole in our hearts to be filled with wonderful memories and His Love.

Jill Simons

March 27, 2020

Steve and family, I greatly enjoyed getting to know y’all at Chartreuse. Paula was lovely to see each time I visited. I pray God’s peace and comfort come to you as you grieve her loss.

Rick Schwendiman

March 27, 2020

So sorry to hear the news. Paula had a way of making you feel like a long-time friend from nearly the first time we went to the barn. Always so gracious with a barn warming smile. We will miss her dearly. Our best to you and the family Steve.

Rick & Renee Schwendiman

Carnell Lamm

March 27, 2020

I was saddened to learn of Paula’s declining health and passing. Reflecting back to our high school days, I recall many wonderful times. Paula was a special person and I am glad she led her adult life the same way. May the Lord watch over the Lynam and Stewart families from this day forward.
Carnell Lamm

Allen & Affie Ray

March 27, 2020

Allen and I offer our condolences to you and your family. We have fond memories of Paula as a dear friend and lover of Jesus.
We send our love and friendship.
with affection,
Allen and Affie Ray

Vicki M Barrier

March 26, 2020

Paula was one of the finest people I have had the privilege to meet over 30 yrs ago. She always stood on her faith and was a powerful witness to me. Sending prayers for the peace and healing that God’s love brings... ❤️

Anne Loflin

March 26, 2020

I just sat behind Steve and Paula at Grace last month, and noticed that, as always, Paula was greeting all those around her and reaching out to those she had not met yet. I distinctly remember thinking how glad I was to see her and Steve together and enjoying the worship together since Steve had so often led worship in the past. I'm grateful for that last glimpse of Paula and look forward to seeing her "in her full glory" the next time. Much love to all of Paula's dear loved ones, Anne and Byron Loflin

Lori Gray

March 26, 2020

Dear Steve and family, So hard to grasp. Knowing where she is and celebrating her life brings little comfort to me. My heart is heavy as I type and ponder her memory. So I guess no words will be written here,but hope to celebrate her life with y’all at the appropriate time. My love and heart goes out to all of you!Lori Gray

Bill Lusk

March 26, 2020

I know Paula and Steve very tangentially first meeting them at their store on Merritt. Occasionally my wife and I would stop in at the store and later the barn and we were always struck by the brightness and warmth of Paula. Somehow she remembered us and our names though we infrequently saw one another. When I saw the sad news of Paula’s passing I came to this site and in reading the obituary and comments from Paula’s friends I see that Paula made equally great impressions on many people throughout her life as she did on my wife and me. I’m sorry to hear Paula has passed and for the family’s loss.

Beth Moore

March 26, 2020

Although I’ve known Paula for many years, it was only in the past year, on our trip to Israel, that I came to know her more intimately. Her gentle spirit and sweet smile was always present. As we sat near each other, every day on the bus, as couples, we shared worship, laughter and our hearts. Just like Jesus, she welcomed us in, with open arms.
Until we meet again, dear sister, I’ll treasure what God gave, in the gift of your friendship❤️