Melanie L Yildizlar

January 8, 1968March 27, 2013

Melanie Yildizlar, Loving Wife & Mother Dies at age 45

Melanie Lyn Clay Yildizlar, long time resident of Greenwich CT, died after a long and courageous battle with cancer on March 27, 2013 at Calvary Hospital in the Bronx.

Melanie was born on January 8, 1968 in New Haven CT to parents Richard A Clay (deceased) and Mary Negley Clay. She attended Pulaski elementary school and Liverpool High School in NY. Melanie also attended Bosphorus University in Istanbul Turkey, and graduated from Hunter College (NYC) on May 1994 with a Bachelor's degree in English.

Melanie resided in Pulaski NY, Syracuse NY, Istanbul Turkey, London England, Manhattan NY before settling in Greenwich CT in 1997.

Melanie was known for her bright smile and her love of family and friends. She had a generous nature and was a good listener. She was warm and gracious and loved life. She was a leader in advocating for the Yildizlar Education Fund and Connecticut Women against Gun Violence. She also pursued her faith as an active participant in bible study.

She is predeceased by her father Rev. Richard A Clay (survived by Jacqueline). She is survived by her husband Matt H Yildizlar of Greenwich CT, her children Alara Kay Yildizlar and Andrew Melih Yildizlar, her mother Mary Negley Clay of Syracuse NY, sisters Melissa A Clay (engaged to Tom Towne), Amy Clay Bartolotta (Peter Bartolotta), sister-in-law Oya Noyan (Necati Tunc Noyan).

Service: Monday April 1, 2013 at 11 am at Christ Episcopal Church 254 E Putnam Ave Greenwich CT, burial following at St Mary’s Putnam Cemetery with light reception to follow at L’Escale in Greenwich at 1 pm.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks for donations to be made to the University of Buffalo Foundation, via the following secure website: Contributors are encouraged to reference Melanie's name and/or the Yildizlar Education Fund in the box titled "In Honor of / Memory of".

The family thanks all friends and extended family for their love and support during Melanie’s long fight. To leave an online condolence please visit


  • Funeral Service Monday, April 1, 2013
  • Graveside Service Monday, April 1, 2013

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Selim Barlas

April 16, 2013

Dayicim, acimiz çok büyük. Hergün yasiyor animsiyoruz. Melanie hayat dolu neseli bir insandi. Gözlerindeki isik herkesi aydinlatabilecek moral verebilecek düzeydeydi. Dualarimiz sizinle, çocuklarida çok öpüyorum.

April 12, 2013

Sevgili Ahmet,kaybin için çok üzgünüm, sana ve evlatlarina büyük aciniz için bassagligi ve sabirlar dilerim. Dünyalar güzeli sevgili Melanie'nin mekani cennet olsun. Nur içinde yatsin.
Didem Erenyol

Anne Gould Zaccheo

April 9, 2013

I am so very sorry to learn of Melanie's passing- we were best friends in the 1st grade class at Pulaski Elementary School and did exchange a few letters several years ago. My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.

April 8, 2013

Sevgili Ahmet,acininizi buyuk bir uzuntuyle paylasiyoruz,evlatlarina ve sana sabirlar diliyoruz.Sevgili Melanie ye dualarimizi yolluyoruz huzur icinde yatsin...
Hale&Tangor Arutan

Stefani and Leonard Shavel

April 5, 2013

Dear Matt, Alara and Andrew,

We are so very saddened by Melanie's passing. A wonderful person in many ways, her loss is felt deeply within our community and among everyone fortunate enough to know her.

With sincere condolences to you and your family,

Barbara Soper

April 3, 2013

Dear Clay Family - I was so sad to hear of Melanie's death. I am not sure you would remember but we would carpool together for dance class. Please know I am praying for all of you during this time of extreme sadness. I am most certain that the impact Melanie has made on this world will continue on forever. With loving prayers, Barbara (Cummings) Soper

Kirk Kinnear

April 3, 2013

Dear Matt, Alara and Andrew, Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your wife and mom. Reflecting back on a remarkable life cut way too short, it was clear from the first time we met on Birchwood, that Melanie was just one of those rare people who could light up a whole room just by entering it. We'll never forget her smile, her vibrant eyes and her caring nature, but most of all, her famous "Hello Kinnears" phone messages that were nothing short of amazing! They would go on for minutes, but we were compelled to listen to the whole thing because they never get old. We look up to your entire family for the courage you have all shown through these tough years, battling this unfair disease with class and dignity.

We miss you big already Mel, but like the message spelled out on your license plate, “See-U”… we all will again, in a better place.

Alejandra Wortman (Lopez)

April 3, 2013

Our thoughts are with you in this moment. Wishing you strength and comfort during these trying times. We'll always cherish Melanie's great smile and kindness, during our years when our sons attended King School.

April 2, 2013

The gorgeousness of Melanie - from her smile, and lovely eyes to the warmth of her personality. I always loved our conversations - she took a deep interest in all I said and that was memorable - she was a listener, a stand out mother and wife and a woman of great style and beauty. We knew one another as parents at King School in Stamford and quite simply, she was someone who brightened the day. One could have been envious of her beauty but that was never the case because Melanie was the real deal in terms of a depth of personality and making everyone feel that they were important to her. No pretenses or superficial stuff.
With heartfelt condolences to her family - please know she touched so many who knew her,

Lynn Villency Cohen

April 2, 2013

Sevgili Ahmet;Alara ve Andrew;Melanie'nin güzel yüzünü hiç unutmiyacagim.O'na yattigi yerde huzur dilerkensizlere büyük sabirlar diliyorum
Nursel Hacikulaoglu