Jimmy, my love,
we raise a glass to you on your birthday. Your spirit lives on in the incredible family you built and were so proud of, and in the joy you gave so freely. In every laugh around the table, in every story retold, you are right here with us. Always loved, always ours. 👑

Thinking of our superman on his birthday -- number 79. You'd be so proud of all your grandkids and mom, and your kids too :) Kolette loves her grandpa Jim, wish we could celebrate with you but know we're toasting you today and always.

Last summer at the CORNELL reunion I learned of Jim’s passing.
We were fraternity brothers and shared a house in our senior year.
I am very sorry for this loss 
My condolences to family and friends 

I was looking through my contacts and decided I needed to call Jim. It had been some time since we had spoken and I had a client looking with a great idea looking for advice. I googled Jim and saw this. He was a great guy who I worked with for many years at various companies. My condolences to you all. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Dear Kathy and Kody, I just heard about Jim 's passing. Please accept my sincerest condolences. Kody, I know how much you loved your Dad and how much he loved you. Keep your chin up and continue making him proud as he will always be watching over you. Kathy, I know you must be devastated, but you are a strong woman and will be fine one day. I always remember how much in love the two of you were, so much so that you met and married almost immediately, and stayed together until the end. You, Kody and all of Jim 's family will be in my prayers. Angie Hunt  14/2/2015 xxx

Thinking of you, Love Cousin Shelley Jacobs

Frater Gurf...My old fraternity brother who many of us looked up to. I was so shocked and sorry to hear about this. My condolences to all of you.
Richard Barron, Chatham, NJ

A very special man has left us way too soon and we are all blessed to have known him...Jim, you are surely missed. My deepest sympathies to his entire family...

Dear Kathy and Kody,
I just heard this weekend that Jim had passed and feel deeply saddened by his loss. He was a kindred spirit and a real prince among men. Every time I saw Jim he beamed with genuine warmth and generosity of spirit. He always spoke of his family and friends with love, admiration, and devotion. I admired and respected him. Though we spoke infrequently, I felt that he was a real friend and one of my favorite people. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there is ever anything I can do for you and Kody. My thoughts and prayers are with you...

We loved Jimmy. Knowing him as a friend and second-father to our daughter Alli was an incredible gift to our family. Jim was uniquely kind and thoughtful, generous and compassionate to his loved ones. We were blessed to have known him and called him our friend. His memory lives on and brings a smile to our faces just thinking of the fine man, father, friend and husband that he was. He will remain forever in our hearts and will be shining brightly in the stars above.

My condolences to the family and to their tragic loss.
From your cousin, Bobby Dagny

Dear  Kathy , kody Scott and Heather , 
My thoughts and prayers are with you . Your father and husband loved you so much .  He will always be in your hearts . He had the best family that kept him fighting for four years . Your love for him will keep you strong . Lean on each other for strength . Kathy I will be home soon .  Jim was special as are you . I love you Ellen porzio

Dear Kathy ,Kody,Scot and heather
Our entre family was saddened with the passing of Jim. 
I spoke to him a few short weeks ago about him coming to 
florida to play golf with me. he was so looking forward to his visit and I was so looking forward to to him coming.  Jim was so giving to my family particularly  Johnny whom he helped with his college internship. 
The last words that we had as we made golf dates was that he felt sorry that we hadn't spent as much time together as in the past. He  told me he loved me and I told him I loved him. We had a very special relationship . I will miss him greatly . 
                    With love  John Porzio

We were deeply saddened by Jim's passing. He was a wonderful man who left us too soon. We are grateful for the times we shared with him and will remember him always. May his family find comfort in the days ahead knowing he was so loved.

I just learned of Jimmy's passing when I was leaving him a birthday message. I grew up with Jimmy and sat in front of him and his family at temple Israel for probably more than 18 Years. The last time I saw him was at our 40th  SHS reunion.. I was so looking forward to seeing him again at our 50th next year? 
I am shocked and so very saddened by this loss.

The greatest time of my life was at Camp All America, and my roommate was James.  He was the reason I moved to Scarsdale, and I owe the fond memories of my childhood to Jimmy! He was kind and generous and this grieves me to the bone.  The world around us will suffer without his great smile and energy.We sang in a talent show together at camp, and I sing the song we sang often, and can't help but think of his unbelievable talents everytime.

If his children want to know of a song he wrote, I would be honored to send it to them.  God bless him and all of his family.

I just learned the news when I went to Cousin Jim's FB page to wish him a happy birthday. This day is the 8th yarzheit of my husband Richard de Revere, who passed at age 61. May you be comforted by the many good memories so they are a blessing that will make you smile.

Jim will be dearly missed by all the staff at Rye Golf Club. I know that no matter what the condition of the course, Jim never had a disparaging word to say. He brightened my days while at work and will be truely missed. The service was very moving and you could feel the love in the room for the man.

Dearest Kathy and Kody,
  We are deeply saddened to hear of Jim's passing. Although we had not seen you in several years, we were always reminded of you through your beautiful Christmas cards. It was always wonderful to receive them.
     Jim was a wonderful, bright, caring and likable person. Above all, both of you were his life and he was always there to love and protect you.  It was obvious to all how much he loved both of you. He was well liked because he was always honest and true, and it was so easy to get to know him. We cannot tell you how shocked we were with this news. We're sure your hearts are broken and there are no real words of consolation. Kathy and Kody, we cannot imagine you both without Jimmy by your sides. He was such a source of strength to both of you. I know you are both strong women, but you must feel so lost without him. 
   If you need anything at all, please don't hesitate to call. At times like these, we need people to lean on and help us through. We are here for you always.
Love,
Flo and Bob Mackey

Kathy, Kody, Heather & Scott, 
I was so sad to learn of your Dad's passing. Your dad is my first cousin. Your grandmother Ruthe was my mother's (Buddy) sister. As a kid growing up cousin Jim was like a big brother to me. He loomed large and was a superstar. A football player, great student, handsome and personable. My mom gave me the same middle name. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

David James Schwartz

Kody and Kathy -
I am thinking of you through this difficult time and my heart goes out to you.  I will remember Jim for his well-timed humor and wonderful smile. He was such a caring, sharp, friendly, funny guy. He will truly be missed by us all.

Jim
You will live on in all of us you have touched with your generousity, warmth, gentleness, kind spirit, intellect and friendship. Thank you for embracing Lisa into your family and for being such a tremendous source of love, support and strength for her.I wish you could have seen the smile on her face when you spoke with her on Friday, March 15, 2013 Match Day! I so much appreciate the love and friendship extended to Kim, too! How lucky am I that my girls have had the opportunity to experience a man of your caliber and felt the love from your incredible family.From the very first time we met you, Kathy and Kody,it seemed as though we had known eachother for years.
Kathy, you are such a beautiful, special, strong, intelligent, kind and loving woman. I admire you so much and know that you are so fortunate to have been loved so much. Your daughter, Kody, is also an incredible woman. A product of you both.I thank you for embracing my Lisa and for being such a temendous source of support. 
Kody, 
You are such an important member of our family and we love you so much! You are such an incredible woman and possess all of the qualities of your parents.Your Dad was so fortunate to have such a loving and dedicated daughter.  I know that your Dad will be with you forever. He is in your heart and soul and your essence. Hold all of your memories close to your heart and you will always feel him with you. 
All my love, Karen

Jim was such a special man and his spirit and zest for life will be remembered by so many. Thinking of your family and sending you giant, bully-worthy hugs. xoxo, Jillian & Gale Kelleher

Kathy, Kody and Family, 
Jim was obviously a very special man and dearly cared for by many. Pam and I will always cherish the memories of those great visits we had with him at Cornell, and please know our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Love,
Pam and Jim Dew

Our hearts go out to you Kathy, Kody, Scott and Heather at this very sad time.  Jim was a star and carried on an extraordinary battle over the last four years with such grace that an outsider would never have known he was ill.  Our love and thoughts are with you all.  Clive, Patricia, Keith and Robyn Calder

When Jim was present, he gave real meaning to the term "good fellowship." He is remembered fondly.

For my dear Cousin Jimmy...I will always remember the firecrackers in the woods.  My sympathy to your lovely family.  You were always so sweet and kind to me when we were kids.  I will hold thoughts of you and yours in my heart....to a joyful afterlife.  All my love, Cousin Shelley (Jacobs)

For my dear Cousin Jimmy...I will always remember the firecrackers in the woods.  You were so sweet and kind always to me.  I wish you a joyful afterlife...My thoughts go out to your family...Love Cousin Shelley (Jacobs)

Deeply saddened by this news. We assisted MediaSpa with corporate immigration. He was a pleasure to work with always.

i was so sorry to hear about jimmy. our mothers were sisters. jimmy was one of my favorite cousins. we always enjoyed going to scarsdale to visit their lovely home. he gave me all his old 45's.he put the record player on his patio and a stack of records and that is when i first listened to rockin'roll. i will really miss him.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know losing a loved one is hard to go through. I will keep you all in my prayers. May you draw close to God.

All our love to the Gurfein Family. Jim was a hero to the Fixler-Wexler Family. Kody has always been a huge source of comfort and support.

Love,

Rona Wexler

Kathy,Kody,Scott and Heather the loss of your Dad, my friend, is so sad for all of you.He was a great friend,father and husband and your loss is so hard to deal with I am sure.
I spent much time with Jimmy  on the golf course as well out socially and enjoyed every minute of it.Being his friend was one of the  greatest rewards I will ever have and I will miss my friend .
Mark Twain said"Golf spoils a great walk" I can tell you that Maek Twain never played gold with Jim, because if he did he would never have said it.
Sincerely and with a heavy heart
Ken Denslow.

Dear Kathy,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.

Hi Kody,
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your family. I'm sending my thoughts and much love your way from the west coast. Your dad raised an awesome daughter.
Best,
Tyson

Suz and I send our love and prayers. Kody, we never had the pleasure of meeting your father, but we know what a wonderful man he was by the daughter who will carry his memory and legacy for years to come. With all our love, Suzi and Jon Pessah

Jim, you will be forever missed. Your strength and grace even at the most difficult times were matched only by your love, compassion and generosity. You loved and embraced everyone who came into your life, and I feel very lucky to have been one of those people. Your spirit lives on in your children and wife, who I know you are so very proud of.

with you in this hard time he was a great person will be missed by many and I am sure will be with you from up above

So sad to hear this, I worked for Jim for about 8 years, he was a wonderful boss, and amazing person. He will be missed by all who knew him

Kathy, Jim's contribution to this world has been immense. His smile, and big personality, will be sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. God Bless you and your family. With love, Michael Perry

So sad to hear this tragic news. I will always remember Jim as a great colleague and friend. Sincere condolences to his family.
Rick Cohen

I love you, Dad. You will always be with me. Wherever love is, we will find you. You are my hero. A turtle.

I love you, Dad. You remain on this earth  through those who love you -wherever there is love, I will find you.

I am so terribly sorry to hear about Jim.
I only met him on one occasion, a sad one for both of us. I have been thinking and worrying about him since that day in October 2009. He was one of the most memorable of persons. My sympathy to Kathy and the family

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Stuart James Gurfein

March 24, 1947 – March 17, 2013

Leo P. Gallagher & Son Funeral Home

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