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Harold W Miller-Calvente

November 2, 1945June 13, 2021
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Lone wolf poet, retired middle school English teacher, and ESL college instructor, Harold “Billy” / “Big Dog” Miller – Calvente, went home to be with his Father in heaven. He left this realm on Sunday, June 13th, 2021 at age 75. His fighting spirit, courage, and strength during his battle with multiple illnesses has inspired us.

Harold was born to Esther Miller (nee Calvente) and Harold W. Miller Sr. on 11/02/1945 in Lake Forest, Illinois. He grew up in North Chicago, IL with three sisters Marilyn, Marla, and Elizabeth (Lisa). He married Denice Miholic on September 6th, 1969 and resided in Carbondale, Murphysboro, and Cairo while attending SIU-C, where he received a BA in Political Science and a teaching certificate in Secondary Education. He resided in North Chicago, Libertyville, and Gurnee, IL after college. He taught in Waukegan at Webster MS and in Grayslake at the College of Lake County.

In 1976 Harold became the adoring father of a daughter, Felicita, and in 1978 his son Joseph was born. He was so proud of his three grandsons, Caleb, David, and Matthew, that he said, “I could shout it from the mountaintops.” Harold left a lasting impact on his students and colleagues. His former principal described him as “a great friend, scholar, and gentleman.” He had a love of music, poetry, performing arts, as well as intellectual reading and conversations. He was an avid Chicago sports fan, and he was an assistant coach for baseball, basketball, and football teams.

The last decade of his life brought him a renewal of faith in his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, which was the center of his life and brought him peace, acceptance, and purpose. His church home was Gurnee Community Church where he enjoyed fellowship and spiritual growth.

Harold was preceded in death by his maternal grandmother Felicita Calvente Sanchez, his parents Esther C Day and Harold Miller, his beloved aunt and uncle Carmen and Dick Iversen and his brother-in-law, Miguel Pascal.

He is survived by his daughter Felicita Laoang, his son Joseph (Jinghuei) Calvente, and his grandsons Caleb Laoang, David Calvente, and Matthew Calvente. He is also survived by his siblings Marylyn Miller, Marla Miller, and Lisa (David) Nyquist. Additionally, he’s survived by his deeply loved sweetheart Desiree “Desi” Craig, his dear friend Denice (CR) Williams, and their children Robert and Lynnea. Finally, he’s survived by numerous cousins, notably Debbie (Gary) Petric. A visitation will be held at Marsh Funeral Home in Gurnee, IL on Sunday, June 27th from 1:30 – 4:30 pm with a memorial service starting at 3:00.

Donations to Harold’s favorite charities can be made to the following: American Heart Association, American Diabetes Association, National Wildlife Federation, or St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.

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  • Visitation

    Sunday, June 27, 2021

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Denice Williams

July 2, 2021

In 1967 a shy, artistic 18 year old girl met a sincere, quirky college student. They began a friendship and bonded over a mutual love of family, art and education, and a passion for social issues/justice.
In 1969 they married.
That girl was me. My 12 years living with Billy were some of the happiest, sweetest years of my life. He encouraged me to further my education and helped me gain the confidence I needed to enroll in college. We experienced a lot of adventures filled with love, fun and laughter as we earned our college degrees and started a family.
Billy was my calm, able coach during two home births. During the second labor, Billy was the person who delivered our son, when the doctor was delayed. A great accomplishment.
While we overcame many challenges in our marriage it didn’t survive the stress and strain of life. However, as we coparented over the years, we somehow managed to rekindle a reassuring relationship and the playful rapport we once had with one another. Still waters run deep. Our friendship was a constant in a tumultuous world.
Billy may have been a bit bruised by life’s battles and weakened by a variety of illnesses, but he fought hard to be active and find meaning In life. He was rewarded by retiring from a successful career and receiving a renewal of faith and love in his final years.
I will always have a place in my heart for the exuberant guy who loved, supported and believed in me in our youth and still loved and appreciated me til the end.
Well done good and faithful servant.
You left this world a better place. You loved and were loved. No one can ask for more.

Denice Williams

July 2, 2021

In 1967 a shy, artistic 18 year old girl met a sincere, quirky college student. They began a friendship and bonded over a mutual love of family art and education, and a passion for social issues/justice.
In 1969 they married.
That girl was me. My 12 years living w Billy were some of the happiest, sweetest years of my life. He encouraged me to further my education and helped me gain the confidence I needed to be successful in college. We experienced a lot of adventures filled with love, fun and laughter as we earned our college degrees and started a family.
Billy was my calm, able coach during two home births. During the second labor, Billy was the person who delivered our son, when the doctor was delayed. A great accomplishment.
While we overcame many challenges in our marriage it didn’t survive the stress and strain of life. However, as we coparented over the years, we somehow managed to rekindle a reassuring relationship and the playful rapport we once had with one another. Still waters run deep. Our friendship was a constant in a tumultuous world.
Billy may have been a bit bruised by life’s battles and weakened by a variety of illnesses, but he fought hard to be active and find meaning In life. He was rewarded by retiring from a successful career and receiving a renewal of faith and love in his final years.
I will always have a place in my heart for the exuberant guy who loved, supported and believed in me in our youth and still loved and appreciated me til the end.
Well done good and faithful servant.
You left this world a better place. You loved and were loved. No one can ask for more.

Marylyn Miller

June 28, 2021

He had a great job as a probation officer in Waukegan where he could have a positive effect on the two things that always angered him, society’s injustice and unfairness. I asked him one day if I could go to work with him. I was surprised at how much responsibility and influence he had over the offenders’ lives. He put them at ease while he interviewed them. He did not judge them. He did not carelessly jump to conclusions. He never made them feel that their lives didn’t matter. It was his job to write a recommendation whether they would receive probation or go to jail before their trials. I could tell they were relieved when they realized that he wanted to help them and that he really cared. I was so impressed with him, with his professionalism, and his kindness. I was very proud of him.

I loved my brother. We talked on the phone a lot, discussing brother and sister business, including his reading one of his poems or two or perhaps three before saying goodnight. I will miss him.

Dennis Iversen

June 25, 2021

Joseph and Feli

So sorry for losing your dad. Although my dad passed away around six years ago I still think about him and miss him. Cherish the times when your dad comes to mind.

Moving away to Arizona meant I did not have the opportunity to see Billy as much as I would have liked. I remember after going to Puerto Rico with my family and paying respect to our grandma, Mama, I talked to Billy. He impressed me how much he knew about the island. He was very bright and he passed that on to you guys.

One way to evaluate someone is by looking at their children. Billy and Denice did a great job of raising you guys and you passed that on to your kids Caleb, David and Matthew. Feli always remembered my granddaughter at Christmas and I appreciated her helping my mom later in life.

Sorry I can not be there for the funeral. Fond memories of Billy and you guys is something I will cherish and look forward to when our paths cross again.

Love
Dennis

Janice Rivera Calvente

June 25, 2021

Rest in peace, cousin Billy. Our hearts and prayers be with our family. Our deepest sympathy from Puerto Rico.

Marla Miller

June 25, 2021

Feli and Joseph,

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Your dad was a special person, misunderstood by some, but loved by many.

My brother was my nemesis when I was growing up, always trying to make me mad by constantly teasing me and pulling my hair. Because he was bigger than me, I was afraid to fight back, both verbally and physically. My reaction was just to cry. When I did that, he made me swear I wouldn't tell our mother about our confrontation, probably afraid that she would punish him (she never ever did).

I believe Billy was seven years old, and I was five and a half when the following incident occurred. One day, my boiling point reached its limit. I was so frustrated with him that I knocked him on the side of the head with one of my toys. Unfortunately, it was a small iron made of sturdy metal, which caused a three-inch gash that bled profusely. Billy was rushed to the hospital for stitches, and Mom gave me the only spanking I've ever had in my life. On the positive side, Billy gave up on "torturing" me, and we lived a fairly compatible childhood after that.

You're on in my thoughts, dear niece and nephew. COVID-19 restrictions on flights to the US from Spain, make it impossible for me to be with you on Sunday.

Love,
Marla

Kimberley Diehl

June 17, 2021

I wanted to share my condolences with Harolds family and friends. I knew Harold from Gurnee Community Church. May Harold rest in God's eternal peace. I know he's keeping everyone on their toes up there!

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