OBITUARY

Neil Alan McIlveen

July 17, 1946May 2, 2021

It is with sad hearts that we announce the passing of Neil McIlveen on Sunday May 2, 2021.

Neil is predeceased by his parents, Eileen and Verdun “Star” McIlveen of Hamilton, Ontario. Neil will be greatly missed by his siblings, Dennis McIlveen (predeceased by Barbara), Ann Marie (Brian) Burnside, and Beth McIlveen Nobes. He greatly enjoyed and admired his sister-in-law, Barbara, and he has missed her very much over the past four years. Neil was very close to his nieces and nephews, Darlene, Linda (Eric), Suzy, Nancy (Philip), Casey, Brianne (Mike), Caitlin (Michael), and Peggy. Brianne and Darlene had special friendships with their Uncle Neil. And he was adored by Isis, Deacon, Serena, Finesse, Josie, Abbie, Kylie, Vanessa, and Natalie who are his grandnieces and grandnephew. In a lot of ways, Neil was a big kid himself, looking for fun and adventures.

Neil's life was filled with wonderful friends, many of whom he adopted as his family. He was loved and he will be missed by Bob and Lee Cooper and their families, his friend and “brother” Wayne and Debi Inglehart, as well as Nova and her family, Krista, Jenna (god-daughter) and Jack. Neil will be missed by many long-time friends, such as Larry Broughton, John French, Ed and Pauline Stavnitzky, Wayne Young, and by Joanne and Phil Beard.

Neil worked as an electrician and at Ford, until he pursued his true calling as a high school teacher. He was an amazing teacher who made important connections with students and who advocated for students. He was passionate about the students and staff at Barton Secondary School, where he made lifelong friends with both students and staff alike.

Neil is well-known as a coach of basketball, soccer, football, track & field, and many other clubs and activities associated with schools, and at the city, regional and provincial levels, He celebrated athletes and their successes, both large and small, just as he celebrated their contributions to their families and their communities. He prized loyalty and good character.

Neil wove himself into our hearts, as he wove and crafted his many stories and tales. He was an enthusiastic and expert storyteller, with an amazing historical knowledge, and a deep understanding of the world around him. Amazingly, his narratives and memories could build, grow, and change, with each of the tellings! He could be opinionated, infuriating, and stubborn - but never hurtful. He was informative and always delightful.

He loved his family and friends, and he found ways to enjoy everyday activities, travelling, and wonderful adventures with them. Many of his happiest memories were at the cottage on Georgian Bay, where he entertained family and friends with magic tricks, waterskiing, creative stories, games, boat trips, and endless car rides. He truly was “the entertainment.”

Neil loved dining out, and travelling, and talking to his friends on the phone. After his retirement, he enjoyed spending his winter months in Florida, where he could enjoy being with family and friends. Neil was a dedicated North Carolina University basketball fan! His friends and family were swept up in his enthusiasm for his Tar Heels basketball teams. (Go, Heels!)

Neil was generous with his resources and time. Over the years he helped build things, and fix things, and move things, and he supported people in whatever ways that he could. He surprised people with little gifts, and enjoyed being invited to family events and celebrations. He had health challenges over the years, and he worked to maintain his independence and daily activities.

At this time, COVID-19 restrictions prevent gatherings. It was his wish that he would have a BIG party to celebrate his life with family and friends, which we will do when it is safe. Please get vaccinated and please be safe.

We are unfortunately separated at this time, but we grieve together. And we know that we were so fortunate to be in Neil’s big, big, heart.

Services

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Memories

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Wayne/Debi Inglehart

May 31, 2021

How do you remember a true friend & brother?
You plant his beloved Trilliums
Three green leaves
Three white petals
Three red berries

Three trilliums planted in our first garden @ our new home, just for you 💕

Norman Yeates

May 29, 2021

I worked with Neil for many years at Ford and Neil was always an upbeat guy and fun to be with. I also found out along the way that he was related to my wife Susan McCrudden and we spent a couple of days with him on Beausoleil Island.

Beth McIlveen Nobes

May 28, 2021

Hey Bro,

Thank you. That's it really. Thanks for
- my boxes of Canadian treats
- driving me to Guelph
- working with Dennis to move me to Guelph, around Guelph and home from Guelph - a multi-year project
- paying me to mow your lawn badly
- explaining WWII in a way that I never forgot
- taking Miriam and I and some guy I can't remember to Atlantic City to experience it before it changed forever
- the awesome book of Dad's letters that you made with Brianne
- collecting me at the train station dozens of times
- keeping that secret, you know the one.
- being so conscious of how far away I am and how that would feel
- working so hard to protect me from the knowledge of what was happening to your health
- never trash talking anyone. Always being understanding and loving about all of us.
- always seeing me as your little sister but still respecting me as an adult. That is a hard line to walk and you did it effortlessly
- never letting a story be too short
- helping with the boat Ann-Marie and I bought that we knew nothing about
- walking me down the aisle
- being a warm hearting caring man who taught us a lot about loving gracefully and with humour.

I will miss you forever. Keep an eye on me please.

Love,

Beth

Elliot Codispodi

May 17, 2021

Mr. Mac was the best teacher. Moreover he was my coach, mentor, and friend. I learned so much in the class, studio, edit booth, on the track, and on the road. Mostly I will remember what a good man he was. Big heart, quick to laugh, share a story, or offer advice.
Your memory will live on.

Paula LaPorta

May 17, 2021

To our beloved McIlveen family. Mario and I are so sorry to hear of the sudden passing of Uncle Neil. He was great at making us feel like part of the family with his warm-hearted spirit and permanent smile. We got to know him better during our visits in Kissimmee. He was always ready to dispense a valuable piece of advice or a helping hand. I was taken by his exceptional level of support and commitment to his McIlveen neices and their children. Uncle Neil could be counted on to show up! I remember watching Kylie's soccer games together while Suzy was busy coaching her team. I know you will all miss Neil terribly. My heart and prayers go out to you at this difficult time. With love and deepest sympathies, Paula, Mario, Jason, Danielle and Adam. XOXO

Paula Crumbley

May 15, 2021

Remembering the extended McIveen family at this time, and thinking with such fondness of Neil's movie nights and Camp Wanaketa. He was a treasure, always kind and thinking of others. He was a joy to be around, certainly a man with a big heart! Neil made my high school years that much more enjoyable, and I was blessed to share his company - Paula Morgan

Heather Moffat

May 14, 2021

Like others, I cherish the Wanakita trips, winter broomball was a hoot! I also remember Neil picking up a load of us in his van and we'd cruise around having a ton of laughs. As a coach, I appreciated his patience and sense of fairness. Many fond memories. xo

Darlene McIlveen

May 14, 2021

Braaaaaaa -awwwwwk - leeeeeee?!?
(“Broccoli “ said with distaste!)
No, thanks! 😊

Krista Bradley

May 13, 2021

Sweet Neil. You gave so much of yourself to everyone without a second thought. Rest well, knowing you made such a positive impact on so many people’s lives. Every time we went somewhere, we would inevitably run into one of your students. (I hope you’re smiling somewhere knowing that it’s still happening.) You were my biggest supporter and your love and loyalty was unwavering. You made my family your own, and we loved having you as a part of ours. You were the family we chose. Thank you for teaching me so many things- you encouraged me to travel and go back to school, you taught both me AND my daughter how to drive, you taught Jack all about history & weapons. But most importantly, you taught me that if a burger has lettuce & tomato, it’s technically a salad!
I love you and miss you terribly, my friend. Until we meet again. xo

Isis Lunsky

May 13, 2021

When I think of Neil, I think of family. He was always a light at every Christmas dinner, spontaneous gathering, and trip to the cottage, and I cannot thank him enough for how connected he helped me feel to my family. Whether it was showing me how to fold an origami swan (a skill I still remember to this day) or taking me for pancake breakfasts when school got to be hectic, I’ll treasure and hold the memories he gave me forever. His laugh filled a room, and he could always make a person feel welcome. I’ll miss you and love you so dearly, Uncle Neil.

Love always.
Isis xoxo

FROM THE FAMILY