Sechrest Funeral Service

1301 East Lexington Ave, High Point, NC


Bonnie Gayle Dykes Lavender

November 10, 1951August 21, 2020

Bonnie Gayle Dykes Lavender, devoted wife, sister, aunt and friend, passed away, Friday, August 21, 2020, at the age of 68. Bonnie was born on November 10, 1951, in Welch, WV, the youngest of five children, to Julius and Rosa Lee Dykes. In 1969, she met and married her soul mate of the last 51 years, Wallace Lavender. Bonnie earned her undergraduate in Business from Concord University and her Master’s in Counseling at Marshall University. For 28 years, she joyfully served her community and her “kids” in McDowell County, WV, as their mentor, teacher, and guidance counselor. She was also the Coordinator for their Drug Free Schools Program, where she wrote many grants that provided funds and resources for the students. She retired in 2004 and relocated to High Point, NC, where she and Wallace began and, very much enjoyed, their next chapter. We will always remember Bonnie as a great cook, an avid golfer, who also enjoyed pickleball and had a passion for playing cards and games, especially with her family and friends. She was the life of any gathering and always greeted everyone with a huge smile and hug. She was preceded in death by her parents, Julius and Rosa Lee Dykes; her sister, Anna Mae Roncaglione; and a brother, Rex Eugene Dykes. She is survived by her husband, Wallace Lavender of High Point, NC; her sister, Linda (Bill) Pantili of Princeton, WV; her brother J.A. “Sonny”(Debra) Dykes of High Point, NC; her sisters-in-law, Billie Dykes of Richmond, VA, and Jodie Lavender Lewis of Alisonia, VA; and her only brother-in-law, Kent Lavender of Durham, NC; as well as many nieces and nephews. She had two very special life long friends, Ellen Wood of Farmville, VA, and Tanya Cook of Welch, WV, with whom she worked most of her career in the McDowell County School System. A private Celebration of Life is being coordinated by Sechrest Funeral Service in High Point, NC. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in Bonnie’s memory to the Vietnam Veterans, The American Cancer Society, or to the Barrel Bowl, a charitable organization that benefits McDowell County, WV. Thank you to everyone for your prayers, cards, food and words of encouragement. Most importantly, to those who knew and loved her – Hugs. Online condolences may be made at sechrestfunerals.com. Sechrest Funeral Service is honored to serve the Lavender family.


  • Julius Dykes, Father (deceased)
  • Rosa Lee Dykes, Mother (deceased)
  • Wallace Lavender, Husband
  • Anna Mae Roncaglione, Sister (deceased)
  • Linda (Bill) Pantili, Sister
  • Rex Eugene Dykes, Brother (deceased)
  • J.A. "Sonny" (Debra) Dykes, Brother
  • Jodie Lavender Lewis, Sister-in-law
  • Billie Dykes, Sister-in-law
  • Kent Lavender, Brother-in-law
  • Ellen Wood, Special life long friend
  • Tanya Cook, Special life long friend
  • Bonnie is also survived by many nieces and nephews.

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  • Viet Nam Veterans
  • The American Cancer Society
  • Barrel Bowl


  • A private Celebration of Life.


Bonnie Gayle Dykes Lavender

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Tammy Hopkins

August 30, 2020

World, I am so very sorry at the passing of my good friend,Bonnie. I loved her more than anything. She was my best friend when I was in high school. I thought the world of her. Please know I have a heavy heart for you and hope you’ll be strong and, in time, carry on. You have precious memories Wallace. Love you and loved Bonnie.

Chip Lawson

August 25, 2020

Bonnie and I enjoyed teaching together at Welch Jr. I always said that was the worst 5 years , teaching that age group!
Bonnie made it fun! She will be missed by Ellen and me!!

Larry Woodard

August 24, 2020

Sorry to hear about your loss.World you and Sonny will be in my thoughts and prayers. Larry Woodard

Kathy Robinson

August 23, 2020

I was so sad to see this. She was my favorite teacher in high school and a friend who always made me laugh. Prayers for her family.

Debbie Null

August 23, 2020

So very sorry for your loss, Wallace. You and Bonnie were so blessed to have been together for so many years. I pray that God will strengthen and encourage you and all who loved her.

Love you,
Deb Null

Jean Warden

August 23, 2020

So sorry to hear of Bonnie’s passing. She was a wonderful person and an asset to her job. She will be sorely missed. My deepest sympathy on behalf of myself, daughter Sheri, and son Chip. Rest In Peace sweet Bonnie.

Walter Weber

August 23, 2020

So sorry for the passing of your wife.
Our Prayers are with you and your family.
Walter and Elke Weber

Kathie Whitt

August 23, 2020

I lived in Middletown when her parent's house burned. I liked the family as a child. Later I worked with Bonnie directly through our prevention efforts. We were friends and she made a difference for children! I am sorry for your loss!

Wilson Shelton

August 23, 2020

Wally and Sonny; Saddened to hear of Bonnie's passing. I will always remember her cheerful and bubbly personality. Janice's and my prayers for comfort are with your entire family during this time.

Tonia Cleary

August 23, 2020

Dear Wallace & Family,
My deepest condolences for the loss of Bonnie. Such fond memories of you all from school in Gary. She was a wonderful teacher/counselor. Thank you for her service in our community.
Blessings & love 🙏💗


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