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Elton Black & Son Funeral Home

3295 East Highland Road, Highland, MI

OBITUARY

Harvey Paul Hayes

September 3, 1941January 30, 2020
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Harvey Paul Hayes of Howell, passed away January 30, 2020 at 78 years of age.

Beloved husband of Betty for 53 years. Loving father of Christopher (Linnea) Hayes, David (Sharon) Hayes, Samantha Hayes and Andrew (Christen) Hayes. Proud grandfather of Hailey (Justin) Hanks, Dominick Cole, Lucas Cole, Masee (Joe) Montemarano, David Hayes, Jenna Hayes, Evan Fleck, Cameron Fleck, Finley Hayes and Monroe Hayes. Brother of Victoria (Keith) Van Sickle, Jack (Lyn) Hayes, Joe (Diane) Hayes and John (Kris) Hayes.

Mr. Hayes enjoyed golf and was a diehard Lions fan. He loved his property and wildlife, especially watching the birds and deer that would visit outside his window. Harvey liked to build and was known for being a "very simple man". He will be dearly missed by all.

A memorial service along with military honors will be held at 4:00pm on Wednesday, February 5, 2020 at the Highland Chapel of the Elton Black & Son Funeral Home, 3295 E. Highland Road. The family will receive friends Wednesday from 2:00pm until the time of service at 4:00pm.

Memorial contributions suggested to the American Cancer Society.

Services

  • Memorial Visitation Wednesday, February 5, 2020
  • Memorial Service with Military Honors Wednesday, February 5, 2020

Memories

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June Evans

February 27, 2020

Our sadness is a small price to pay for you to be free of pain and living with our Lord in Heaven.
One of my earliest memories occurred on Thanksgiving night 1968. Our family, including Grandpa and Grandma Cross, had shared a fun day of football, turkey and cards. Soon after my Dad and Paul drove my grandparents back home. Friends of mine had stopped by and we decided to go out. Well out unfortunately was going to a bar called Jacaboni's even though we were all underage. As we were enjoying ourselves I suddenly felt a hand on my shoulder and the stern words "What are you doing in a place like this?" And then to my friend Pete, " Don't ever bring my daughter to a place like this." He then told us to get out and go home. I had planned to spend the night at my friend Sharon's and he said that was ok and he would see me tomorrow. Needless to say I stressed and fretted waiting for him to get home from work. That is until Paul called me in the afternoon to see how I was and then advised me to apologize for letting Dad down and I would never do that again. He also told me that in years to come we would laugh about this, which we did many times, including my Dad.
This was the 1st of many instances of my foolishness and mistakes that I realized Paul had my back. He never judged, instead he offered support and good advice always with a smile and a "It's going to be alright" attitude.
I loved you very much Paul and will miss you greatly. But I will always remember the great times we had through the years; the baseball games, the barbecues and especially the Christmas parties.
RIP Paul!

Dee & Ernie Mazzei

February 26, 2020

It has been an honor and a real pleasure having known you Paul. We had such fun when we were with you and grew to love you and your family. You will be sorely missed and in our memory always. You are one of a kind; sweet, generous, comical, well-spoken, and thoughtful, always with a warm hug when we would greet you. We will miss you and know that we will see you again when we go back to Jesus. We are looking forward one day, to not only a reunion with God and our family members but also our friends, one of which is special, you. You were and are loved. Most sincerely, Ernie & Dee Mazzei

Christopher Hayes

February 18, 2020

One memory that sticks in my mind was back when we lived in Brighton and my dad took us to McDonald's on a Friday night after a football game. Sam and Dave ordered their food and it was my turn next, as i was giving my order, a couple of drunk high school kids came in and one stumbled and fell into me and pinned me up against the counter. Dad grabbed him by the back of the shirt and kind of flung him backwards and without skipping a beat ordered his food. I remember looking back at the kid sitting on the ground and thought, my dad was the strongest, toughest person in the world. That's why when i first heard he had cancer, i thought if anyone can beat this, it was him. He stayed positive the whole time. He never let us see how much pain he was in even down to his last days.

One of the last things he said to me was don’t be sad for me, celebrate the great life I had with your mom and you kids and my grandkids. Promise to keep living yours because you have an amazing wife and family that deserve all the happiness you can give them. I am so proud of you.

The thing is Dad, I can promise to try not to be sad, but I can’t promise to not be sad for everyone that you touched in some way or another. It’s hard not to be sad for the random person who will never have the smile on their face they didn’t know they needed until you put it there.

You taught me that all it takes is one simple smile to change someone’s life forever. You proved that time and time again with just about everyone you came across.

So now that is my goal, to continue that. Because that is my way to help keep your memory and keep you alive in my heart. Putting a smile on someone's face who didn’t know they needed it. What a great way to change the world.

You truly are a great man and will be missed by everyone who ever came in contact with you.

We love you and miss you Dad.

Tom Rayburn

February 14, 2020

The first time I met Paul I was 7 years old, we were in the backyard shooting hoops when he walked in to the yard. He was a very big man (looked exactly like Micky Lolich) but was gentle with his presence. Paul also taught me many lessons about treating other people with respect and saving money. He started both my kids off with Government Bonds. We golfed and played softball together for many years. He was always an encourager and solid first-base man. We played double headers every other Sunday morning. The team was Dad Rayburn four of his sons, four brother in-laws and friends of the family. On the Sundays we played everyone brought food, beers and the wife's and kids and we would picnic after the games. For one of the picnics Paul brought a 12 pack of Strohs in the new stay cold container, being his frugal self he did not get ice thinking the beer would stay cold till the end of the 2nd game. It did not, but we drank it anyway. He was definitely a family man (that included immediate family and In-laws.) He took pride in his family and the way he treated everyone. He did not know a stranger. At family events he always took the time to visit all the younger kids and make sure they were part of the festivities. He will be missed by all. Love you Paul

Sharon Hayes

February 13, 2020

The memories of Dad that I remember are all so wonderful. Through the years, he has always shown me nothing but love and support. We always chuckled and laughed together, and at the end of every visit he told me he loved me. I will keep those three words with me forever, and I hope he knew I loved him too. I do believe that Dad was the glue that held this family together, and he will be greatly missed. I am honored to be part of his family.

Pete Evans

February 12, 2020

Dear Paul, thank you for 50 years of brotherly love and friendship. My FB post through tears mentioned you were the older brother I never had but clearly needed. You and Betty were an incredible support team for us and our best cheerleaders. Hey remember going to Grayling to hunt invisible deers several years? We stayed in that little trailer in the woods; no electricity or plumbing. Laughed and played cards/dice games for 3 nights each year. Laughed and laughed. We were a couple of silly kids. Oh, and then all the fun family times canoeing on the Rifle River. You never scolded yet encouraged my misbehavior and we laughed and laughed. Amazing family times together at Christmas parties at your house on Fairchild and M&D Rayburns and our festive basement on Perrin. We laughed and laughed and did gag gifts. Remember when we coached the Buckeyes baseball team? Chris, Dave, & Kirko? We lived next door to each other and watched, enjoyed, and celebrated our kids, and families. Camp Dearborn family picnics. Sunday baseball games and back to Perrin for swim and cookouts. We laughed and laughed. 50 years my brother, fifty years. The amazing memories are emblazoned and cherished in my heart and mind. I'm so thankful that you were in my life and I know I'll see you again sooner than later. And we will laugh and laugh for eternity. Love and miss you my brother.

Linnea Hayes

February 10, 2020

Paul (dad), welcomed my boys and I into the family the moment we met. He never once treated us any different than his own flesh and blood. He was happy to see us at every visit or event, loved to give advice, share his experiences, and always made sure to ask us how we were doing. He never failed to tell us how happy he was that we were apart of his life and the family’s. You could feel in your heart, family truly was important to him and he made sure that every single family member knew it. His strength and humor continued on through his pain and he continued to show us all that he really was the rock of the family. We will all remember him as that strong and loving soul and are blessed that he was apart of our lives. Thank you for loving us, you will be truly missed.

Diane Hayes

February 9, 2020

I remember Paul as being a loving and kind man. Thankful for our brothers and sisters dinners when we were able to get together.

Steven Degrande

February 6, 2020

It was a pleasure to get to know Paul over these last few years. He welcomed me into his family and his heart after his youngest, Drew, married my daughter Christen. We talked shop and investment strategies as he was well versed in both. I feel as much a part of his wonderful family as I do my own and am truly blessed to have been able to share time with him. He was a remarkable and knowlegabe man and I am grateful to have known him.

Scott `Huff

February 5, 2020

One of my favorite memories was on Dad's birthday when I was invited over for supper. I believe it was the first time I met the entire family. You were having sesame chicken. Dave and I ate ALL the chicken. There was nothing left but a plate full of bones in the middle of the table. Dad didn't hardly get any. I didn't even know it was his birthday supper. But you told me to eat and not be hungry. I think it was the last time you ever told me that. I love you mom!

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In loving memory
Harvey Paul Hayes
September 3, 1941-January 30, 2020

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Biography

Harvey Paul Hayes of Howell, passed away January 30, 2020 at 78 years of age.

Beloved husband of Betty for 53 years. Loving father of Christopher (Linnea) Hayes, David (Sharon) Hayes, Samantha Hayes and Andrew (Christen) Hayes. Proud grandfather of Hailey (Justin) Hanks, Dominick Cole, Lucas Cole, Masee (Joe) Montemarano, David Hayes, Jenna Hayes, Evan Fleck, Cameron Fleck, Finley Hayes and Monroe Hayes. Brother of Victoria (Keith) Van Sickle, Jack (Lyn) Hayes, Joe (Diane) Hayes and John (Kris) Hayes.

Mr. Hayes enjoyed golf and was a diehard Lions fan. He loved his property and wildlife, especially watching the birds and deer that would visit outside his window. Harvey liked to build and was known for being a "very simple man". He will be dearly missed by all.

A memorial service along with military honors will be held at 4:00pm on Wednesday, February 5, 2020 at the Highland Chapel of the Elton Black & Son Funeral Home, 3295 E. Highland Road. The family will receive friends Wednesday from 2:00pm until the time of service at 4:00pm.

Memorial contributions suggested to the American Cancer Society.