Cary Pintor Calpo

Cary Pintor Calpo, of Waianae, Hawaii, passed away peacefully surrounded by his loved ones on October 10, 2023, at the age of 65. He was a man whose life was defined by the love he had for his family and the deep, unspoken bond he shared with those he held dear. He is survived by his wife, Sue; daughters, Carmen (Thomas) Kuiper, Carisa (Drew Geis) Calpo; 5 grandchildren (Quinn, Luuc, Niels, Maeve, and Jae); stepmother, Perlita; and siblings, Daniel (Kathy Toyama) Calpo, Pamela (Adrian) Haban, Michael Calpo, Kimberly (Nick Ozoa) Calpo, and Christle (T.J.) Morita.

Cary was born on June 7, 1958, in Sasebo, Japan, to his loving parents, Monico and Demetria Calpo. He had a special connection with his younger brother and sister, Daniel and Pamela, throughout his life, as they were not only siblings but also steadfast companions in all of life's journeys. Their unwavering support and love were the cornerstones of their relationships, especially so after the passing of their mother in 1971.

After the loss of his mother, Cary's father, Monico, found love again with Perlita, and Cary was blessed with the addition of his brother Michael and sisters Kimberly and Christle to his family circle. Sadly, in 1990 their father also passed away.

Cary was a proud alumnus of Damien Memorial High School’s class of 1976 where he excelled in playing baseball. Following his graduation, he enlisted in the United States Air Force, serving as an electrician from 1977 to 1981. He was stationed at Kadena Air Force Base in Okinawa, Japan, and later at Ellsworth Air Force Base in South Dakota. Cary had a passion for softball, and this love of the game continued both during his military service and later in local leagues.

It was during his time in Okinawa that he met his better half, Sue Anne Koncoski, at a pool party. Their shared interests in tennis and the outdoors sparked an instant connection. Their first date, a tennis match (which he won, of course) followed by a movie, marked the beginning of a beautiful journey together. They moved to South Dakota when Cary was transferred to Ellsworth AFB, and their adventures included exploring the Black Hills, Mount Rushmore, and more. Cary and Sue celebrated 44 years of marriage.

In 1981, Cary decided to leave the Air Force and return to his hometown in Oahu, where he pursued a degree in Psychology at the University of Hawaii, eventually graduating in 1988. It was during this time that he and Sue welcomed two daughters into their lives, Carmen in 1984 and Carisa in 1989. Their family life revolved around supporting their children in every endeavor, and Cary's role as a father was one of constant encouragement and love. He showed up to most of their sports practices and games, and was their biggest and proudest fan.

Throughout his career, Cary worked in retail and sales. He dedicated a decade of his life to AAFES, with a portion of that time spent at the AAFES on Johnston Island. Following his time there, he worked at 7-Eleven for 15 years before retiring from Hawaiian Isles in 2013.

Cary held a keen interest for sports, especially when it came to the University of Hawaii teams. He could watch, listen to, and read about it all day, every day. Alongside his sporting interests, he truly appreciated a good book, the Sunday newspaper, discovering new television shows to watch with his wife, and finding the best snacks to go with each of these activities.

As his own children grew and left home to begin their own lives, Cary had the joy of traveling to visit them all over the country. In 2018, Carmen, Carisa, and their families moved back to Oahu, enabling them to spend the last five years together. Cary was immensely proud of his five grandchildren, Quinn, Luuc, Niels, Maeve, and Jae. He truly treasured every moment with them. Taking them on errands and to fun places brought him great happiness, and he never missed a chance to spoil them with Happy Meals, donuts, and Hot Wheels toys.

Cary will be remembered for his continuous love and dedication to his family, the deep joy he found in the presence of his grandchildren, and his quiet yet profound impact on those fortunate enough to have known him. He has left behind a legacy of love, support, and the enduring bonds of family. Cary's memory will forever be cherished by his wife, daughters, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and siblings, as well as numerous other relatives and friends. His absence will be deeply felt, but his love will live on in the hearts of those who had the privilege of sharing his life.

A service for Cary will be held Monday, November 13, 2023 at Borthwick Mortuary/Makai Chapel, 1330 Maunakea Street, Honolulu, HI 96817. Visitation is from 10:30 AM - 11:30 AM and the service is from 11:30 AM - 2:30 PM. Inurnment ceremony to follow from 3:00 PM to 4:00 PM at the National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific (Punchbowl), 2177 Puowaina Drive, Honolulu, HI 96813. Aloha attire.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.BorthwickOahu.com for the Calpo family.