Linda Marie Loddeke Hesse

November 18, 1943April 17, 2013

Rememberance Video


TOGETHER Thank you for coming to share our joy of my blessed wife’s birth into eternal life. Thanks especially to our faith community of St. Cecilia and those clergy from the Jewish, Islamic, and other Christian denominations here today. A blessed monk I knew, Monk Theophane, wrote a wonderful book entitled “Tales of a Magic Monastery.” The following parable story entitled “Together” captures this moment. “I thought it good fortune to go to the Magic Monastery for Christmas. But at the foot of the hill sat a blind beggar, and when I drew near to give him some money, I heard him ask, ‘Who will lead me into the heart of God?’ I couldn’t go on. Who would lead him into the heart of God? I sat down in front of him. I took his hands. ‘Together, I said. ‘Together we’ll go into the heart of God.’” My blessed, beloved wife Linda was the one who took my hands and led me into the heart of God. She did it in so many simple ways. An accomplished pianist, when she was happy she would play the Blue Danube, Unforgettable, and As Time Goes By. But when she was upset she didn’t attack she would simply play Rachmaninoff. “Da, Da, Da, Du!” That is when I had to watch my “p’s and q’s.” Fluent in Parisian French, she once was told by a woman behind a counter in Paris, that the next time she was in Paris she should learn how to speak French. When I heard that I knew this woman had no idea what a tempest she had just stepped into. Linda launched into machine-gun-firing Parisian French. I just got out of the way. Later I asked what she said and Linda explained that she told the woman that if she had spoken to her in French, Linda would have responded in French. The message in these stories was not to judge others. Linda taught me to stop judging others and treat everyone with equal respect. She would treat the president of an oil company with the same respect as a common laborer. She loved our children equally with the greatest possible love. She taught us to love by accepting suffering for the sake of love. She did not have to have surgery but chose it out of love for the family. Having suffered depression and dementia, she finally succumbed to cancer. And she did it all with grace, charm, and the ultimate of love. In spite of her struggles she brought our family joy and laughter beyond compare. She had a wonderful sense of humor visible in her pictures that you have already seen and will see at the reception. So as we exit the church I ask all of you to celebrate her victory over death in music of pure joy.

HOMILY TEXT Deacon Robert Hesse, Ph.D. St. Cecilia Houston, Texas

Linda Marie Loddeke Hesse, 69, was born to eternal life on Wednesday, April 17, 2013 at 1:31 pm. After graduating from St. Joseph Academy in St. Louis, Linda earned a B.A. in French from Webster College in St. Louis. She studied at the Université Laval in Quebec, Canada and was awarded a teaching assistantship to the University of Iowa for graduate study. She was a member of Pi Delta Phi National French Honor Society. She taught French in the Webster Groves School District in Missouri. She loved travel having visited over 30 countries, her favorite being France. She was an accomplished pianist and avid runner. She had an infectious sense of humor and a glorious smile. She endured immense suffering with grace, charm, and love. Her symbols of God’s visits to her were the red bird and butterfly. Linda is survived by her husband, Deacon Dr. Robert Hesse, after 45 years of marriage in deepest contemplative love. She is survived by her children Kristin Elizabeth Hesse Cavazos and David Christopher Hesse and four grandchildren Vincent Cavazos, Sydney Cavazos, Sierra Hesse, and Carson Hesse. She also is survived by her identical twin sister Lois Loddeke Fox of Seattle and younger sister Leslie Loddeke of Houston. She is predeceased by her mother Marylois Loddeke and her father Dr. Bernard Henry Loddeke. Visitation will be at 5:00 – 8:00 pm on Monday, April 22, 2013, at Memorial Oaks Funeral Home, 13001 Katy Freeway, Houston, Texas 77079. Funeral mass will be held at 10:00 am on Tuesday, April 23, 2013 at St. Cecilia Catholic Church, 11720 Joan of Arc, Houston, Texas 77024. It will be followed by public interment at Memorial Oaks Cemetery, 13001 Katy Freeway, Houston, Texas 77079. In lieu of flowers the family requests donations be made to Contemplative Network, P.O. Box 22947, Houston, Texas 77227-2947, a non-profit dedicated to interdenominational Christian contemplative prayer and research on its effects on the brain.


  • Visitation Monday, April 22, 2013
  • Mass of Christian Burial Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Linda Marie Loddeke Hesse

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May 7, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Deacon Robert and your family. I
wish you well, in contemplative prayer,
of course. St. Cecilia Parishioner,
Barbara Kraemer

April 25, 2013

May our Heavenly Father comfort you and your family in this time of grief. May his grace bring peace today. We will add Linda and your entire family in our daily prayer.

Deacon Roy & Mary Breaux


April 22, 2013

My Sympathy goes out to your family. May the God of peace be with you at this time of grief (Rom 15:33).

Jennifer (Hesse) Garcia

April 22, 2013

I was so blessed to have her as my Godmother as she is the strongest soul I have ever known. She was the most prayed for person on my list and will continue to be as her soul guides us with the help of the Holy Spirit, with steadfast faith, grace, and laughter during our most difficult times. I love you so much, Aunt Linda! Rest in peace and HAPPINESS!

I am praying for you Uncle Bob, Chris and Kristin. Love you all!

Gail St Pierre

April 22, 2013

Dear Deacon Bob and family.
I was so sad to hear of Linda's passing. She suffered so and you were so good to be by her side through it all.I will never forget how good you were to Joe through his decline.I will pray for your family as I have moved out of state and cannot attend the memorial. God Bless.