Patricia Irene Ayers
September 9, 1944 – April 13, 2019
Outside of the sudden and quick death by natural causes on April 13, 2019, Pat would tell you that she lived her life like Sinatra sang it: “I Did it My Way.” If you know Pat, and you listen to the words, you will agree. Pat was born in Modesto in 1944, she and lived nearly all her life in the local area—she was a proud member of Thomas Downey High School Class of 1962, and she graduated from both Modesto Junior College and CSU Stanislaus. However, she did not let the Central Valley define who she was as a person. She worked hard as a waitress, bookkeeper, truck driver, owner of a trucking company, realtor, and residential and commercial property owner. The hardest job that she had, however—the hardest job any woman has—was being a Mom. She, and her former husband Richard H. Murray, did a fine job providing a safe and healthy environment along with enriching, educational, and travel opportunities to all four of their children—Douglas A. Morris, Richard A. Murray, Lawrence W. Morris, and Samuel D. Morris. As a result of these efforts, Douglas (Doug) is an Assistant Federal Public Defender, Richard (Rick) has retired from the U.S. Army and now drives a truck, Lawrence (Larry) is Chief Building Inspector for the State court system, and Samuel (Sam) is a U.S. Air Force Chief Master Sergeant. Pat never shied from sharing her pride in her sons and their success. Though she never had daughters of her own, she very much loved and cared for her daughters-in-law—Dilek Keller, Senior Business Systems Analyst; Juvy N. Morris, Oncology Nurse; and Virsie N. Morris, Attorney. She also cared very much for her six grandchildren—David, Sarah, Jennifer, Ian, Kathy, and Amanda—and her 11 great-grand-children. Beyond these familial and vocational successes, Pat also enjoyed traveling in the company of many dear friends to places such as Australia, China, Europe, Mexico, Peru, and others. Pat’s thirst for knowledge and adventure was infectious and her sons and daughters-in-law now travel the world as well. You see, Pat “thought big” and encouraged “big thinking.” In many ways it was this encouragement that led to her sons’ success and travels. Though Pat did not let the Central Valley define her as a person or limit what she did with her life, she enjoyed the “local life.” That is, she learned how to make beautiful quilts and spent many hours with friends at local quilt-shops. She really enjoyed small talk, “big” talk, and laughs with local friends, relatives, neighbors, tenants, and others. She also loved to cook big traditional meals for her family, and she very much enjoyed the satisfaction of others enjoying her efforts. Importantly, she loved her pets—especially her dear dog Chester. Yes, she sometimes rubbed people wrong. Nevertheless, for the many people who really knew Pat, she was a dear friend and a certified member of the “tough broad club”—a tough broad with a big heart. She will be greatly missed.
- Douglas A. Morris
- Richard A. Murray
- Lawrence W. Morris
- Samuel D. Morris
- David A. Morris
- Ian S. Morris
- Visitation Saturday, April 20, 2019
- Chapel Service Saturday, April 20, 2019
- Graveside Service Saturday, April 20, 2019
Patricia Irene Ayers
April 20, 2019
Pat, I am going to miss you so much! You have been so much more than just a friend to us. Your memory will carry on through us. We truly came to love you ~ you were a good person ~ BeAuTiFuL inside and out💜. I literally broke down when Larry gave me the news of your passing, it just doesn’t seem real. You would have been proud of the memorial service your boys held for you~ it was absolutely “you”! The love that they have for you shined through and I believe it came from the love you have for them. You will be missed greatly but will never be forgotten. RIP~ Rest In Peace my pretty lady ~ you are so deserving and so loved❤️💜💙💕
April 19, 2019
You knew her as Pat, I knew her as Ma. She was a consistent, comforting, and dependable presence in our daily lives. The daily phone calls with Larry and weekly dinners with her was often the highlight of our mundane week.
Ma had so much to share- not just the home cooked meals but intriguing stories, ideas to share, and strong suggestions on how a life should be lived.
Her vitality for life was infectious. Being around her, one cannot fail to notice her desire and pursuit for a better life, for greater success, and of course, for bigger diamonds! She inspired and touched so many lives, mine included. I know I am stronger and better person today because I crossed path with Ma. You will remember her as Pat, I will remember her as the loving, nurturing mother in - law that she was ..I loved her.
April 19, 2019
I sure miss you. The phone call you never want to get, came. Now my mind is flooded with memories of you and as I reflect, I know I’ve been blessed to have had you in my corner for 53 years. Even as I write this, your pictures are high on my desk with you smiling down on me. You’ve traveled a long road, mom. At times it was rough, had some hairpin turns but I think for the most part it was clear skies with smooth road ahead. Through this time, you were always there for us. Being the youngest, I remember hanging around with you while the others were at school. Once I started kindergarten, there I was, always having a good meal in the morning and coming home to you during the early years on Perry Avenue. “You kids go outside and play” was the standard, and we could because you were there to catch us if we fell. As an adult, I’ve often times used tales of you as an example of determination. With a college paper due of someone I looked up to, you were an easy selection. As I grew and traveled my own road, my foundation was solid because you provided that for all of us boys. My children saw you as an example of hard work and success, and of course to never give up. As a mom, your concern was always for us; and your concern had spread to our wives and our children. Dilek and I have always enjoyed your company and taking refuse at your house during the occasional visit. You can rest easy now mom, with Dilek, my foundation is solid and I have many blessings. You always wanted to make sure that I was ok. I’m good mom. I can take it from here. I love you and I miss you!
April 17, 2019
Pat was an amazing woman who I truly admired.
She was definitely a ROSE in the garden of life.
She was a big part of my life and I will truely miss her.
You couldn’t ask for a better person or friend.
Pat touched a lot of peoples lives and will be missed by many , she is gone but will never be forgotten.
April 17, 2019
We were through a lot in the 50 years we been friends. She was as close as a sister. There are too many ways I will miss her. I know I will see her again in heaven. So I fell she has just changed addresses. God Bless her and the boys and their famileys.
Bill and Barbara Hough
April 16, 2019
You were a great friend. We had some good laughs together. You are going to be so missed by all who knew you. Say hi to Bill for me and Frank.