Melissa A. Tambolleo

August 16, 1958April 7, 2019

Melissa Tambolleo, 8/16/58-4/7/19

If you are reading this then I have passed. I died after a perfunctory argument with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS). It is sometimes called Lou Gehrig's Disease, but I prefer ALS, because Lou Gehrig was a Yankee.

My vital statistics are that I was born in Cape Cod Hospital on August 16, 1958 to Ruth (Nickerson) and John Tambolleo. Ruth and John had some other children, my brother John and his wife Gayle live in Harwich and my sister Helen and her husband Doug live in Carver. I graduated from Harwich High School and worked in the hospital in which I was born for 20 years.

You might think I did not get very far in my life, but I did live three of those years in Oklahoma. I graduated for Oklahoma State University in 2000 with an Associates Degree in Applied Science in Watch and Micro Instrument Repair. It was a learning experience in more ways than one.

The last ten years I have been living with the love of my life, Susan. These were the happiest years of my life.

I have been a friend of Bill Wilson for some time. What I have learned from Bill is; trust in God (however you perceive God), clean house, help others, and nothing is ever as bad as I imagine it to be. I have never been a fan of flowers, I much prefer trees. If you would like to spend some money in memory of me, please send it to Compassionate Care ALS in Falmouth. They are good people.

Visiting Hours will be held Thursday, April 11th from 3-7 p.m. at Doane Beal & Ames Funeral Home, Hyannis. A Funeral Mass will take place Friday, April 12th at 11:30 a.m. in Our Lady of Victory Church, Centerville. Burial will be held privately. To leave an online condolence, please visit


  • Ruth (Nickerson) and John Tambolleo, Parents
  • John and his wife Gayle - of Harwich, Brother
  • Helen and her husband Doug - of Carver., Sister
  • Susan Anderson, The love of my life
  • Bill Wilson, Friend


  • Visiting Hours Thursday, April 11, 2019
  • Funeral Mass Friday, April 12, 2019

Melissa A. Tambolleo

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Angelina Raneo Chilaka

April 10, 2019

I enjoyed many wonderful memories of the Tambolleo Family. Melissa's Mom and Dad were so kind to so many of the children in Harwich.
My family and I would like to extend our deepest sympathy to the Tambolleo Family. God Bless!

Angelina Raneo Chilaka and Family

Chris and Elaine Brennan

April 10, 2019

Susan, our hearts are holding you. We came to care for and respect both of you so much during our collaborative effort in 2017. Melissa's dedication to HH's dogs was nothing short of heroic. I have a warm memory of singing show tunes with Melissa to HH in her room, trying to ease her journey. Melissa knew all the words. A wonderful friend.

Beverly Primeau

April 10, 2019

My deepest sympathy to all the family i worked with her at the hospital.Melissa was full of fun,smiles and great wit.She will be missed.

Lynne Zalesak

April 10, 2019

I also went to school with Missy from Kindergarten through Graduation. I always considered her a friend and loved her wonderful sense of humor. I also admired her independence and spirit. Missy, you and George Bezinka will not be forgotten. You will be missed but I know you are making those you are with laugh.

Ross & Jan Bridge

April 9, 2019

Sending the Tambolleo family love, prayers, & strength during this very difficult time.

Jean Batty

April 9, 2019

I feel truly blessed to have known Melissa for even a short time. Loved reading her words. Susan, may you take comfort during this difficult time. You were an awesome caregiver and could not have done a better job. The love you shared with Melissa truly radiated.

Sue Lindholm

April 8, 2019

I remember the day she was born! Her dad drove into Red River Road and yelled out to us, “It’s a girl”! Our family (the Welts) and the Tambolleos were neighbors and dear friends. I was thrilled and Missy became my surrogate baby sister! Helen and I loved playing with her! Such great memories...and yes, Missy was blessed with a quick wit and a warm heart. Always smiling and laughing. A wonderful family. So my heart is broken. My thoughts are with Helen, John and their families, and with Susan. You were a gift, Missy. Rest In Peace❤️

Mara Adams

April 8, 2019

My favorite memory of Melissa is actually my last one: She is sitting on her hospital bed in her bedroom, and we are discussing her book about dying. She says , if you can find out how to publish this electronically, I want to do it. Maybe it will help someone.

Neil Nelson

April 8, 2019

My condolences to Missy's family and friends. We were classmates from Kindergarten to High School Graduation! She always had a smile and I did enjoy talking with her, she could be quite funny. I last saw her about 15 years ago in Hyannis while I was on the Cape. God bless her and her family. May she rest in peace and her family and friends find comfort in their memories of Melissa.

Bobbi Paradise

April 8, 2019

Dear Susan,
I am on the west coast with my "not so littles anymore" and won't be back in time to celebrate Melissa with you, but know that I will certainly be thinking of you. Sending love and prayers.