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Prudence Howes-Joseph

September 16, 1950November 15, 2021

West Barnstable – Prudence Howes-Joseph passed away unexpectedly, on November 15, 2021, at Cape Cod Hospital. She was 71. Prudy was born on September 16, 1950, at Cape Cod Hospital in Hyannis, MA. She was the daughter of Charles and Suzanne Howes of Barnstable. A graduate of Barnstable High School, class of 1968. She had a 40-year career as a phlebotomist at Cape Cod Hospital. Prudy was a proud, lifelong Cape Codder, born with beach sand between her toes. She married her husband, Mel Joseph, on October 8, 1977, and together they carved out a life on Cape Cod. Prudy didn’t belong just to her family, she belonged to all of those she touched. A loving and giving soul, whose selfless praise towards others, put a giddy up in their step.

As a lover of books she instilled in her daughters a lifelong fondness for the written word. She had a great love for the English countryside, having made numerous trips to the UK to visit her lifelong friend Anne Ludlow. Toiling in her many West Barnstable yard gardens was a labor of love. From dogs to cats and her wild bird sanctuaries throughout her West Barnstable property she gave her time and devotion to nature. Millway Beach to the Barnstable Yacht Club and on to Sandy Neck Beach, her feet were rooted in the Cape Cod sands.

She was predeceased by her mother and father and her brother, Christopher Howes. She is survived by her husband of 44 years, Mel Joseph, and her twin daughters; Amy Howes-Joseph and Kate Howes-Joseph. Prudy is survived additionally by her sister, Lucinda Parmenter and her husband, Richard Parmenter . As well she has 6 living nieces and nephews.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Prudy’s name to: MSPCA, 1577 Falmouth Road, Centerville, MA 02632 or West Barnstable Fire and EMS, PO Box 146, West Barnstable, MA. 02668.

Services and a celebration of her life will be held at later date.


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Mary Beth Sibbio

November 23, 2021

Oh my goodness. My heart skipped a beat when I saw this notice. I saw Prudy at our beloved Goodwill a couple of months ago and slipped her my number, hoping she would call me if needed.
I took care of her mom years ago. Every time I saw her we had lots of laughs. As her obituary said she was quick with the many compliments and uplifting words.
She was the best!! I’m so so sorry for the loss of her light.

Carol Aittaniemi Darling

November 21, 2021

My mother, Olga Aittaniemi, worked with Prudy and Mel. She was fond of them both and thought the world of them. Sorry to hear of her passing. My condolences to Mel and the twins.

Paul Lavallee

November 21, 2021

My High School friend who kept us all giggling in Biology class among others. My condolences to Mel and the family.
RIP Prudy

Allyson Baker

November 20, 2021

Prudy was a person that always had a smile, a fondness for gatherings and always more concerned for others. I knew Prudy through her sister Lucinda and instantly knew she was one of a kind. Even through all of her medical trials she smiled and was more interested in talking about anything other than herself.
Beautiful women. So sorry to Mel, her girls and Lucinda for a life lost too soon.

Allyson Baker

Pamela Brown

November 19, 2021

My heart goes out to Mel & Prudy's girls. Prudy & I grew up together back in the 50's. We used to play in Lothrop Cemetery which was next door to their house whenever we got together and boy did her Mom put on great birthday party's ...... She was a lot of fun. She will be missed.

Pammy Crocker Brown

Jeanne Norris Neal

November 17, 2021

There was no better friend. We had so many laughs, so many mutually supportive talks. She led the camraderie at work that made our difficult jobs doable. We had so many weekends away, dinners out, get togethers. So many, but nowhere near enough. I was always so happy to be counted among her many, many friends. It sounds cliche to say, but she touched so many people with her smile, her laugh & her sincere concern. Oh, and I will never watch the Red Sox without thinking of their greatest fan!
I will miss her so much.