Doane Beal & Ames

160 West Main Street, Hyannis, MA


Stanley Clayton Loftus Wheeler

June 24, 1940December 5, 2019

Stanley Clayton Loftus Wheeler of Barnstable, formerly of Boston and Branford, CT passed away peacefully on Thursday, December 5, 2019.

Stan was the husband of Betsy Turnbull Wheeler to whom he was married for 34 years. Born in Brooklyn, NY in 1940, he was the son of Eugene and Florence Wheeler. He was predeceased by his eldest son, Bradley; and his sister, Florence. He is survived by his brother Eugene, sister Jacquelyn, his son Stephen, daughter Pam Buckley and 7 beloved grandchildren.

Graduate of Wheatley, Old Westbury, NY and a BA from Bethany College, Bethany, WVa. He began his career as a box salesman at Westvaco, then Bicknell and Fuller, and finally as a rep for NEWW and Seaboard Folding Box.

He enjoyed his grandchildren, boating, a good political discussion, and most of the time, golf.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in his memory to BARS (Barnstable Recreational Shellfishing), PO Box 57, West Barnstable, MA 02668 or Barnstable Historical Society, PO Box 829, Barnstable, MA 02630.

Visiting hours will be held at Doane Beal & Ames Funeral Home, 160 W. Main St., Hyannis on Monday, December 9th from 4 to 6 p.m. The funeral service will be held at St. Mary’s Episcopal Church, 3055 Main St., Barnstable at 11 a.m. on Tuesday, December 10th. Interment is private. Party to follow.


  • BARS: Barnstable Recreational Shellfishing
  • Barnstable Historical Society


  • Visiting Hours Monday, December 9, 2019
  • Funeral Service Tuesday, December 10, 2019


Stanley Clayton Loftus Wheeler

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December 10, 2019

Our sincere condolences to Betsy and the entire family. We will always remember Stan by the water and happy to see all of us. We will miss you Stan. Until we meet again.
Steve and Tatiana Glennie

Deborah LaBreck

December 10, 2019

Dear Steve,
So sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. May your friends comfort you and may God bring you peace. Blessings and Love,
Debbie LaBreck

John Townes

December 9, 2019

Stan was a loyal member of the Barnstable Association for Recreational Shellfishing, and was deeply involved with the Town's Natural Resources shellfish propagation efforts. I have many fond memories of Stan. He was always upbeat, cheerful and a genuinely good natured person.

He was well liked by his friends in B.A.R.S. and his presence will be missed. Personally, I'm very happy that he and Betsy were able to attend our Holiday Party. We were shocked and saddened to hear of his passing.

RIP Stan

Barry & Michele Horowitz

December 8, 2019

Our sincere condolences to you and your family. Stanley was a great guy and will surely be missed. Thinking of you!
Barry & Michele Horowitz

Paul Buckley

December 7, 2019

An Old Coach Preached to Us Years Ago words fitting for a most fascinating Human Being that Stanley most certainly was:
"Good, Better, Best,
Never, Ever Rest,
Until The Good Get Better,
And The Better Get Best."
Here's hoping Heaven has plenty of Golf Holes and Clam Flats; if not I'm sure He will insist God gets Busy!!
RIP Stan The Man! ❌🔴

Amy Gallagher

December 7, 2019

Stanley is one of a kind. He has made my life better just by knowing him. He always has a positive disposition and has a way of passing it along. "Here's to Stanley"😍

Joe & Grace Buono

December 7, 2019

Stan was a character, a man of many interests and talents. Our neighborhood will not be the same without him. Stan, we hope you always have the wind at your back and a full tank of gas!

Emily Tibbetts

December 7, 2019

Rest In Peace Stanley, from your family at Cummaquid Golf Club ❤️

Harriet Buono

December 7, 2019

My sincere condolences to the family.
May your fond memories of Stan keep you warm during this sad time.
Harriet buono

Harriet Buono

December 7, 2019

My condolences for the entire family.
Hope all your fond memories of Stan keep you warm throughout this sad time.
My best regards,
Harriet buono