Family Funeral Care-Rockville West

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Mary Bates Sherman

August 23, 1961January 30, 2020

Our beloved angel left her earthly pain and suffering peacefully in her sleep on January 30th, 2020. Mary Bates Sherman, 58, was born August 23, 1961 in Indianapolis, Indiana. She graduated from Jefferson High School, Lafayette, Indiana in 1979 and later attended Indiana University where she earned and received a Bachelor of Science degree in Nursing. She specialized in oncology, intensive care, cardiac care, and organ transplantation. She loved her career, was highly respected by her colleagues, and was loved and appreciated by her patients and their families. She freely volunteered her personal time to lovingly take care of her patients while off duty. She married the love of her life, James Sherman, in October, 1988 and was the proud mother of their two sons, Derik Sherman, 28, and Cameron Sherman, 22. They lived in Indiana, Pennsylvania and now reside in Timnath, Colorado. Mary's love for her family and strong dedication to her sons gave her the inner strength to persevere through several decades of delibitating illness and suffering. Her fighting spirit overcame the mightiest of life's storms and challenges, and her determination to live for the sake of her children allowed her to miraculously overcome overwhelming odds on numerous occasions. Rising above her pain she found joy in making special gifts for loved ones and often reached out to strangers with kind words and deeds. She was a rock solid foundation for her family and friends and will be dearly missed. She will remain in our hearts and memories forever. Mary is preceded in death by her parents, Michael and Gloria Bates. She is survived by her husband, James, her sons Derik and Cameron and her siblings Mark Bates, Michael Bates, Rose Johnson, and Matthew Bates. She is also survived by many neices and nephews. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Mary's name to the Adrenoleukodystrophy Foundation (aldfoundation.org) to support their research to find a cure for Addison's disease. A Mass of Christian Burial will be Saturday, February 8 at noon at St. Mary’s Cathedral in Lafayette, Indiana with visitation an hour before service. Burial will follow at St. Mary Cemetery. Service entrusted to Family Funeral Care, Indianapolis.


  • Visitation Saturday, February 8, 2020
  • Mass of Christian Burial Saturday, February 8, 2020


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Mary (Agnes) Ruff-Troup

February 8, 2020

I met Mary (Mary Phyllis as I called her) back in the 1980’s when I moved into an apartment across the hall from her. We became fast friends as it was not hard to be drawn to her vibrant full of life and laughter personality. Not long after we met I went to work with her at Methodist Hospital. Her vibrant and loving personality spilled over into her work as a nurse and her patients loved her! It was hard to not be drawn to her instantly. Her love for Jim (James Melvin!) and then her boys was such an inspiration. Although we lost touch over the years I have many fond memories of the times we spent together. Prayers and hugs to the family and I pray that your fond memories will help to carry you through this time! Much love, Mary (Agnes) Ruff-Troup

Lisa-Marie Falloon

February 8, 2020

Mary and I had our sons one day apart. We spent many hours talking about our boys, jobs and families. We were so excited to be moms of boys. I will always remember the shared plans and dreams we had for our families.

Joan Alexander

February 7, 2020

James, D & Cameron. You are all in
my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences . Your mother was a mama bear when it came to her boys. She went over and beyond to make sure all your needs were met on so many levels and loved you with such a deep, unconditional love. She always inspired me with how she stood up for her family. Her strength and her beauty lives on through all of you. She will always be in our hearts and minds. God bless you all. My prayer for all of you is soon the grief will melt away and be restored with the good memories. All my love, Joan Alexander

Janice Clack

February 7, 2020

It was indeed a priviledge to know Mary. She was kind, open and funny. I am so grateful our paths grew in to friendship. The hours we spent together either at her home, hospital or rehab, were always entertaining. The handwritten notes and gifts she gave me, are cherished.

Nicole fondly remembers Mary always providing a Hershey with almonds bar for her upon every visit!

Jim, Derik and Cameron's care for Mary was beyond compare, so heartwarming. Everyone knew how much she loved and cherished you. It was evident that her love for you gave her the courage to sustain for so long.

Praying for you and yours now and in the days ahead. May peace and comfort be yours at this difficult time. Love and hugs.

Fave Aunt Deb

February 7, 2020

Derik & Cameron,
I am so sorry about the loss of your devoted mother. I think losing our moms is such a painful loss because they have been with us the longest....from the womb to the tomb. Even when we are adults they are still our greatest cheerleader. Women are nurturers, and there is such a special love that God placed into a mother’s heart that never leaves us.
You, your Dad, and I grew up with mothers that suffered for years. It’s very difficult, at any age, for children to witness that especially when we had to help with their care instead of playing outside with them. But, life is not fair, and we all have burdens to carry.
On the good side of this loss, our moms are no longer in pain. All the awful things that happened are no longer in their memory. They are in a place where no more tears will dim the eyes. Now, it is our turn to learn to heal our personal pain and to live life as best we can in order to honor our moms and ourselves (cuz they would want us to be happy). It is no longer about them....it’s about us. What can we do to live a fulfilling life? What is the purpose God created us for? Once we discover, develop, dedicate, and deploy our purpose life becomes rich and rewarding. Not always easy...but worth living.
You two have overcome amazing odds and are a huge inspiration to not only me but others. Use your gifts and let them shine! Courage is not the absence of fear, but doing what is required in presence of fear. I am very very proud of you both as is your whole family.
This difficult season of your life is over. You will always love and miss your Mom, but now it’s time to live knowing it’s OK because the suffering is over. Grief is the price we pay for love, so as you grieve rejoice that you experienced love. Some days will be better than others, but if you live intentionally, the best is yet to come. The future is as bright as you make it. Look out world, get your sunglasses cuz here come the Sherman boys!

Barbara Kirk

February 7, 2020

Sending big HUGS, love & prayers for all who loved Mary!
Thanking God for the beautiful , (& funny), spirit of Mary that captured Jim’s heart, that helped create her wonderful sons, (of whom she was so very proud), their beautiful family & for her being part of our world!
Thank you Mary for making & sharing your precious family & being a part of our crazy lives! We love & will miss you. You will never be forgotten!
Love you so very much you handsome Sherman men! You made Mary proud & filled her life with love & joy! You are wrapped in our love and prayers at this time and always!!!
Barbara & Family

Chris Howe

February 7, 2020

I remember Aunt Mary as such a kind and thoughtful person. She always had a way of making people feel cared about and special. I especially remember when I last saw her. She grabbed my hand and there was such an authenticity in her voice when she spoke to me. Her legacy lives on through all of her boys and she will be dearly missed.

Connor & Brittney Dowdy

February 6, 2020

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of grief, God bless you all, we are very sorry for your loss.

Connor & Brittney Dowdy

Fave Sister

February 6, 2020

Sweet Baby James,
We’ve wept, we’ve cried, we’ve laughed, and we’ll carry on. Mary’s friend was right....there are no other Jameses out there. I’m so moved by your dedication to your beloved Mary to whom you gave your all and then some. I cannot even imagine what your family has been through as you all struggled to hang on...including your beautiful bride.
The greatest love of all is that a man would lay down his life for another, and you did that for the love of your life. You ran your race well. Well done, good and faithful servant!
Grief is the price we pay for love. How blessed Mary was that she knew love, was loved, and gave love. Because of your love, her life was blessed.
I’m so sorry for your loss as death is a terrible sting. Now it’s time for new beginnings. When I was widowed I was determined not to let my loss define me, but to redefine, realign, and redesign me. I can promise you that there is life after death here on earth. Be encouraged through your pain as this, too, shall pass. I can’t wait to see what lies ahead. If it wasn’t illegal, I would marry you! You’re the best! I love you and am here for you.
Your favorite older littler sister.

Rick Sherman

February 6, 2020

Dear Jim, Derik and Cameron,
Today we celebrate the life of Mary, your beloved wife and mother. Mary amazed everyone with her love, courage and devotion to each of you. We mourn her passing but are comforted in knowing she has gained her "Angel Wings". She is at peace to touch your hearts and spirits every day as "your new guardian angel".
Please know that we'll be with you in spirit at the service on Saturday and each and every day. If you feel an extra squeeze, that will be us sending caring vibes and love to you.
Hold on to each other and continue to love each other every day knowing that she is in the middle of the group hugs and living in your hearts and minds. Mary was very special. We love and will miss her, but we are thankful she touched our lives and hearts.
We love you guys! God Bless...... Rick and Teresa