OBITUARY

Pamela Marie Carter

December 15, 1969May 26, 2018
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Pamela Marie Carter, 48, of Beech Grove, passed away on May 26, 2018. Pamela is survived by her husband; Michael Carter, daughter; Miranda (Joe) Thomson, mother; Joy (Jim) Pittman, step-son; Nicholas Carter, brother; David Smith, 3 grandchildren; Devin, John and Luke. She is preceded in death by her sister; Janett Howell. Visitation will be Tuesday, June 5th, from 3:00 – 6:00 pm at Feeney-Hornak Shadeland Mortuary with family and friends sharing memories at 6:00 pm. Condolences may be offered at www.feeneyhornakshadeland.com

Services

  • Visitation Tuesday, June 5, 2018
  • Sharing Memories by Family and Friends Tuesday, June 5, 2018
REMEMBERING

Pamela Marie Carter

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Joe Thomson

November 20, 2018

The last time we saw her was actually a first for Luke. First time he had real food – I told you she liked to feed people. Up until then he’s only had the pureed baby food and I look over and she’s got him eating a banana. The smile and laugh I got from her – I’m so happy that our last time with her was so memorable and she enjoyed it so much.
I’ve heard it’s not the years in your life that count but the life in your years and Pam did just that. She lived her life – she showed how much she loved others and did her best to spread peace. If we can take anything away from Pam and something to remember her by – that’s it….

Joe Thomson

November 20, 2018

I think Mark Twain said it best when he said “A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” When I think of Pam and my memories with her, I can’t think of any better quote to describe her life. She lived her life and loved to share her joy, peace and love.
She always liked to host gatherings and have us over. I remember Sundays at her house, watching the Soprano’s while I was dating her daughter – Miranda. Always great food and plenty of it. Sopranos ended and that turned into Football Sundays – even more food – but the best part was the company. Seeing the joy she had for others.
One thing we shared in common was we liked to spoil Miranda. Miranda found a car she liked – but it was in Detroit. Next thing I know – Pam and I are driving to Detroit to get this car for Miranda.
And there was Nana – and Nana bags. Nana bags – it’s late and you’re trying to get out the door, your kid wants candy, parents say no. Well Nana, Nana would pack it all in a bag – more than the bag could hold – and send it home. And then you get home and find out there isn’t one Nana bag, but 3 of them. She loved to spoil her grandbabies.
I can remember when John was being born, labor had stalled and we called Nana. Before we hung up she was there and wouldn’t you know it was able to get Miranda relaxed/laughing and labor back on track.
One of the last times we saw her was Mother’s Day at Granny’s house. Great company, good times, she got to enjoy John and Luke. I really enjoyed watching her with the boys and seeing their faces light up when they were with her.

Devin Hayden

November 20, 2018

The day in particular that I remember seeing her happiest to this day was when she was married to Papaw Mike. She was always smiling, but that day her smile was twice the smile it normally was. I remember it like it was yesterday, standing up there you could practically feel how happy she was. That whole day I don't think any one saw her without at least a grin on her face.
I used to see her almost everyday, she'd watch me while mom went to work… by the time mom got back I'd have fed the fire bellied newt she had. I would throw fits because I didn't want to leave, I was having fun with my Nana. We do every thing together, watch tv, play, laugh, we even went to Granny's house if we had time.
On days my mom brought me to Cardinal Accounts with her I'd be spending time with Nana, but lunch break was definitely my favorite thing she did when I was there with her.
Nana had a sense of humor in all situations, my friends even addressed her as the cheeseburger lady once because I told them That She asked her vendors at marsh if they had a cheeseburger in their pocket since she was hungry, sure enough the next time they came in they gave her a cheeseburger. Another thing that was pretty funny was she'd always lie about her age. She was always younger every time you asked her. She even managed to keep it going after she passed, a few days ago mom called me down stairs. Mom said,"You know how Nana always used to lie about her age?" Sure enough in the obituary section of the paper, it said, Pamela M. Carter age 40.
One of Nana's Facebook posts that I found was something that stated, Never forget where you've been, never lose sight of where you're going, and never take for granted the people who travel the journey with you, Nana was good at all of these things, the rest of us should strive to do so as well.

Devin Hayden

November 20, 2018

My greatest memories of Nana were made while spending time with her, I always looked forward to going to her house.
Before leaving her house she would send you with a Nana Bag, filled with drinks, food, and more. Sometimes she would even send 2 or 3 at a time. She wouldn't take ‘no’ for an answer.
Somethings I might not have heard of without her… out of the few bands that Nana showed me the one that always stuck out was Green Day, I remember sitting next to her on multiple occasions and she'd start humming or singing a Green Day song quietly. Music was the one thing that I could talk to her about.
We've had a tradition of eating Christmas breakfast and thanksgiving dinner at her house, the food was never anything less than perfect. Every time I went to her house for either I'd ask mom at least once, “is she making her biscuits and gravy.” it was my favorite.
She was loving to all things, both plants and animals. Nana had a garden in her yard that she was very proud of, she even talked to her plants. She said it would make the plants happy, and makes them grow. She also had a dioxin named Charlie, she loved him so much that she never let any one call him a name, only she did that. If you needed help she'd help you, give you advice, and even give you a place to stay if needed.
When we would go over there during football season… well it was easier than ever to spend time with her. Even if you don't know what football is, just sit down with her cheer for the Colts and she'd be cheering with you. The Colts game that I went to with her was lots of fun, both of us were standing up yelling good job at times.

Miranda Thomson

November 20, 2018

One of our favorite shows to watch in the 90's was Friends. To this day, I think of her when I see it on TV. How could I not? She had things in common with a lot of the characters. She was a free spirit like Phoebe. Beautiful and liked by everyone like Rachel. She even had the haircut for a little while. And, she was a clean freak and perfectionist like Monica. She used to make us eat over the sink like Monica would make the others do, and she never stopped cleaning up. I cannot tell you how many times I would get something to drink, set it on the table to go in the other room for a minute, and it would be gone when I returned. She had already washed the dish, dried it, and put it away!
She also liked to rearrange things a lot. There were numerous times when I would go to my dad’s for the weekend, and when I returned, not only would the furniture be rearranged, but everything in the cabinets and drawers had been moved around as well. I never knew where to find anything in my own house! Which reminds me, Mike, I’ll be over on Saturday to rearrange the kitchen for you.
In all seriousness, I was truly blessed to have had her as my mom. I may not have had her with me for as long as I wanted or expected, but I am so thankful for the time and the memories that we shared together. I am thankful that, while only for a short time, she was able to know her grandchildren and show them how to be caring, thoughtful people like herself. Maya Angelou said, “If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.” Mom, I don’t think you could’ve been any more successful.

Miranda Thomson

November 20, 2018

My mom was such an amazing woman. She was her own person and never did things or liked anything just because everyone else did. In fact, she usually did just the opposite. She loved everyone and everything. She had a true love for nature and the earth. When I was younger, I would see a spider in my room and ask her to kill it for me. For those of you that don’t know, I am absolutely terrified of spiders. I’m not sure why I would ask her, because she never killed them. Instead, she would catch them and put them outside but not until she was done chasing me around the house with them, trying to tell me they were harmless. She also passed on her love of the earth and all living things to my children. Unfortunately, this became apparent to us when we tried to spray weed killer in our yard and Devin, who was about 4 years old at the time, started bawling his eyes out and begging us not to kill the weeds because they were alive.
My mom would do anything for anyone. I’m not sure if there was ever a time in her life when she put herself first. She treated many of my friends and step-siblings as if they were her own children. If someone needed help or a place to stay, she was there. If someone was hungry, she would feed them.
She also made everything more exciting. She is the only person I know that could make simple things like cleaning the house and going grocery shopping fun. I used to look forward doing these with her every weekend. There would always be loud music, dancing, and singing at the top of our lungs. I feel sorry for the people at the stoplights next to us when we had the sunroof open.

Tom Bailey

November 20, 2018

I remember when we first met thru Kristi,all the years of school,long nites and talks on weekends and summer breaks..just a lifetime of laughter,fun and seeing the bright side of everything.
Never forget introducing you and Michael to each other...we all saw Footloose together. Still brings a smile to my face. I know your looking down on us from Heaven,just want you to know your loved and missed,but know someday we will all share good times forever. Love and miss you....Tom

Dennis Hayden

November 20, 2018

I still remember the first time I met Pam. I had just started dating Miranda amd she told me, "my mom wants to meet you." Nervous I showed up at her house with Miranda, and Pam was waiting in the kitchen. She looked serious at me and said "so... You want to date my daughter?" Then she handed me a paper and pen and said "fill out this application and then we'll talk." She walked out of the kitchen and I started filling it out. About a minute later I heard her start busting out laughing. It really was a legit application. She came back fighting a smile the best she could until I started laughing. I filled out the whole thing, even though Miranda told me it was just a joke. After I was done she filed it away. Then she came back and gave me permission to be in a relationship with her daughter. She was awesome and always treated me kindly. After Miranda and I broke up, she became someone I missed as a result. She gave me biscuits and gravy a couple times when I came to pick up Devin from her house. She always told me to come in, and I always felt welcomed. Miranda, if you're reading this, I've said "sorry for your loss" because I don't know how to put into words what it truly must be like to lose someone like her. We'll miss you Pam.

Darlene Carter

November 20, 2018

Pam we still cant believe you are gone. We loved you from the first time we met. Your beautiful smile and kind heart touched all of us. Watch over Michael from heaven. May he find comfort remembering the special love you had for way too short a time. We will miss you and remember you for ever in our hearts. Rest in heaven beautiful girl Love Mom and Dad (Tony and Darlene)

Norman Fischer

November 20, 2018

Judy and I are so saddened and so sorry to hear of the loss of Pam. God has a plan for each of us, but it's hard to understand why he's taken this lovely lady at such a young age. Prayers go out to you Michael and to all the family.
Love Norm and Judy

Biography

Many things can be said about Pamela Marie Carter. Known to friends and acquaintances as a friendly, energetic, empathic and decisive woman, her compassionate nature would always shine through, revealing her charm, warmth and conscientious demeanor. She was warmhearted, gentle and organized in all the things she sought to accomplish. Pamela was capable of bringing out the best in all of those around her. She generally had a focus on harmony and peace.

Pamela was born on December 15, 1969 at St. Francis Hospital in Beech Grove, Indiana to Joy Smith. Pamela was raised in Indianapolis, Indiana with two siblings. She had one older sister, Janett and one older brother, David.
As a young girl, Pamela was imaginative, ingenious, clever and a “novel” thinker. Regardless of whether her peers were older or younger, or came from different backgrounds, Pamela could easily relate to other kids. She was a Girl Scout. However, to Pamela, the most fun to be had was simply playing and spending time with her friends.

Pamela did well in college, as a result of her being intuitive and finely organized. She earned her Associates degree in Business from Indiana Wesleyan. The skill of being a good communicator helped Pamela immensely during her college days. She was comfortable with abstract information and theories and tended to thrive on the subjects that forced her to think. No matter what class it was, Pamela was always very perceptive and embraced the mental challenges that her college experience provided.

Always considered a “good” friend, Pamela sought to understand the things that others enjoyed. For this reason, Pamela always seemed to possess a never-ending collection of acquaintances. Pamela’s friends found her easy to know and get along with because of her talent for being socially at ease, adept at conversation, and always amiable in her dealings with others. Pamela would always seek to learn what her friends enjoyed, and she would go out of her way to make sure that their needs were met. Pamela was always seen as the type of person who was the more gracious giver. In fact, she sometimes felt ill at ease when she was the one on the receiving end. Throughout her life she had many friends. While growing up, some of her best friends were Kristi Marsh and Sandra Radford.

Compassionate and devoted, Pamela worked hard to make her family happy. She was always generous with her time and this meant that Michael came first in Pamela’s book. She was always caring and made certain that she considered Michael’s feelings. By trusting her emotions, Pamela did her best to make sure that both the marriage and home life ran smoothly. This is just one more example of how Pamela was truly a person of empathy.

Pamela’s quality of being a caring and tolerant person who was very accepting of others translated to being a good mother. Pamela shared these values with her daughter, Miranda. Pamela was also blessed with three grandsons, Devin, John, and Luke. Pamela related well to children of all ages and was able to connect to them on their level. The children always loved her and she was completely and totally devoted to them.

Pamela derived much satisfaction from entertaining. She thoroughly enjoyed having social gatherings with friends and family. Pamela delighted in preparing delicious meals for those that she loved. She was also something of a football fan and you could always count on her to have a game on, especially if the Colts were playing.

Pamela enjoyed traveling. Her gift for keeping things lively meant that vacations with Pamela were always enjoyable. Favorite vacations included cruises to any place with a warm, sunny beach.

Pamela was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of Pamela's favorites was Charlie, a Dachshund. They were best friends for 9.5 years.

Throughout her life, Pamela was a gregarious and enthusiastic woman. She was generous in sharing her personal attributes, giving and helping those she knew and loved. She would often fill the role of coach, bringing out the best in everyone. She was imaginative, original, tender hearted and easy to get along with. Pamela leaves behind her a legacy of life-long friendships and cherished memories. Everyone whose lives she touched will dearly remember Pamela Marie Carter.
She is survived by her husband; Michael Carter, daughter; Miranda (Joe) Thomson, mother; Joy (Jim) Pittman, step-son; Nicholas Carter, brother; David Smith, 3 grandchildren; Devin, John and Luke. She is preceded in death by her sister; Janett Howell. Services were held at Feeney-Hornak Shadeland Mortuary. Pamela was laid to rest in Memorial Park Cemetery in Indianapolis, Ind