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Patricia Mary Serban

November 10, 1944August 17, 2020
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Patricia Mary Grohovsky Serban, age 75, passed away August 17, 2020. She was surrounded by family at the time of her death. Pat was born on November 10, 1944 in Fort Knox, KY, grew up in Terre Haute, IN and moved to Indianapolis, IN in her 20s. She was preceded in death by her parents, Andy and Rose Grohovsky, and her aunt, Tina Fenoglio. Growing up, Pat was surrounded by a very large family in Terre Haute which is where she found her infectious love of family and people. She became an icon of the Grohovsky / Fenoglio families and all the branches, bringing them together for reunions and staying in touch even though distance may have separated them. She was so proud of her family’s immigrant history and all those who fought in wars to establish our country. Pat was molded by her family’s Catholic heritage which led to her very strong connection with her faith. Pat graduated with a teaching degree from Indiana State University and got her Masters from Butler University. She taught in the IPS school system for almost 40 years with most of that at School #43. I think everyone can agree... Pat LOVED teaching and she LOVED her students. Her passion for history and connecting with young people were true gifts. To help pay Beth's college, Pat taught GED night school at the Salvation Army where she mentored those trying to better their lives. Beth, Jeff and the 3 grandchildren were Pat’s focus. She shared her love of life with them, attended as many activities as she could, called them routinely when life got hard for her and she was unable to be with them, and just loved them with her whole heart. There is a big hole in their lives as they say good-bye to Mom / Nana. Pat had many hobbies that helped her pass her knowledge and joy to everyone. She traveled the United States with Beth and others, often taking 6-week road trips during her summers off. Trips to Minnesota to visit family were the top of her list. Pat loved children and she spent a lot of time sharing her creativity and spoiling them when she could. Pat loved helping others and was ready to give the shirt off of her back to anyone in need. She was a voracious reader and loved TV and movies. Her creativity and writing were beyond normal, and hopefully in heaven, she is writing that book she always wanted to. Most of all, Pat lit up a room with her personality. No one was a stranger to her, and she accepted everyone into her home. Pat was smart, funny, goofy, stubborn, loving, lived by her own rules, and she taught us that everyone deserves respect and dignity. Pat is survived by her daughter Beth, son-in-law Jeff and 3 grandchildren, Natalie, Andrew and Catherine. She has also left behind her cousins who are more like siblings and all their families, as well as very close friends.

A Mass of Christian burial will be held at 11:00 a.m., Thursday, August 27, 2020 at Christ The King Catholic Church, 5884 Crittenden Ave., Indianapolis, Indiana 46220. Visitation will be held from 10:00 a.m. until service time. The Mass will be recorded and posted on the Feeney-Hornak Facebook page after the services.

Donations in Patricia's memory may be made to the Julian Center, 2011 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46202.

Services

  • Visitation

    Thursday, August 27, 2020

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  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Thursday, August 27, 2020

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Scott Johnson

August 27, 2020

Aunt Pat, I just didn't come around much, most of the time I've been far away. On the few times we spoke in the last decades, you would always remind me that you were my God Mother and talk with me like it hadn't been 10 or 20 years since we spoke. Be happy in heaven. God bless you. I hope we can have another conversation in 20 years or so. Love, Scott

Alex Grohovsky

August 27, 2020

Aunt Pat was such a fundamental part of our lives and there are too many memories to list. But some of the ones that stand out:

—Sleepovers when Stephanie and I were little and watching House on Haunted Hill or House of Wax
—Piano lessons at Little Flower church
—Christmas and July 4th holidays at her apartment
—Her “Santa” letters
—Birthday dinners (especially at Red Lobster) and shopping
—Summers with the Clarettos
—Phone calls every birthday
—Helping her clean out her classroom at the end of the school year
—Her incredible recollection of past events and story telling, especially her memory of me dancing at Beth’s wedding

There are so many others and every time I stop to think about them, I come up with a new one.

I know she influenced so many people and I hope there is some comfort in knowing that her legacy and influence will continue to live on in those people and how they carry out their lives.

Love,
Alex

Sara Grohovsky

August 27, 2020

I was recently looking through my journal from years back and came across a post from this exact week in 2017. I was visiting Indianapolis for the very first time with Alex and meeting all of his family. Here is what my journal entry said:

"Today I met Alex's family for pizza at a place called Jockamos and I met even more of his family. I spoke to his aunt Pat on the phone who called during lunch and she was absolutely wonderful!! She doesn't even know me but she said the sweetest things ever about Alex and I as a couple. She asked so many thoughtful questions. It made me feel so welcome."

I am so truly sorry for your loss. I am also truly touched to have experienced such a beautiful greeting from a future family member.

Love,
Sara Grohovsky

Larry Grohovsky

August 26, 2020

Beth and Family,
We have a lot of great memories from Pat’s many visits to our home on 8th Avenue, especially after Mass on Sunday mornings.
Mom (Weezer) would fix her an egg for breakfast while Mom prepared her fried chicken for Sunday lunch.
We all are truly sorry for your loss.
Mom is probably hooked up with Pat reliving old times.
Love, 8th Avenue Grohovsky’s

Jerry Grohovsky

August 24, 2020

Beth--Your mom was the #1 family-centric person. As recently stated: she was the Grohovsky family icon. It was amazing how she knew all the birthdays, what everyone was doing at any given time—first generations, second generations—and she spoke with love and pride about all, as if she had just spoken to each family member just yesterday. Our heart aches for your loss of your mother, and we feel an emptiness, a sadness in our Grohovsky family that we never felt before. We hope to make her, and your grandpa and your grandma proud that all of us will continue to carry on the tradition of family love and pride that she, Uncle Andy, and Aunt Rose exemplified for us over these many decades. We love you Pat, we love Beth and Jeff, we love you Grohovsky family.

Michael Grohovsky

August 24, 2020

I was so happy to have Pat in our lives. One thing I would like to say is that she always left me feeling better after we talked. She always asked about the kids and grand kids. I don't mean just casually but she was genuinely interested in these little kids who lived hundreds of miles away. She spoke fondly of our son Luke who shared the same birthday with her (Nov. 10). She loved that Maria was also a teacher. She enjoyed hearing about Gabe and me playing basketball. I always had a lot of questions about events in the fifties and sixties and since she is 9 1/2 years older she could tell me about people and events (I wouldn't know these things otherwise). She is loved and missed so much by all of us. RIP cousin Pat! Love, Cousin Mike

John Rufatto

August 21, 2020

We love and will miss your mom, our cousin. I will personally miss our long talks and reminiscences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this crazy time.
Love, John and Kathy

Kristy Koning McCain

August 19, 2020

Beth and Family,

You are in our thoughts and prayers as you mourn the loss of your mom and grandmother. I remember first meeting your mom at the AXO house at Purdue....her visits were always fun and she was always kind to include me. She was a sweet woman who loved you and was SO proud of you. She raised an amazing daughter. I also remember her passion for teaching and her students. I know that she blessed many lives and truly made a difference. May you find comfort in your memories and love of her. Love to all of you! McCain Family

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