OBITUARY

Alford Edward Carl Deaver Sr.

March 29, 1935April 23, 2014
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Alford “Edward” Carl Deaver, Sr., 79, of Richlands died Wednesday, April 23, 2014 at his home.

He was a member of the Infant of Prague. Mr. Deaver served in the United States Army Reserve for several years.

A Funeral Mass will be held Monday, April 28, 2014 at 12:30 p.m. at the Infant of Prague with Father Jeffrey Bowker officiating. Burial will follow at the Onslow Memorial Park.

He is survived by his wife: Phyllis Franzese Deaver; sons: Timothy Deaver of Richlands, Alford C. Deaver, Jr. of Greer, SC, Lawrence Deaver of Richlands, Peter Deaver of Richlands; daughters: Brenda Terrell of Jacksonville, Rowena Dail of Jacksonville; and ten grandchildren.

The family will receive friends from 6:00-8:00 p.m with a Rosary to follow at 8:00 p.m. on Sunday, April 27, 2014 at Johnson Funeral Home, Jacksonville.

In Lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Lower Cape Fear Hospice, Wilmington.

Condolences may be made at www.johnsonfuneralhomes.com .

Arrangements by Johnson Funeral Home, Jacksonville.

Services

  • Funeral Mass Monday, April 28, 2014
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Phyllis Deaver

May 19, 2015

In loving memory to the one and only love of my life. You have given me so many wonderful memories. A love that never ended but only got stronger through the years. Happy memories through smiles and tears. Two beautiful daughters. Brenda and Rowena. I know the lights in your eyes. (I'd tell you just like me). Four strong handsome sons (like you). You were always so proud of all of them. Ten grandchildren. Brandon, Jayson, Ryan, Stephanie, Justin, Tyler, Aaron, Michael, Victoria and Jessica. One great grandchild Sophia. Truly a very wealthy man blessed by God. I have so much to be thankful for. It was your smile that went straight to my heart. We laughed and loved and always knew what the other was thinking. Everyday would I hear "I love you six" and I would say the same back to you. Just a silly thing that meant so much to me. I know you were hurting but you always tried to do whatever I asked you to. I could hear you talking to Jesus so many times. So faithful. I thank you for all our years together. Fifty-seven. Not long enough. Always in my heart and mind. Your still all around me. I just can't see you but I talk to you all the time. I still look for you. I miss you so much. Each day is so very different now without you here in it. It doesn't seem right. I don't think I will ever get used to you being gone becqause everything I do comes back to you and then I remember your not here. I am so thankful that all of the kids have someone to share their life with. Its sad and lonely without you. You were so important to me and still are. I pray that you still feel my love for you. It can never be replaced. A once in a lifetime love shared between two people. You and me. I will always keep "I love you six" in my heart and know that "I love you six" back. This is not good-bye between us just a little while till we're together again. All my love, Phyllis

PHYLLIS DEAVER

April 29, 2015

HI ED,

ITS JUST ONE YEAR TODAY THAT WE LAID YOU TO REST. IT JUST DOESN'T SEEM POSSIBLE. ONE YEAR SINCE I SAW YOUR FACE AND TOUCHED YOU. ONE YEAR AND IT STILL SEEMS LIKE YESTERDAY. I SEE YOUR SMILING FACE IN MY MIND. I WISH WITH ALL MY HEART THAT I COULD SEE YOU AND TOUCH YOU. I GUESS YOUR IN A BETTER PLACE NOW. IT SURE IS LONELY HERE. WE STILL HAD SO MUCH TO SAY TO EACH OTHER AND THINGS TO DO. I GUESS ITS ON HOLD NOW UNTIL WE ARE TOGETHER AGAIN. TIME GOES BY QUICKLY BUT STILL SEEMS TO STAND STILL. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. I WONDER IF YOU CAN SEE US. I WONDER WHAT YOU ARE DOING. I WONDER SO MANY THINGS. I KNOW I HAVE TO KEEP GOING BUT TRY AS I MIGHT THERE IS STILL SOMETHING MISSING AND THAT SOMETHING IS YOU. I GUESS IT WILL ALWAYS BE THAT WAY. THERE'S NOTHING ELSE THAT I CAN SAY BUT THAT I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH. I WISH FOR YOU TO HAVE NO MORE PAIN. I WILL ALWAYS KEEP YOU IN MY HEART AND MIND. REST IN PEACE MY DARLING. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER I LOVE YOU SIX.

LOVE ALWAYS, PHYLLIS

Rowena Dail

April 24, 2015

Hi dad it doesn't seem like a year has passed. So much has gone on since you have been gone. Paul I have closed our business and both of us have new jobs, which is taking some getting use to. Stephanie and Aubrey have blessed us with a beautiful baby girl your first great grandchild who you would love to pieces. She is beautiful dad and I love her. She makes me happy and I know she would make you happy too. When she's at the house I show her all the pictures and tell her who everyone is so she know you as she gets older and know that she has a wonderful great grandpa who would of loved her dearly. Ryan And Marlyn got engaged and are getting married in June, I am very happy for them and wish them the best. I miss you daddy o and I have been to see you and I talk to you and I know you are listening and telling me that everything is going to be alright and as you would always tell us kids daddy's gonna be ok and yes we know you are. Love Wenna.

PHYLLIS DEAVER

April 23, 2015

Dear Ed

Today is one year since we have been apart. I can't begin to tell you how much I miss you. It doesn't seem to get any better. Your still in my mind and in my heart. I went to visit you today. Put more yellow roses there for you. They are pretty. The sun was out and it was so warm. I talked to you about all our years together. How fast they went. Fifty-seven years-not long enough. I think back to the beginning, year by year. So many good things. It seems like it should have gone on forever. You should still be here with me and the kids. I know they are all thinking of you today. I am so thankful they were all here with me when you left and went to Heaven. You are still here in the house with me. All around me. You gave me so much, but all I needed was you with me. Maybe time will make missing you easier but never in my heart. You will always be with me. I wake up and your there in my mind. I say good morning. When I go to sleep at night I say good nite baby. Maybe that's the way it will be. That I can always talk to you in my mind. I still look for you. Especially when I walk into the house and your not n your chair asking whats for supper? any coffee? any ice cream. Sometimes I would bring you ice cream and you would say yeah and smile that smile. All those things make me smile and I miss you so much. With just a look I know what you are thinking and it feels good. you gave me more love than I could ever put in words. I think of myself as being very wealthy. Having you and sharing you with the kids. Six beautiful children to remind me of you. So much to treasure now. A love to last a lifetime. I pray for you and the kids everyday. Thank you for all you have given me. I will always love and miss you and remember I love you six. Be at peace till we are together again. I love you six.

Love Phyllis I

PHYLLIS DEAVER

April 7, 2015

GOOD MORNING BABE,

WANTED TO TELL YOU ABOUT MY VISIT WITH YOU YESTERDAY. IT WAS SO WARM AND PEACEFUL THERE. THE LITTLE BIRDS WERE ALL OVER SINGING. THERE IS SOME SMALL TINY BLUE FLOWERS AND SOME SMALL YELLOW ONES GROWING ALL OVER. I FIXED YOUR FLOWERS. IT LOOKS NICE. I TALKED AND TALKED TO YOU. TOLD YOU I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY. DID YOU HEAR ME? I THINK OF YOUR SMILE AND THEN I THINK YOUR WATCHING OVER ALL OF US AND I FEEL BETTER. EASTER WAS GOOD. CHURCH WAS GREAT. SAW LOTS OF PEOPLE YOU KNOW. I THINK OF YOU ALL THE TIME. THERE IS 7 BIG YELLOW ROSES THERE FOR YOU. FROM ALL OF US. I THINK OF YOU SMILING DOWN ON US. REST MY DARLING AND BE AT PEACE. KNOW THAT WE LOVE AND MISS YOU EACH DAY. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE, PHYLLIS

PHYLLIS DEAVER

April 5, 2015

HI BABE,
ITS ME. JUSY WANTED TO TELL YOU WHAT I'M DOING. TOMORROW IS EASTER SUNDAY AND I JUST FINISHED COLORING EGGS LISTENING TO THE RADIO. SURE WISH YOU WERE HERE. I KMOW YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN RIGHT THERE WITH ME. THE EGGS ARE PRETTY COLORS. MAKES IT MORE LIKE EASTER. YOU KNOW I WOULD HAVE MADE YOU A BASKET FULL OF GOODIES. I BET YOUR EASTER IN HEAVEN IS SOMETHING ELSE. NOTHING HERE CAN TOUCH IT. ENJOY MY DARLING AND BE HAPPY. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX.
LOVE , PHYLLIS

PHYLLIS DEAVER

March 30, 2015

ED MY DARLING HAPPY BIRTHDAY. HAPPY 80TH BIRTHDAY. WERE YU WATCHING ALL OF US? I KNOW YOU WERE. WE HAD SUCH A WONDERFUL DINNER FOR YOU. TURKEY AND ALL THE FIXINS. AND A BEAUTIFUL CAKE JUST FOR YOU. COVERED IN YELLOW ROSES AND ALL OUR NAMES FOR YOU ON IT. IT WAS JUST SO WONDERFUL. ALL OF US HERE FOR YOU. YOU WOULD HAVE LOVED IT. YOU WERE ALL AROUMND US. I SEE YOU IN THE KIDS AND I HEAR YOU TO. EACH ONE SO SPECIAL. WE PUT HAPPY 80TH BIRTHDAY ED, DAD, DADDIE-O, POPS,POPPY, GRAMPS, AND HOLLYWOOD ON IT. IT WAS SO GOOD. I KNOW YOU MUST HAVE HAD A WONDERFUL BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN YOU BUT WE WERE THINKING OF YOU HERE. REST IN PEACE MY DARLING AND KNOW WE ALL LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU. I LOVE YOU SIX. LOVE PHYLLIS

PHYLLIS DEAVER

March 24, 2015

My Dear Ed,

Letting you know you are in my thoughts and heart. Its 11 months today that you have been gone from me. I think of you all the time. Time goes by fast but still slow for me. The kids are planning a birthday dinner for you and a cake on Sunday. You would be 80 years old. Time together was to short. Should I put 80 candles on your cake? You know it will have yellow roses all over it. I sure wish you were here with us. well my dear, wanted to say "hi" to you. I keep you in my prayers day and night. Remember I love you. Always. I love you six.

Lpve Phyllis

PHYLLIS DEAVER

March 18, 2015

GOOD MORNING MY DARLING

THINKING OF YOU THIS MORNING. THE SUN IS SHINeING AND IT LOOKS NICE OUT. YOU HAVE A BIRTHDAY COMING UP SOON. SURE WISH YOU WERE HERE TO BE WITH ME AND THE KIDS AND HAVE SOME BIRTHDAY CAKE. WE WILL BE THINKING OF YOU. ALWAYS. I WAS LOOKING AT THE STARS LAST NIGHT AND WONDERING IF YOU COULD SEE ME. I SURE HOPE SO. I AM LISTENING TO THE RADIO AND HEARING ALL THE SONGS WE LIKED TOGETHER. THEY MAKE ME SMILE WHEN I THINK OF YOU. WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I AM THINKING OF YOU BUT I THINK YOU KNOW THAT. BE AT PEACE. I LOVE YOU SIX

LOVE PHYLLIS

PHYLLIS DEAVER

February 24, 2015

hey Babe, Its me. Wanting to talk to you. Its 10 months today that were apart. It still seems like yesterday to me. The days and nights are the same. Wondering where I am heading. I miss you. I talk to you all the time. I have real conversations with you. I didn't realize how much we said to each other during the day. I kind of thought we were quiet. But I find myself talking to you like you were still here. Going from room to room. Hearing something on tv. Or the radio. Wow! I miss you. Its been to cold for me to go visit with you but I will as soon as the weather breaks. Its cold. You have a birthday coming up soon, It will be our first one apart in 61 years. Been a long time babe but lots of memories. I have some really good pictures of you and me. I look at them a lot. Makes me smile. Then I talk out loud to you. Sometimes I really think of something and I laugh and laugh out loud. And no one knows but me and you what I am thinking. I'm looking at yOu now in the pool. Its a really good picture. Its that smile you have. The smile I love so much. Every night when I get in bed I say out loud another night without you babe. Another night. 10 months ago and I can still see everything in my mind. Holding your hand and your slipping away from me. I just didn't think it would be so soon. I know you were hurting and getting tired but I still thought not now. later. but not now. And then you were gone. I just couldn't get hold of it. I still can't. You were so here.
so much being with me and talking and now just me. No you and I am looking and looking. This just isn't right.
all we hoped for and now can't share it. I miss you. Time is running but it stopped for us being together. Its like the sun stopped coming out. how do I say I love you and miss you? I pray your looking down on me and the kids and know that your always in my heart. All my love forever. I love you six. Love, Phyllis