Arthaniel P. Alston

May 9, 1948October 17, 2011

Arthaniel “Butch” Alston, born on Mother’s Day, May 9, 1948, passed on to be with Jesus and be reunited with his family members in heaven on October 17, 2011, after a long and courageous battle with cancer. Visitation will be from 6:00 p.m. until 8 p.m. Friday, October 21st at Chapel Hill-Butler Funeral Home, 701 North 94th Street, Kansas City, Kansas. Funeral services will be at 11:00 a.m. Saturday, October 22 at Christ Church of the Jesus Hour, 1119 North 18th Street, Kansas City, Kansas. Interment will follow the funeral service at Chapel Hill Memorial Gardens, 701 North 94th Street, Kansas City, Kansas. Butch was a very unique individual to say the least. He was a graduate of Argentine High School and was employed at U-Haul for many years, and most recently Nebraska Furniture Mart. He loved fast cars, working on cars, playing dominos, cards, Bar-B-Queuing, and socializing with friends and family. He never met a stranger, he would talk to anyone. He always had advice to give out, and gladly did so, even if you really didn’t want to hear it. Butch had many “Butchisms”, sayings he used through life. Some were understood and some weren’t, but nevertheless, they will live on for many, many years. Butch grew up attending Mt. Zion African Methodist Episcopal Church in Argentine, Kansas, and that is where he made his church home again this past year. He was preceded in death by his parents, Lloyd & Lois Alston, and sisters DeLois Gaskin and Elaine Johnson. He is survived by his wife of 37 years, Jan (Bowers) Alston, and their 4 children, Phillip Alston of the home, Micheal Alston and his wife Tiffany of Kansas City, Kansas, Nicole Alston-Harris and her husband Gene of Bonner Springs, Kansas, and Erica Alston of Kansas City, Kansas. Also left behind to cherish his memory are his 4 grandchildren, Geena Harris, Jayde Alston, Micheal Alston II, Leah Alston, and one on the way; his sisters, Brenda Bell-Caffee of Hattiesburg, Mississippi, and Anna Rothwell of Kansas City, Kansas; a special mother-in-law, Esther Bowers of Overland Park, Kansas; and a host of friends and family. Butch, Dad, Brother, Uncle, Papa – you will be missed, but never forgotten. Fond memories and condolences may be left at Arrangements are under the direction of Chapel Hill-Butler Funeral Home, 701 North 94th Street in Kansas City, Kansas (913) 334-3366.


  • Visitation Friday, October 21, 2011
  • Funeral Service Saturday, October 22, 2011

Arthaniel P. Alston

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jan alston

October 19, 2012

happy anniversary my husband this is the second one without you would have been 38 years love you jan

Erica Alston

October 17, 2012

Well Daddy... tomorrow will be! 1 year since u've been gone, and it has been the hardest year ever without u!Your newest baby girl Elyse is 6 months now, and she loves ur blanket frm the cancer center, and ur AFLAC gorilla, and that taling box u had :) She also has the same dimple in her chin... like u! I miss u terribly, and not one day goes by that I don't think of u! I love u!

jan alston

October 16, 2012

well my butchie i am having a hard time believing that it has been almost a year since you left us so suddenly on oct 17 2011 afterall i had just talked to you a few minutes before you passed on. we were making plans for our anniversary on wednesday. i remember that day so vividly every little detail it seemed so unreal, like a dream, but it wasnt , it was very real. although you had been failing, and we knew the end was close, it never crossed my mind just how close you have been in heaven almost a year, with jesus, and friends and family that were waiting for you. now one single day goes by that you are not thought of or spoken about. sometimes it seems as if you will walk in the door and ask "what the devil is going on here" so many things have happene this year, i know you know cuz you are watching and looking over al of us. sometimes i feel your presence very strongly. i thought this would get easier as time has gone on, but it has not. you were apart of my life since i was 16 years old , sometimes it feels like i have lost an arm or leg you were so much apart of me. we have all tried to honor your memory, fulfill your wishes the way you wanted. sometimes we falter, but we get up an try again there have been so many things this past year that wish you were here to see and be part of. geena signing her letter of intent to play ball next year in college at barton community college, our newest granddaughter elyse is a beautiful little girl and she loves your aphgan you got from the cancer center, little micheal lost his first tooth, jayde is playing the violin this year and leah is just as pretty and smart as ever sometmes when she looks at your picture on your obituary she says oh look at papa he is so cute micheal tiff and kids finally got the house of their dreams you have been there before it is where jake simmos lived down in squirrel hollow as you used to put it. they have the whole house kids have so much room to play and he has a garage you would love your iroq and your race car live there. phillip is my helper he takes care of me and as you know we moved it was to hard to stay in our house tooo many memories

somedays are harder than others but i dont think the void in my heart will ever completly heal you touched so many lives while you were here on earth. i love you my butch i miss you and wish you were by my side we had so many things to do yet together. and although i hate cancer and it took you from me, i wouldnt trade our last year together for anything. we became closer than ever before. my ony wish is that our family can heal from wounds and we all can become closer. i listen to your voice at night in that birthday card you recorded and i keep your jeans you had on that last day under my bed nothng has been touched everything is just like it was a year ago. watch over us and help to guide us if you can

i love you my husband and i miss you terribly but i cannot and do not wish you were back here with us. to see you suffer and struggle was so very hard you were/are one of the strongest men i have known and i am such a better person for having had you in my life for so many years

tell my dad mother anwain grandpaps damon delois elaine everyone hello from all of us still on this earth. you will never be forgotten your family and friends carry memories of you always

i will be coming to see you wednesday until then i love you baby

your wife jan

Dawna Rodgers

October 11, 2012

Butch was my 'cool' cousin. He was soft spoken, with a sharp wit, a quick tongue, and that beautiful smile. I knew him as a man who cared for his family and was loved and adored by so many. He will not be forgotten.

jan alston

July 4, 2012

well butchie this is the first 4th without you just not the same but we are carrying on your traditons bbq and booms really feeling your absence today i hope you enjoy what you see from up above we all are missing you osoooooooo much love you baby jan

jan alston

April 6, 2012

well babe as you know we have another beautiful granddaughter elyse yvonne i felt your presence in the deivary room happy easter babe we all miss you jan

jan alston

December 31, 2011

today is the last day of 2011. it doesnt feel right enetering into a new year without you. i look back on the past year soo much happiness and sadness. if anything your illness brought us closer together, and i will always treasure our time together, but especially the past year. cannot believe that soon it will be 3 months since you left us. seems like just yesterday you were here watching your westerns, cracking jokes etc. as you know we all did good thru out the holidays. i know you know cuz you are watching over us from heaven. we miss you baby and think of you all the time. i am caring on your "butchisms" cuz sometimes that is the only way to respond to someone or a situation. continue to watch over all of us. love you jan

jan alston

November 6, 2011

it is hard to believe that 3 weeks ago was your last full day on earth with us. it still seems so unreal. although i know you are in heaven looking down on us, you are missed soooo much everyday. but i found a card today you got me for my birthday with your voice recorded on it. so i play it alot and hear your voice. i imagine you are laughing at me going thru your "empire" in our room. you were surley a collector of "stuff" but it has brought back so many many good funny memories love and miss you pumpkin jan

Nicole Alston Harris

November 5, 2011

Hard to believe it has been almost three weeks since I last spoke to my Dad. I cherish every moment spent with Daddy. I heard "Isn't She Lovely" last week and smiled thinking of all the times he would sing that song to me and dance around the house. I miss him so much, but am so happy to know that I will see him again in heaven.

nodie lindsey

October 22, 2011

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
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