Mary Lou Aguilar

October 14, 1921January 15, 2013

Mary Lou Aguilar, 91, of Kansas City, Kansas, passed away Tuesday, January 15, 2013 at Providence Medical Center. Funeral Services will be 11:00 a.m. Saturday, January 19th at St. Cyril and Methodius Catholic Church, 44 North Mill Street, Kansas City, Kansas. Interment will follow in Mount Calvary Cemetery. Friends may call from 6:00 p.m. until 8:00 p.m. Friday, at the Chapel Hill-Butler Funeral Home, where the rosary will be said at 8:00 p.m. The family requests contributions to Bethel Neighborhood Center, 14 South 7th Street, Kansas City, Kansas 66101.

Mary was born October 14, 1921 in Kansas City, Missouri to Rafael & Martina (Aranda) Mendoza, and she was a lifelong Kansas City Area Resident. She worked for Sunshine Biscuit Company for over 30 years, before retiring in the 1960’s, and was a member of The Baker and Confectionary Union, Local 182. Mary was also a member of All Saints Catholic Church as well as The Bethel Neighborhood Center. She enjoyed watching boxing, and she was active in helping promote local bouts by making wardrobes for boxers and running the concessions for the boxing matches when they used to be held at Sacred Heart in Kansas City, Missouri. She enjoyed many types of sewing, including embroidery and needlepoint, which she taught her daughters.

She was preceded in death by her husband, Joe Aguilar, Sr, when he died in 2002; her son, Anthony Aguilar; 2 brothers, 1 sister and 1 granddaughter. Survivors include her 4 children, Mary Frances Lawrence and her husband Jack of Kansas City, Kansas, Carmen Rose Diaz-Buffalo and her husband Jack of Roanoke, North Carolina, Joe M. Aguilar, Jr of Kansas City, Missouri, and John M. Aguilar of Jacksonville, Florida; 1 brother, Ramon Mendoza of Kansas City, Missouri; 20 grandchildren, 35 great-grandchildren, and 11 great-great-grandchildren.

Fond memories and condolences may be left at, as arrangements are under the direction of Chapel Hill-Butler Funeral Home, 701 North 94th Street in Kansas City, Kansas (913)334-3366.


  • Visitation Friday, January 18, 2013
  • Rosary Friday, January 18, 2013
  • Mass of Christian Burial Saturday, January 19, 2013

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January 21, 2013

on behalf of THE FRIAS FAMILY,we want to
send our most heart felt condolences, our MOTHER thought the world of her Comadre MARY. When Mrs aguilar would call,mothers face would light-up just hearing her voice.May God bless ur family at this difficult time. In our hearts we believe that they are reunited and looking down on us all, the compadres are again celebrating together as they did here on earth. GOD BLESS YOY ALL

Anna Villanueva

January 20, 2013

Our prayers and condolences to each of you. I have many memories of Mary Lou to cherrish and share with my families. Our love and prayer to all. God be with you and keep your families strong. Love Annie Villanueva and families

Marty Garcia & Family

January 20, 2013

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always. Carmen and family if there is anything we can do. Please just ask.

Melinda Krautmann

January 18, 2013

Our Dear Mary! We at Bethel Neighbohood Center will miss her so much. I can't begin to tell you, her family, how she touched us all with her strong faith and her cheerfulness even when she was in pain. She showed so much determination in coming each week to Bethel, eager to partipate and contribute to our Bethel Community. Mary often told me, "I'd kiss you, but I only kiss men!" So I'm thinking that now she can kiss the Good Lord Jesus, all those Apostles, and give hugs to all the rest of them in Heaven! God has blessed us richly in having Mary to show us how to love, have hope, and be faithful.

"In the tender compassion of our God the dawn from on high shall break upon us, to shine on those who dwell in darkness and the shalow of death, and to guide our feet into the way of peace." Luke 1: 78-79

Mang Sonna

January 18, 2013

Mary Lou Aguilar was one of our senior program participants at Bethel Neighborhood Center. She always said, "Smile, you look better when you smile," and she smiled a lot and made us all happy. She never complained and had a very positive outlook and attitude the whole time she participated in our senior program. She was a good friend to our program participants, the Bethel staff members, and our volunteers. She taught us to be kind through her actions. She never kept anything for herself but shared everything she had with others. Every morning she was at Bethel, she tried to give me her chocolates and cookies. We, at Bethel Center, are so blessed to have had her with us. We will treasure our memories of her. We will miss her very much! May her soul rest in peace!

Julie Calderon-Cisneros

January 18, 2013

Grandma Mary you will be greatly missed by all my family. Thank you for always being there for us and giving us all the wisdom of your faith. I will never forget when you would come to the house with my Mom and my husband would always tell you guys if you was planting a garden on your car because at that time it was all muddy ( i don't remember why) and you told him si Mr. Calderonie voy a sembra chilis and tomatoes para hace te un chili picoso. God bless you mijo and drive away. Grandma Mary that was one of your favorite this to do either on the phone and even when she was driving. God Bless and I love you and hang up or drive aways. I will miss all the Christmas cards and special little gifts you always gave us that i still have and will always cherrish. Dios te tenga en su Santo gloria. No wyou can catsh up on all the chismes with my Mom give her a big hug and kiss from all of us.


January 18, 2013


Tamara Needham

January 18, 2013

So very sorry for your loss. I will always remember her beautiful smile and her laugh. My thoughts and prayers for your Family. Love you all the Needham Family

Dolores (Lola) Woolery (Mendoza)

January 17, 2013

My wonderful Aunt Mary. You were always so cheerful. Always having a smile on your face with something sweet to say to whomever you met. I will never forget you or your smiling face. And I'm sure my husband will never forget the hugs and kisses you were always ready to give him. I will miss you terribly but I know you are now at peace with no more pain. Love and kisses to our Foxy Lady!

monica (aguilar) sharp

January 17, 2013

Grandma I am going to miss your call to see how i am doing and just to tell me your getting ready to pray the rosary and you were going to pray for me. I always told you pray for me double I need all the prayers i can get, then you would say god bless you okay good bye then hang up. well don't stop praying for me in paradise. Aunt Carmen you have been there for me when I lost my sister Juanita a week ago I am here for you. just like you were there for me. Aunt kika and uncle joey same for you too. I Love you guys and always have been there when needed. Another Angel was needed and is joined with the rest of the family that we have lost.