Arliene May Sayles

April 21, 1943March 19, 2020

Arliene May Sayles, loving wife, mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, and friend passed Thursday, March 19th, 2020 at Research Medical Center in Kansas City, Missouri.

Arliene was born on April 21, 1943 at St. Luke’s Hospital in Bradford, West Yorkshire, England to Walter and May Robinson. She was the oldest of three, preceding Hilary and Phillip. As a youngster, Arliene enjoyed sports. She participated in field hockey, netball, cycling, swimming and diving. She particularly excelled at swimming and diving where she was approached to begin training for the Olympics at a young age.

Arliene attended Thornton Grammar school until the age of 16 when she graduated. After graduation, she started working at Brown Muff’s the nicest department store around. A couple years later Arliene went to work for GPO as a telephone operator. In 1963, Arliene met Otto Sayles, a young American stationed at Menwith Hill near Harrogate, North Yorkshire, England. After a short two months together, Otto’s time in England ended and he returned to the United States at which point the two pursued a long-distance relationship.

One week after her 21st birthday, in 1964, Arliene moved to Baltimore, Maryland to work as a nanny for author Cynthia Rosenwald. Otto and Arliene corresponded for two years before they were reunited in June of 1965 when Arliene moved to Kansas City, Missouri. The two married later that year in September.

In 1968, Scott, Arliene and Otto’s first-child was born, followed by Kimberley in 1970 and Kirsten in 1974.

Arliene worked at Spencer, Fane, Britt & Browne, a law firm in Kansas City until Kim was born. She then chose to stay at home and raise her children. Arliene later worked part-time for Helzberg Jewelers until she started with IFTC & DST where she worked for 17 years starting in a minimum wage position and working her way up into a management training position.

In 1985, Arliene started attending the Grandview Hickman Mills Elks Lodge when her husband, Otto, became a member. She became an active D.E.A.R. serving in the organization, and in 2002 became first lady of the state of Missouri Benevolent and Protective Order of Elks when Otto was elected as President of the state of Missouri BPOE. Arliene made many lifelong friendships around the state of Missouri and the country through her participation in the Elks.

Arliene spent her years after retiring from DST, traveling with Otto around the country, enjoying her time with friends she made through the Elks Lodge, and spending time with her grandchildren. Time with her grandchildren and family was always her favorite thing though.

Arliene was preceded in death by her mother, May, father, Walter, and brother, Philip Robinson, as well as her father-in-law, Otto A. Sayles, mother-in-law Marie Sayles, brother-in-law Frank Dean, brother-in-law Donald (Skip) Sayles, and sister-in-law Joyce Sayles. She is survived by her husband of 54 years Otto, her three children, Scott and wife Jeanna Sayles of Belton, Kim and husband Tom Spencer of Harrisonville, and Kirsten and husband Andrew Braun of Kansas City, three grandchildren, Taylor, Dylan, and Ben, her sister Hilary Dean of Bradford, England, brother and sister-in-law Ed and Jean Sayles of Texas, and numerous nieces and nephews in both the United States and Great Britain. Arliene will be greatly missed by both family and friends.

A celebration of life for Arliene May Sayles will be held at a later date at the Grandview Hickman Mills Elks Lodge. Details of the event will be posted on the Missouri Elks website,

Please join us in celebrating the life and shared memories of Arliene May Sayles.


  • Walter Robinson, Father (deceased)
  • May (Baines) Robinson, Mother (deceased)
  • Philip Robinson, Brother (deceased)
  • Otto A. Sayles, Father-in-law (deceased)
  • Marie Sayles, Mother-in-law (deceased)
  • Frank Dean, Brother-in-law (deceased)
  • Donald "Skip" Sayles, Brother-in-law (deceased)
  • Joyce Sayles, Sister-in-law (deceased)
  • Otto Sayles, Husband of 54 years
  • Scott Sayles (Jeanna), Son
  • Kim Spencer (Tom), Daughter
  • Kirsten Braun (Andrew), Daughter
  • Taylor, Dylan & Ben, Grandchildren
  • Hilary Dean, Sister
  • Ed Sayles (Jean), Brother-in-law


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Arliene May Sayles

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Debby Aliff

March 31, 2020

Such a lovely Lady. Arliene always had a great smile and warm welcome for everyone . She will be missed. To Otto and family, my sincere sympathies and prayers.

Rick Rose

March 27, 2020

A finer lady I have never met. Always enjoyedaou talks at Elks gatherings.

Mary Love

March 26, 2020

What a beautiful life story. She always made others feel welcomed and valued. RIP

Renee Smith

March 26, 2020

Our sincere condolences to our fellow Elk, Otto and family. I loved spending time with Arliene and discussing the Windsor Royal Family and her upbringing in the UK. She was the sweetest most kind person I have ever known and we will miss her very much. Arliene, you were an Angel here on earth and now an Angel in Heaven. Our prayers, thoughts and love go out to Otto and family.

Cassy DeHaan

March 26, 2020

My deepest condolences to the family, I send you prayers and hugs. Arliene was a very special woman who cared for everyone she met. I was lucky enough for her to take me under her wing and treat me like a daughter. Like most folks I have so many cherished memories that it is almost to difficult to choose one to share. However here is a chuckle, we went to Elks road tripping in the van and she asked me how old my Mum was. When I told her she replied "oh my, I'm the same age as your Mum, and you are running around with me." I replied that I would always choose to spend time with her because I loved her. I will miss you Arliene, even though I know you will continue to watch over us all.

Cecilia Deterding

March 26, 2020

I worked with Arliene at DST in the Lord Abbett group. She was my mentor. She shared her knowledge willingly and helped me through processes until I understood the whole flow of things. I will never forget her words and can still hear them in my head, in her little accent, “How do you eat an elephant, Cecilia? One bite at a time. “ She then broke things down in little pieces, till I got it! I have thought of her often and know how much she loved Otto and her family...RIP my dear sweet friend. Love, Cecilia.

Dennis Butler

March 26, 2020

Prayers for Otto and family.

Don Huff

March 26, 2020

My most sincere condolences too Otto and family. It was always a joy visiting with Arliene. She will missed by all that new her.
In my twenty plus years of knowing her not once did her being an accomplished diver come up. I now know where the family athleticism came from.
When it's possible, I'll be having a Busch Light in her memory at the Lodge. By, "Love".

Rich & Ruth Larkin

March 26, 2020

Dear Otto & family, it is with a heavy heart that we send you our love and prayers of comfort and support. Too many " lovely" memories of great times to pick just one. You are in our prayers. Love, Rich and Ruth

Lila Dunlavy

March 26, 2020

Love this beautiful woman so much. Remembering all our time spent together watching the news and crying while our kids was in desert storm war ect. Starting the wii bowling teams at the lodge, many conventions together.and our special friendship and love for each other.dont know what I will do without her being here to talk to,and hugs from her.and her calling me liler lol. My friend for ever you will truly be missed. God speed