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McGilley Memorial Chapel-Midtown

20 West Linwood Blvd, Kansas City, MO

OBITUARY

James Coleman "Jay" Flaherty

February 4, 1949May 1, 2020

James C. (Jay) Flaherty, 71, of Kansas City, Missouri, passed away on May 1, 2020. Jay graduated from Liberty High School and Park University, having swum competitively for both. He remained a supporter of the Alumni Council and Hermits fraternity at Park. An Eagle Scout, Jay long supported the Tribe of Mic-o-say, a scouting honor society, at H. Roe Bartle Scout Camp as well as lifesaving at the camp pool. Jay’s early career was in underwriting for Universal Underwriters and safety engineering for Lumberman’s Underwriting Alliance. Work took him to Boise, Idaho, where he discovered his true calling as gregarious bartender. Jay was passionate about family and friends, enthusiastic about rugby, trivia, crosswords, Doo-wop and happy hour. He was preceded in death by his parents, Winona and J.J. He is survived by his wife Cindy, daughters Maureen and Kourtney Lynn, daughter-in-law Alanna, granddaughter Addison, son Sean McGuire, and wide-spread Flaherty family. Jay met people effortlessly. His outgoing and expressive presence will be missed widely; friends will know to raise a glass of Guinness to him. The family invites their anecdotes. A memorial will be planned for a later date.

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Bill Price

May 16, 2020

A friend forever. Independence Rugby Football Club❤️❤️❤️😎

Alistair Tutton

May 10, 2020

And I just found this photo of Jay - Cindy, let me know if you have this or if you'd like me to send it over.

Doug Phemister

May 10, 2020

Jay and I went to Liberty High School together (Class of '67) and were just casual acquaintances. But 11 years ago he reached out to me and we became very close. We had almost daily Facebook contacts and he loved playing trivia which we have done on a daily basis for more than 10 years! Once a friend with Jay you were friends for life! His caring and kindness toward others is what I will always remember. He liked to portray himself as a crabby old man in recent years but he had a heart of gold and people knew it.


Randy Hill

May 8, 2020

Jay was a true friend for nearly 60 years. Was my best bud from the time I arrived in Liberty in 1960. We shared many an adventure in those early years and remained close to the end. Rest in peace my dear friend, you are missed terribly. Until we meet again.

Mike Moorefield

May 8, 2020

I knew Jay most of my life and and I always admired his love of life, people, Mic-O-Say, rugby and yes, Guiness! Whenever I had a tribal question he had the answer. I will definitely miss him.
Mike Moorefield
Firebuilder Little Swift Lightning

donna woolard

May 8, 2020

Jay was one of the wonderful friendly people I ever met. We got to know each other in HS in many classes. He never new a stranger and always made an effort to speak or talk to you. As the years passed and he came back to many of the class reunions, it was always so fun to catch up with him and his family and all his many interests!! He talked of his grandchildren...and always stilled loved Rugby.
We visited alot over FB the last few years and shared many thoughts and feelings. He will be missed and remembered for his incredible friendliness and joy towards others!!
I will miss you my friend!! R I P!

Donna Gray Woolard class of 1966

Henry & Phyllis Font

May 8, 2020

When Jay came to Park, his mother, Winona, asked Henry to take Jay under his wing. That was the beginning of a life long bond. Jay always called Henry his brother, and like brothers, they managed to have fun, get in small accidents together, dust themselves off, and continue to be united. They swam together competitively at Park , and after we were married, Jay was a part of our family. He loved his daughters deeply, and we looked forward to visits with them in later years. When he returned to Kansas City, from Boise, he introduced us to the love of his life, Cindy. We witnessed their tying the knot in Liberty. He and I loved to joke about our being Irish, as he teased Henry about his Puerto Rican heritage. He was a favorite at our Irish parties on our boat at Lake Weatherby.
It is difficult to imagine life without him, but we vow to continue our journey with Cindy...and yes, we will always continue to raise a glass to you, our dear Jay.

Mercedes Martin and Don Christiansen

May 7, 2020

We made friends with Jay way back in the Lynn Insurance days in the early '70s. As part of the 10:00 a.m. coffee break group, who would have guessed we were forming a group of 7 friends that would last for so many years. The last time we seven were all together, we parted with the names Doc, Secretive, Sleepy, Skeptical, Grumpy, Obi-Wan, and Snow White.

Jay, you were a friend to many, and you gave your time so freely to help other people. And, now there are 5. Jay, we're going to miss thee!

With much love to you and to your family and friends.

Snow White and Obi-Wan

Jim Brady

May 7, 2020

I met Jay when I worked at 75th St. Brewery. I was 22 years old then. Next month I’ll be 44. I guess I’ve known him half my life. That’s a heck of a thing to realize. We bonded over Scouts and rugby. He always had a sour, cantankerous, and rather sharp wit. Some people would say that made him a (you fill in the blank); but Jay wasn’t one of those. I don’t like those type of people and I like Jay very much. No, not so hidden underneath Jay’s snapping turtle shell is a gentle, caring and loving soul. He is a good man. I’m looking forward to watching a rugby game with him in the next life.

Roby Brown

May 7, 2020

Well Mr Flaherty, you have moved on to another adventure. Know that you will be missed. Always thought it was so cool all the things in your life that you loved, your daughters, Cindy, Scouting , Rugby and last but not least the friends that have passed through your wonderful life. Terri and I are proud to have been your friends. May the pitch be lush, you win all your put in and most of your opponents and score often and with integrity.

Love you brother

Roby and Terri Brown
Boise

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