Matthew Butner’s Funeral Mass will be viewable via Facebook Livestream beginning at 10:00 AM Saturday, December 5, 2020.

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Matthew John Butner

December 24, 1955November 18, 2020

Matthew Butner passed away on November 18, 2020. He was born on December 24, 1955 in Independence, MO.

He is survived by his wife Nancy, children Amy Hogan (Casey) and Steven Butner (Whitney), father Vincil Butner, brothers Michael (Vicki), Mark (Julie), and sister Ann. Matthew was preceded in death by his mother Mary and his sister Mary Margaret Cook.

Of special significance to Matthew were his second set of brothers and their spouses from his high school years. The 74-Fellowship was nearly a lifelong contributor to his growth and happiness, some of whom will be pallbearers. Those include The Dandurands, Donigans, Father Hermes (Celebrant), Flannerys, Jennings, McAuliffes, McMenamys, Pearces, Swartzes, Triticos, Vandergriffs, Velasquez, and preceded in death by Dan Hogan. Also irreplaceable throughout his life were extended Butner and Matthys family members.

Matthew lived a blessed life starting with a supportive and adventurous childhood. During college he met his wife Nancy, the love of his life (his words) for forty plus years. Their children Amy and Steven became the focus of his life. Their spouses Casey and Whitney enhanced his family. The gift of family was completed with grandchild Preston, Cameron, Kennedy, and Hannah. Although his grandchildren never knew the pre-ALS Matthew, each one had their own special bond with him. Matthew enjoyed a successful career in pharmaceuticals, working for the same company for thirty-two years. His career, which was both challenging and rewarding, enabled him to travel the world. After retirement, voluntary teaching brought him joy.

Matthew loved the image of a changing autumn tree. He thought it a wonder that it was at its peak of brilliance just before its winter sleep. Throughout his life, he always wanted to bring value, brilliance and purpose. It was his hope that lessons taught, experiences shared, and reflective memories will foster new growth in the spring. During his thirteen years of ALS transition, his personal reflections often provided comfort, which he compiled into a book, Chapters Living With An Incurable Disease. Throughout Matthew’s life he was an inspiration to many. As his ALS journey progressed, he had to relearn many of life’s simplest tasks, often more than once. During these challenging times, Matthew and Nancy were surrounded by numerous close friends and countless unknown angels. He never gave in to ALS and lived life to the fullest.

Go Chiefs!

A public visitation is scheduled from 5:00 - 8:00 PM Friday, December 4th at St. Gabriel Catholic Church. A private Funeral Mass will be held on Saturday at St. Gabriel Catholic Church; burial will be in Resurrection Cemetery. The Funeral Mass may be viewed via the Facebook page of McGilley Antioch Chapel.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to St. Gabriel’s Elementary School, 4737 N. Cleveland, KCMO 64117.



4 December

Public Visitation

5:00 pm - 8:00 pm

St. Gabriel Catholic Church

4737 N Cleveland Ave
Kansas City, MO 64117

5 December

Private Funeral Mass

10:00 am - 11:00 am

St. Gabriel Catholic Church

4737 N Cleveland Ave
Kansas City, MO 64117

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richard gielow

November 28, 2020

Remember well the contributions that Matt made at St.
John's. I always appreciated his willingness to do whatever
was needed and he was always respectful to the faculty and
staff. I was grateful for the support he gave me. I am saddened
that his life was cut short by this disease. I am quite sure that
his acceptance of his suffering went a long way as he evangelized
those around him. He was a great addition to the life and family
of St. John's.... God Bless, Fr. Dick Gielow,CM

Dianna Pfaff

November 27, 2020

Matthew was a kind and gentle human being. My heart goes out to his family and friends as they say their goodbyes. May he rest in peace.

Jesse Stamper

November 27, 2020

While at Tiffany springs, Mr. Butner, took care of all of those who took care of him. He was always sharing his knowledge and wisdom on life. Thanks to him i now know how to do my taxes and invest, and i have a lot of knowledge about stamps! I always looked forward to chatting with Mr. Butner, he made the days at work brighter and he will forever be missed at Tiffany springs.

Rose Catlin

November 27, 2020

Nancy, I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in
my prayers. Stay strong.

Mary Lee (Van Hee) Dillbeck

November 25, 2020

We are so sorry to hear of the death of your husband. It is very difficult but we take comfort in knowing that he is sharing in Christ’s redemption. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Mike and Dana Schwartz

November 25, 2020

We have been so blessed to know Matthew. It has been an inspiration to say this gentleman and caring soul was our friend. Sending hugs and prayers for continued peace.

Hannah Tennant

November 24, 2020

I will never forget taking care of Mr.Butner. He brought comfort and happiness to my coworkers and I. If I needed a room to hide in or someone to vent to he was always there to listen. I will miss coming in on my days off to hang out with him for a bit, and talking to him about literally anything. He will forever be in my heart.

Pat Trembly

November 24, 2020

Dear Nancy and Family... I never had the privilege of meeting your husband but knew he had fought the valiant fight against ALS. My friend Jean Vanderhiden volunteered at St. Gab's with Matthew and she spoke so highly of him, of how good he was with the kids and how they all loved him. Know this will be a difficult time for you but wanted you to know you are remembered in prayer. My sympathies to you and your family. Pat Trembly

Kaitlyn Arnold

November 23, 2020

My deepest condolences to the Butner family. He was a wonderful man who always put a smile on my face. I was one of the CNA’s at Tiffany Springs who had the pleasure to spend a lot of time with him. I will never forget him or his kindness and wisdom. I hope he has found rest, and peace in the arms of our Lord.

Jim Morgan

November 23, 2020

Dear Nancy, Amy, and Steven,

I am a 1968 graduate of St. John's who had the pleasure of knowing Matt, Mike and Mark. I also had the pleasure and honor of being Matt's Frosh/JV basketball coach. He was always upbeat and had a really sly, playful sense of humor. I am saddened to learn of Matt's passing, but I am truly humbled and inspired after reading of his heroic battle with ALS. The testimonials of his friends speak volumes of Matt's inner strength and character. The world is a much better place because of Matt. He will be missed. Deepest condolences. Jim Morgan, St. John's Class of '68


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