Norma Dean Cain

December 31, 1929February 11, 2020
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Norma was born and raised in LaCygne, Kansas, to John Lark and Stella Ethel (Dye) Kyle. She attended high school in LaCygne, graduating valedictorian of her class. She then attended University of Kansas School of Nursing graduating with her RN Degree. Her choice of career reflected her gentle, caring nature and a drive to help others. She met her future husband, John H. Cain there as well.

Norma and John established their home and raised their children in Kansas City, Missouri. She continued her nursing career with the bulk of years working at Pediatric Associates Kansas City where her exemplary work ethic and connection to people created lifelong relationships with the people she came in to contact with. Her example continued when, together with John, they started a decades –long Dairy Queen business. They built a legacy of a positive influence in the lives of many young people who were employed there, most often their first job and continued to hear from them throughout the years. She returned to nursing for a short while as well as some in-home care giving for seniors where she met and worked with Wendy Lovett who remained a close friend and provided some much needed help in her later years after retiring.

A devout Christian, Norma was a member of Connection Point Church in Raytown, Missouri and spent time volunteering in the church after retirement. What she loved to do the most was anything that involved being surrounded by her large family.

She was preceded in death by her parents and her husband, John of 46 years in 1997. He remained the love of her life.

Norma is survived by: her children Mark (Pam) Cain, Mindy (David) Shay, and Richard (Angie) Cain; grandchildren Matt (Tiffany) Cain, Brian (Crystal) Cain, Sean (Kristen) Shay, Sarah (Kent) Doan, Courtney Miller, Lauren Harmon, and Victoria Cain; great-grandchildren, Elizabeth, Caylynn, Cameron, Ryleigh, and Addison; sister Betty Hamby as well as many, many nieces, nephews, great nieces & nephews, and great-great nieces & nephews.

In Lieu of flowers, Memorial Contributions made be made to Leukemia & Lymphoma Society or to American Heart Association/Go Red for Women. Links are provided below.


  • Visitation - "Monday Evening" Monday, February 17, 2020
  • Funeral Service - "Tuesday Afternoon" Tuesday, February 18, 2020
  • Graveside Service Tuesday, February 18, 2020


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Kelly Twogood

February 18, 2020

Here’s one of my fondest memories of his fun-loving Aunt Norma. (This story was read by Kathy Strickland at today's memorial service.)

One morning Aunt Norma told Kelly that she’d like to have a cup of coffee and a piece of pie. Having a hard time coming up with a place to go, she said “Have you ever been to the Peachtree Restaurant?” She had heard about it but had not been there. Kelly said, “No, let’s go.” (He was always up for trying a new place.)

As they walked up to the counter to get a table, the person at the counter said, “That will be $8.50 each” Kelly said “We only want a piece of pie and coffee.” The hostess said, we only have one price.

When the waitress came, they said “We’d like a cup of coffee and a piece of pie and she informed them that there was only one price for all they could eat.”

When they realized their good fortune of stumbling onto a buffet restaurant, they decided to sample every dish in the place.

But after doing that, they still hadn’t had any pie. The waitress said “We have peach cobbler and bread pudding. You can either help yourself or I will serve it to you a la mode.” Of course, they chose to be served.

After leaving the restaurant, Kelly said, “I am miserably full.” Aunt Norma replied, “It’s amazing how that can happen when only looking for a piece of pie and coffee.”

Nancy Hamby

February 18, 2020

I shared the following at Aunt Norma's memorial service today:

Norma Dean Kyle Cain was a much beloved lady to a great many people. She really never met a stranger.

She was born on her mother’s 43rd birthday. Several of us teased her about being the neglected child. She had a framed grouping of the baby pictures of all her siblings. All of the children have nice professional studio portraits except for Norma’s little snapshot photo which was cut out and stuck on the bottom of the frame. This could have been because of the financial times since she was born in December after the stock market crash of October 1929.

After she became an RN, she also became the family nurse on call at all times of the day and night in addition to whatever full-time job she had. When her mother developed cancer, her parents bought the house next door to Norma and John. She took care of her mother during her last days, and continued to monitor her father until he went into a nursing home.

In later years, she and her sister Betty became known in the family as the Big Dogs. I think Kelly Twogood was the first to give them this nickname. Whenever someone needed to be prodded into going to the doctor or attending or hosting a large family gathering, you called on the Big Dogs. After all, who could say no to a couple of little ol’ gray haired ladies.

Norma had a lot of admirable qualities, but like all of us she had her flaws - most notably with keeping plants alive and failing to figure out her smartphone and her computer. She did enjoy using her computer to make greeting cards, and many of us enjoyed receiving these.

Norma had an unwavering faith in God which showed through her joyful and gentle spirit and great devotion to her family. She was a prayer warrior for many of us, and leaves behind a legacy of love and laughter.

Kathy Strickland

February 18, 2020

I said the following today at Aunt Norma's memorial service:

I’d like to say that I was her favorite niece, but that just wouldn’t be true. She loved everyone and was willing to share herself with all of us. A rare quality indeed.

Today is a happy sad day. We’re happy because she has no more pain, but we’re sad because we will always miss her. This past year has been a difficult one for her and her family, but she is now free. Praise God from whom all blessings flow.

We could be here for many days if we were to share all of our stories, so I’m only going to share a few with the intention to make you smile on this happy sad day.
I think that’s what she would want.

Mary Douglass

February 17, 2020

Norma Cain and her Husband John gave me my first job at Dairy Queen. They both were happy to adjust my schedule for school or other events if needed. They also would offer to drive me to work when the weather was bad and I wasn't able to get there. She was a wonderful loving person who will truly be missed by anyone who knew her. My deepest condolences are with Mark, Pam, Mindy and Richard. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

My Mom Alice also wanted to express her sympathy to you all also. She also has very fond memories of Norma from before and after working at Dairy Queen .

John Kyle

February 17, 2020

As one of her Left Coast nephews my visits with Aunt Norma and Uncle John were infrequent but always made a fine memory. Their kindness and generosity to a young soldier on Christmas leave, a grieving son and newlywed bride, the occasional extended business trip while I had a client in Kansas. I'm very grateful [ thanks Aunt Betty] that Carolyn had the opportunity to spend some time with Aunt Norma; exchanging nurse jokes, I imagine.
Condolences to Mark, Mindy, Richard and their extended families. I know you'll miss her. There's always a little sadness around times like this but what a long, meaningful and wonderful life to remember! John Kyle and Carolyn Griffith RN.

Dorothy Piccirillo

February 16, 2020

Norma was a lifelong friend. My husband John and her John introduced us over a fancy dinner. We were both nurses and worked together many years, first for Dr. Ketchum, then for Dr. Blim at Pediatric Associates. With our husbands being friends as well, our families spent many fun times together. We leaned on each other when we lost our husbands. In the last year we lived close and we’re able to visit together. I cherished her friendship and will miss her deeply. My sincere sympathy to Mark, Mindy and Richard and the rest of her family.
Love Dorothy

Claudia Richards

February 14, 2020

Norma was a longtime friend and coworker. She had a calming and caring personality. I will miss her smiling face! Thinking of her family.

Ginnie (Holm) Hilyard

February 13, 2020

I so admired this wonderful lady. She was a mainstay of our family reunions. I'll never forget her infectious laugh.

Vicki Franklin

February 13, 2020

I was Norma’s hospice volunteer (friend). Oh, how I truly enjoyed going to visit her every Wednesday at JKV. She always made my day with her sweet smile and would always ask me what I’d been up to since she last saw me. One week I had to miss my weekly visit with her and when I did go visit the following Wednesday, her face lit up and she grasped my hand to welcome me. I will truly, truly miss our times together. I trust that Norma will be smiling at me on Wednesdays now, knowing that I cherished our times together. Blessings to her daughter, sons, grandchildren and all her loved ones. She was a very special woman and she will hold a special place in my heart. Thank you for sharing her with me.

Kyla Ewbank

February 12, 2020

I miss my great aunt, companion and friend. From memories where I received clothes from my cool older cousin., Mindy, to stopping by Kentucky Fried Chicken after church and hanging out with Aunt Norma. I could write a book of fond memories about her. One day in particular she cured my nausea and headache with having me pop a peppermint in my mouth. Great Aunt Norma thank you for your guidance in how to treat others as a nurse.