Thomas E. Rhoades "Tom"

June 15, 1959April 11, 2018
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Thomas Ervin Rhoades, age 58, of Lee’s Summit, MO, passed away on April 11, 2018. Visitation 6-8PM on Sunday, April 15, at First Baptist Church Lee’s Summit, 2 NE Douglas St. Funeral to be held at 11AM on Monday at church. Burial at Floral Hills East, Lee’s Summit.

Tom was born June 15, 1959, in Kansas City, MO. He graduated from Raytown South High School in 1977 and Rockhurst University in 1981. Tom owned the Big Boy Burgers restaurant in Independence, MO. He loved his family and God. He always had a friendly smile for those around him and was helpful to those in need.

Tom is survived by his wife of 27 years Lisa; daughters Jennifer and Jessica, all of Lee’s Summit; parents Paul & Patricia Rhoades of Kingsville, MO; sister Diane (Kevin) Cox; brother Jeff (Paula) Rhoades; mother-in-law & father-in-law Kenny & Carol Lutes; sister-in-law Marsha (Russ) Barnell; 3 nephews and 3 nieces; as well as his grandmother Dallas Goodman.

Fond memories and condolences may be left at

Arr.: Newcomer's Floral Hills, 7000 Blue Ridge Blvd., KCMO 64133, (816) 353-1218.


  • Brad Stubbs
  • Kevin Thomas
  • Doug Wilson
  • Brian Finch
  • Alex Franco
  • Russ Barnell
  • Jonathan Barnell
  • Kevin Cox


  • Visitation Sunday, April 15, 2018
  • Funeral Service Monday, April 16, 2018
  • Committal Service Monday, April 16, 2018

Thomas E. Rhoades "Tom"

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Steve Flick

April 17, 2018

Tom was special man who had a million dollar smile. He would always find time to talk when we were at the restaurant. My heart goes out to the family during this time - and we live for the promise we will se him again!

James Thomas

April 16, 2018

I was born in 1978 and have known Tom ever since I was old enough to form memories. My dad went to Raytown South with Tom and they graduated together in the class of 1977. I have never lived more than a couple of miles from Big Boy for the majority of my life. As a result I have literally eaten at Tom’s hundreds of times, many occasions of which he would always come out to visit with us. Also many of my classmates from Raytown High School I remember worked for Tom during those years. Tom was one of those people in your life that you always thought would be a permanent presence in your day-to-day or week-to-week existence. I will never be able to drive down 40 Highway again without feeling an empty hole in my soul as I pass Big Boy. I know my dad is now missing a very dear friend and thus closes a wonderful chapter of my life, that chapter being eating at Big Boy and just knowing that Tom would always come out from behind the counter and brighten your day.


April 15, 2018


Fred Hershberger

April 15, 2018

We have known the Rhoades since the 1970's. We opened our first restaurant with the guidance of Tom's father, Paul. We had the pleasure of working with them (mostly Tom) for almost 30 years (my retirement) from the business. Tom was a wonderful source of assistance throughout the years. We shared many a tale and laughs about our experiences!
He was most proud of his girls, Lisa, Jennifer and Jessica! He shared every accomplishment they achieved (and there were many). He will be sorely missed by my wife and I. He has passed way to soon. We will pray that his family will have peace and healing during this difficult time, May God Bless!!

Terri Jones Ireland

April 14, 2018

So sorry to hear about Tom. As a teenager, I (my brothers and sister, too) worked at Big Boy in the late 60's. I still visit every time I'm in KC and Tom was always there. The Rhoades family holds a special place in my heart.

Ida Ballew

April 14, 2018

I am so sorry for your loss. Tom was my client through Unemployment Insurance Services almost 14 years. He was such a nice person and wonderful to work with. I will miss him popping into the office whenever he had a question or document for me.

My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Ida Ballew

Bret Berry

April 13, 2018

Tom and I played baseball together back in the 60s and 70s his dad Paul was one of our coaches. Tom and I would remember the old times when I would see him at Big Boy. I was honored to be able to call him my friend. Praying for the family. RIP my friend


April 13, 2018

I have known Tom for many years and was proud to call him a great friend. When I was a kid, my Mom and Dad would take us to Big Boy Burgers on certain occasions. I continued to do that my entire life. I always loved how he would go around the restaurant talking to all the customers. He had a special bond with many of them. We would talk each time I went in there.
He and his family lived very close to me and I spent a lot of time going to visit with them. I am going to miss him dearly and he was truly a great friend.

Mark Mangels

April 13, 2018

I first met Tom when we both worked at Big Boy as teenagers. Always smiled, always had something good to say, always appreciated a good laugh. A good man. Our family will miss him.

Gary Jones

April 13, 2018

I was working at Big Boy in the late 1960's, Paul was like my 2nd Dad and was a tremendous help in my early life. He brought Tom to work a few times and for a 6-7 year old, he was full of questions. When I met Tom again later it life, I was impressed at how he had turned out. Outgoing, friendly smile and always asking how we were doing. He will be missed by family, friends and the thousands of people he served while managing the place. His presence will be in life for a long time to come.