OBITUARY

John P. Doughtie

July 8, 1943May 24, 2018
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DOUGHTIE - John P. May 24, 2018, of North Buffalo, beloved husband of 46 years to Susan (Capodagli) Doughtie; son of the late John P. and Verena (Lacey) Doughtie, Sr.; brother of Mark (Rita) Doughtie and Sherryl (Greg) Allen; also survived by a brother-in- law, sisters-in-law, nieces, nephews and many dear friends. Family will be present on Tuesday from 3-7 PM at the DENGLER, ROBERTS, PERNA FUNERAL HOME, 3070 Delaware Ave., Kenmore. Family and friends are invited to attend a Mass of Christian Burial celebrated from St. Rose of Lima Church, Wednesday at 9:30 AM. John was a Vietnam Vet, serving his country as a Green Beret in the Fifth Special Forces Airborne Group where he was awarded the Bronze Star and other military decorations. He was an avid computer geek who loved Apple products, anything “Trekkie” and his cats, Sherlock and Scarlett. John was an alumnus of St. Bonaventure University where he met his wife, Sue. His Masters in Computer Science was obtained from SUNY Buffalo. Born in Waltham, MA, he worked at MIT in Boston on the Early Space Program. Most of his career was spent working at defense firms including Comptek, Calspan, and Amherst Systems. In lieu of flowers, contributions in John’s name may be made to Vietnam Veterans of America, vva.org. Your online condolences may be offered at www.denglerrobertspernafuneral.com

Services

  • Visitation Tuesday, May 29, 2018
  • Mass of Christian Burial Wednesday, May 30, 2018
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John P. Doughtie

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Larry Horwitz

May 29, 2018

I worked with John and Sue for years at Calspan, but really got to know him much better over the recent years since retirement where we had many extended lunches together usually lasting 5 or more hours.

There were many things to like about John, but the things that I most valued were his old-fashion sense of values which combined strong patriotism, integrity, justice, and honesty. Even somebody who is not a student of history would recognize the “Boston tea party“ spirit which John conveyed, both with his delightful Boston accent and his Boston upbringing. He put a high premium on individual responsibility, individual freedom, and especially respect for decency, integrity, and privacy.

He clearly enjoyed helping others, and offered his abundant computer skills generously to all of us who needed them.

His sense of history and tradition were more than equaled by his future vision, which brought him in the early 1990s to build and demonstrate, for the local chapter of the Asociation of Old Crows, a defense industry group, the very first web server which any of us in attendance had ever seen. He clearly understood and anticipated the Internet long before most of us shared this perception.

My most sincere condolences to John's dear wife Susan and the rest of the Doughtie family.

I will miss John very much. Rest in peace dear friend.

Larry Horwitz

Pat Boje

May 29, 2018

Dear Sue, I am so sorry about John. I will not forget his great laugh and how he always remembered that I hated merging onto the Thruway (no merge genes - lol). There are so many memories! He was a wonderful man. I know he will be watching over you! God Bless You and your family members always. I am here if you ever need to talk. Love, Pat

Susan Schock

May 29, 2018

Sue,
I am so sorry for your loss of John. Forty six years of marriage creates a special relationship of love and support...finishing each other's sentences, just knowing what he was thinking, a feeling of strength and security being close together....John was there for you. I cannot find the words to express my sympathy for your loss.

Chuck Vallone

May 29, 2018

The greatest of remembrances of John. First off we shared close to the same birth date. John was born July 8th 1943 and the younger me 2 days later on the 10th of July. We shared a lot of remembrances from working at Calspan and our spouses working there also. The greatest of times though has been our monthly lunch time get together with a small group of retired Calspan co-workers from an assortment of Calspan departments. Not all of us worked in the same area or shared the same memories and histories, but boy the table conversations have been good, stimulating, and lively. John took to organizing this group to get the message out every month to everyone and keeping track of who would be coming. All in step with his organizing other areas of interest with tradeoffs. We could always depend on his collected, organized, and opinioned recommendations of the best cell phone plans, the best offered streaming of TV shows, the best Apple deals, the best Back Up software and the list goes on and on. But most important and enjoyable was the conversation that ensued with John around that lunch table. More recently he has, because of health limitations, missed attending, but never failing to organize and get the message out. It was always a bit of disappointment to find out he wouldn’t be able to attend. John: We have missed you tremendously and will on into the future. Peace be with you. You have left us all with indelible memories of our associations and fun together. You can look down on us every time we gather.

Jennifer Handy

May 28, 2018

I could never have asked for better and more caring godparents as John and Sue. They've always been present in my life and I was able to connect more with John in his later years. I am very grateful for the opportunity to become closer to him over the last 10 years and I will miss him very much. Sue, I love you so much and if you need anything, we're here for you.

Lucy Hancock

May 28, 2018

John Doughtie was the Army/Special forces buddy of my brother Roy O'Keefe, so I met John in about 1965 when John was in training and not yet gone to Vietnam. I remember a grave young soldier, but very fun. We were four young sisters of his buddy, and John pushed us in a swing, one after the other, up so high, much higher than people usually would. We yelled with joy and he shouted to tell us that we could not be safer, since we were surrounded by Green Berets with medic training.
My brother wrote home a story of his group of buddies, that I think must have been about John. Namely, that in Vietnam, they were served breakfast every day by a girl who was crying every day. They asked why she always cried and they found out she was Viet Cong and was raped every night by our allies. So the Green Berets went to the camp and asked for the girl, taking along some hand grenades and played with them, tossing them back and forth while they made their request. The girl was brought out. The Green Berets put her into a truck and drove her away, into town where there was a family who thought well of them for having healed their son in a clinic. They left the girl there, and when they drove through town again, she was by the door and she waved, and she was smiling.
John was true to his buddy in life and death, sharing our grief when he was killed. John reconnected with us as the end of John's own life approached, and met with his war buddy's nephew to answer questions and tell stories. John donated to the wounded veterans every year in memory of his dead buddy. John was true to his buddy until the end. They've met again. We'll all meet again. We'll swing up high.

Wes and Barb Riley

May 28, 2018

We both worked with John and Sue at Calspan for many years. We're so sorry for your loss Sue, words can't express how we feel. John was a special person with a kind heart and we were proud to be a part of his life. We will long remember the time we spent with both of you.

Greg Lewandowski

May 27, 2018

Sue, I am sorry to hear about John. I worked at Calspan and had many interactions with John over that time. He was always the perfect gentleman and someone who would give you his opinion when asked. He was a help in many ways. Sincere condolences, Greg Lewandowski.

Robin Redenbach

May 27, 2018

Sue - I want to say how sorry I am to hear about John. You we're so devoted to him and spoke of him often over the years. It took us so long to reconnect so let's not lose that again. You were always the glue that kept everything together. I'm always here if you need anything.

FROM THE FAMILY

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DOUGHTIE - John P. May 24, 2018, of North Buffalo, beloved husband of 46 years to Susan (Capodagli) Doughtie; son of the late John P. and Verena (Lacey) Doughtie, Sr.; brother of Mark (Rita) Doughtie and Sherryl (Greg) Allen; also survived by a brother-in- law, sisters-in-law, nieces, nephews and many dear friends. Family will be present on Tuesday from 3-7 PM at the DENGLER, ROBERTS, PERNA FUNERAL HOME, 3070 Delaware Ave., Kenmore. Family and friends are invited to attend a Mass of Christian Burial celebrated from St. Rose of Lima Church, Wednesday at 9:30 AM. John was a Vietnam Vet, serving his country as a Green Beret in the Fifth Special Forces Airborne Group as a medic where he was awarded the Bronze Star and other military decorations. He was an avid computer geek who loved Apple products, anything “Trekkie” and his cats, Sherlock and Scarlett. John was an alumnus of St. Bonaventure University where he met his wife, Sue. His Masters in Computer Science was obtained from SUNY Buffalo. Born in Waltham, MA, he worked at MIT in Boston on the Early Space Program. Most of his career was spent working at defense firms including Comptek, Calspan, and Amherst Systems. In lieu of flowers, contributions in John’s name may be made to Vietnam Veterans of America, vva.org. Your online condolences may be offered at www.denglerrobertspernafuneral.com