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OBITUARY

Evan "Butch" George Henry Stockham

May 9, 1941August 17, 2019

It is with profound sadness that I share with you the death of Evan George Henry (Butch) Stockham on August 17, 2019 at the University of Ottawa Heart Institute in Ottawa. Over these last six months Butch had fought so hard to live, and although very sick at times, he was so brave and willing to do whatever was required of him to have a chance of recovery. But ultimately he was failed by the very medical system that was supposed to aid him, coming home after his open heart surgery on February 13 at St Boniface Hospital/Asper Institute in Winnipeg with not one, not two, but three hospital acquired infections. To the very end he fought, and given a last chance for very high risk corrective surgery in Ottawa, he went for it, still fighting for life. However after many, many hours during four surgeries in Ottawa, there was nothing else that could be done for Butch and he quietly slipped away on Saturday.

Evan was born on 9 May 1941 in Kenora, given the nickname Butch at as a toddler by an aunt. He was the son of Ivor and Irene (née Perron) Stockham but raised by his dad from childhood when his mother left the marriage. Although he learned in later life that Ivor was not his biological father, it mattered not a whit to him, and he loved him all the more for standing by him. Butch left high school early, lured by a good paying job at Lindstrom and Nilson, but would later earn his high school diploma as well as other accounting certificates. Over the years he also pipelined, worked at R and T as a cook, for Cederwall Landscaping, for TransCan Homes, the Department of Highways, the Town of Kenora Jail office, and for many years for the Town of Kenora in Accounts up until his retirement in 2000. Following retirement he worked a part time job doing bookwork for Doug Rushfeldt at Chipman Street Husky, probably his most enjoyable job in his working life, the Rushfeldts becoming adopted family.

In 1987 Butch and I were introduced by mutual friends, Phil Hanstead and Susan Finnsson. We were both unattached after previous marriages, and following a whirlwind romance, six months later we were married on December 12th, with Phil and Susan as the witnesses. Sure there were some rocky times in the marriage, but the love and commitment were always there, with the marriage growing stronger and stronger as time went by. Unfortunately it was not in the cards for us to have children, but we were determined to make a full and enriched life for ourselves without them, and we did. With the onset of his health issues dating back to 2009, Butch was always more worried about me than he was about himself, right up until going into surgery this last time, that’s just the kind of fellow he was.

In his younger days Butch played hockey as well as baseball. He was perhaps best known for his great sense of humour and the ability to make others laugh, and his very fine art of bs-ing as egged on by others during his morning coffee group at McDonalds as well as at other local businesses in town that he would drop in for visits. He was also known for his fascination with the acquisition of gadgets, and of course for his love of Ford trucks. A truly loyal Dingwall customer for many, many years, Butch was king of the road in his F150 of the day, especially when on an adventure towing an RV. We were very fortunate to be able to do such extensive travel over the years, meeting many new people along the way in the parks but also marvelling at all that this wonderful world has to offer, especially in Canada where by far most of our travel was done. And no matter where we were, from coast to coast and also here in Kenora, walking together was our favourite pastime.

Along with myself, Butch is survived by his sisters-in-law Jane Belair and Donna Campbell and their families, and by many Stockham and Landry nieces and nephews and their families including his godson David Stockham. He was predeceased by his father Ivor (1908-1975) and mother Irene (1908-1997), his in-laws Margaret and Don Pitt (2005 and 2015), his sister Shirley Landry (1929-2009) and brother James Stockham (1931-2008) and his sister-in-law Adrienne Stockham (2018). He was also predeceased by his brothers-in-law Rick Belair (2006) and Jim Campbell (2013), and Cederwall family from his first marriage.

Butch was definitely without a doubt a one of a kind guy, a very loving, funny, and caring man and I can’t even begin to imagine what life will be without him. Not only my husband, he was my best friend, the person I wanted to be with above all others as he with me. My family, our neighbours, and our friends have been so fantastic during his illnesses that words cannot adequately express our thanks. Following cremation, Butch will be interred with his father Ivor at the Lake of the Woods Cemetery at a private service at a later date, me joining him when it is my time. In lieu of flowers or donations in his memory, please do what Butch had been doing, live in the moment and appreciate each and every day of this wonderful world. And if you get a chance to crack a joke or make someone smile or laugh, all the better as he would be laughing right along with you.

Judy

You can shed tears that he is gone Or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back Or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him Or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he’s gone Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back Or you can do what he’d want: smile, open your eyes, love, and go on.

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Marilyn Richardson

August 22, 2019

Deepest condolences to you Judy on the passing of your husband Butch. It was great to see you both a few years ago when we were in the same RV park in Brandon Manitoba. I had no idea about all the health issues that Butch has been going through and my heart goes out to you. What a loving and beautiful tribute you have written!

All the best to you
Marilyn (Leaming) Richardson

Jo Ann O’Hara

August 22, 2019

Judy, I am so sorry to hear of Butch’s passing. Though I didn’t know him well I knew he loved you very much. Each time we bumped into each other, Judy, you were always beaming! Life can be very difficult so reach out to your family and friends, that includes me! Take care!

Sylvia Stockham

August 21, 2019

So sad to say goodbye. I liked that you told jokes all the time when I was a kid and we would share gum. I wished you and Judy could have visited us in BC when you were exploring Canada. Now I guess you get to experience heaven. Hope there is a RV waiting for you with your name it.

RIP Uncle Butch

Love ❤️
Sylvia(Stockham) Stephen Beasley

Joan Zaretsky (Martin)

August 20, 2019

Hi Judy,
While I have to admit that I never did know Butch, the love that you describe between the two of you is rare and something to hold on to forever. I recall you as a very kind and conscientious teacher and I know that your approach to life was affected by your amazing relationship you two had. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I love the "Words of Wisdom" at the end of the life history you wrote, as life can be so wonderful if we can only focus on the good that is everywhere and be grateful for our wonderful memories. Take care of yourself. Hugs,
Joan (Martin) Zaretsky

Denise Neufeld

August 20, 2019

Worked with Butch at the Ministry of Transportation and he certainly livened the place up. We were always in fits of laughter. After he left, if ever I ran into him downtown he would always stop to chat and make a few jokes.

That's a lovely obituary and it really brings across his joyous spirit and gives a sense of who he was.

It's so hard dealing with the loss of a loved one but hope that happy memories will bring some comfort. My deepest sympathy to you Judy, and to all his family and close friends.

Bill and Cheryl Kriski

August 20, 2019

So sorry to hear about the sad news. Cheryl and I express our sincere condolences
Our prayers are with you.
Your Spruce Lake friends,
Bill and Cheryl

Cathy & Terry Canfield

August 20, 2019

We are so sorry for the loss of such a wonderful man. His happiness and sense of humour was so much appreciated by all.
Our thoughts are with you Judy 💜

DIANE Belair

August 20, 2019

So sorry to hear of Butch’s passing. Butch always had a smile and a hello every time he would pass on the street and a quick how are you doing. He will greatly be missed. So sorry Judy for the hard journey you travelled this past while.

Becky Sharples

August 19, 2019

I will always remember Butch coming to visit at our home when I was young. His favourite thing to do was tease our mother (Auntie Edna) by rubbing his belly towards her and stating “body beautiful”. He always had us in stitches. I’m sure he will be teasing her once again when they meet🙏🏼🌹

Cyndy Ortlieb

August 19, 2019

Will miss you my friend Butch your smiling face and sense of humor was always so welcome when you came for coffee at McDonalds but remember you from so many years before that going back to when we were both a lot younger and lived in Keewatin.
RIP my friend the pain is over

FROM THE FAMILY