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Stephen Charles Oakey

July 27, 1945August 25, 2020

Steve Oakey was born in Madison, Wisconsin, in 1945. In his 75 years of life, he was surrounded by the people he loved, including family and friends, teammates, and coworkers. Until the end, his beloved support dog, Bart, was steadfastly at his side.

‘Oak’ was guided by values informed by a genuine sense of stewardship. Throughout his life, he quietly supported causes that protected the natural environment; likewise, his social ethics consistently matched his vote, informed by a vast knowledge of American history. An avid reader and self-proclaimed “Civil War nut”, his passion for historical non-fiction was inexhaustible.

His career as a newspaper journalist combined two of his innate talents, writing and sports. A cycling purist, he commuted by bicycle throughout his 40-plus working years.

One of his greatest achievements and joys was realized at age 47, when he climbed Alpe d’Huez, an iconic French Alpine leg of the Tour De France. He also found joy in playing baseball with his Berry’s teammates, traveling to the senior World Series annually until his final year.

In his retirement, he was wholly committed to his grandkids. Whether first in line for school pickup, patiently playing rounds of Monopoly, or cheering from the stands at dance and sports competitions, he embraced the joy of being a grandpa.

Until the end, Oak’s competitive spirit shined as he fought cancer like he played baseball, with good sportsmanship and fortitude, no matter the score.

In lieu of flowers, please make a blood donation or a donation to your charity of choice.


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Earl Hoverter

September 15, 2020

Steve Oakey was a good man, an excellent athlete and a good friend. He loved his family more than anything. Steve was very competitive and really enjoyed playing tennis with his friends. One of our tennis partners said, “Steve was always a gentleman and was kind to everyone he met.” Baseball was Steve’s second love, both playing it and watching major league baseball. He had an incredible memory and could, for example, tell you the name of the losing pitcher in the final game of the 1957 World Series, and most of the other players on that team. Steve was a very smart man and I always enjoyed our conversations. I was constantly amazed at his ability to remember facts about baseball. He was also a real expert on the US Civil War, having read hundreds of books about the war, as well as visiting most of the battle sites. I will always miss my buddy Steve, his friendship, his warmth and his kindness. May he rest in peace.

Earl Hoverter

JOHN Enright

September 10, 2020

# 17 Steve played for the Berry's Baseball Team for 30 years
he was one of the top pitcher's in adult baseball league in
San Diego And a charter member of Berry's Baseball.
A great team mate and friend we will miss him.
There is hole in the line up card that can't be filled.

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JOHN Enright

September 10, 2020

#17 Berry's Baseball has lost great friend and teammate
He can't be replaced ,we will miss him .
He has left a hole that can't be filled on the line up card.
God speed my friend and "keep throwing the rock"

# 9

Dale Cors

September 9, 2020

My condolences to the Oakey family. Steve was an outstanding baseball player and a great Berry's teammate. I have fond memories of our trips to the MSBL World Series in the '90's.

Jane Chambers

September 8, 2020

Steve was a great brother to have and one who will be missed forever. Living in Maryland, whenever Steve and Kim visited me, we went to Gettysburg or Antietam--many times over the years. In recent years they added this statue, which made us all laugh!


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