OBITUARY

Arline "Sugar" Mayfield

June 5, 1936March 4, 2019
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Arline "Sugar" Mayfield passed away March 4, 2019, peacefully, at the Momunth Medical Center, Lakewood, NJ after a long and courageous battle with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Born in Brooklyn NY on June 5, 1936 to Helen McConville & Robert Dampf; she is survived by her husband Patrick "Butch" Mayfield and her children Patty and her husband, Mark Gallagher of Marlborough, MA, Robert and his wife, Anita of Middletown, NY with grand-sons Ryan and Zachary, and Helen and her husband, James Enslin of Budd Lake, NJ with grand-daughters, Nicole and Elise. Additionally she is survived by numerous cousins, nieces, nephews and in-laws from New York, New Jersey and Florida.

Growing up in the Washington Heights neighborhood of New York she met Patrick in a candy store at the age of fifteen when stick-ball in the streets, listening to music and sock hops were all the rage. Three years later “Sugar” and “Butch” (to those that know them best) were married on August 28, 1955. Moving to Lake Hopatcong in 1962, Arline took on the homemaker role where they raised their three children. Although the move from the city to a small lake community was an adjustment, she was never alone with four sisters-in-law living nearby. Sun up to sun down she spent her days at the lake or pool along with any number of her 14 nieces and nephews; packing boxed lunches, building sand castles, and applying the sunscreen.

Active in the Girls and Boy scouts Arline was always involved with her children’s activities volunteering as class mother, a chaperone on a field trip and participating in class-room events. Many have fond memories of her volunteering at the snack shack for football and baseball games, becoming enormously popular in the community. In 1976 she joined the food service department for the Hopatcong Public Schools System where she would spend 25 years – and where the kids and staff at the school adored her. Vacations and breaks afforded time for travel crisscrossing the United States, Alaska, Hawaii, the Caribbean and cruises to Spain, Italy, Morocco, Portugal and more.

Arline moved to Toms River, NJ in 1989 to a new home with a large pool to welcome four grandchildren, finding herself once again immersed in pool toys, sunscreen and swimmies. The pool aside, Lavalette beach days were special to her, spending many days with her family and close friends.

Arline’s last move in 1999 was to the Fairways, Lakewood, NJ where she formed many new friendships. She enjoyed a retirement lifestyle playing many games of Mahjong and Canasta. She attended many Amici Club parties and New Year’s Eve celebrations. While retired Arline took up knitting and knitted scarves in every color imaginable. She was a member of the Fairways Woman’s Club and always looked forward to her monthly lunches with her special group of ladies.

In the end it was the quiet times that were most rewarding; lunch by the ocean in Long Branch, ice cream at the Sundae Shop in Ocean Grove, or the boardwalk at Point Pleasant on a simple bench overlooking the beach with her love of 68 years listening to the waves of the ocean.

A memorial visitation will be held from 4:00 to 8:00 p.m. on Friday, March 15, 2019 at the D'Elia Funeral Home, 1300 Vermont Avenue, Lakewood. A memorial mass will be held at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, March 16, 2019 at St. Mary of the Lake R.C. Church, 43 Madison Avenue, Lakewood.

In lieu of flowers please make donations in Arline's memory to the St. Jude Children's Hospital.

Services

  • Memorial Visitation Friday, March 15, 2019
  • Memorial Mass Saturday, March 16, 2019
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Arline "Sugar" Mayfield

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Joe & Viola Crouch

March 16, 2019

We'll always have great memories of our times together in Hopatcong and working with Arline in the high school. May she rest in peace now that she's finally out of pain. May God Bless the Mayfield family in this so very sad time. Our prayers are with you all.

Debbie Bestafka

March 16, 2019

Dear Patty,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Sending Prayers and Hugs.

Debbie Bestafka

George Mayfield

March 14, 2019

I remember attending Butch and Sugar's wedding what a grand affair it was for a young boy. All through out my life Sugar was always there, always lending a helping hand. Sugar and all my sister in laws would always provide rides to Sparta or where ever Me and my friends need to,go. I guess they were getting experience for raising her own children when they became teens in a rural town. Sugar always had an open door policy if you walked in the door she would feed you. She never complained when Butch would drag his younger brother in for "pot luck" dinner. We always enjoyed spending time with Butch and Sugar when they would spend winter in South Florida. Butch would set her up overlooking the ocean and give her a good book and she was all set for the day. Sugar will be missed by all of her family and friends. It was a joy and pleasure to have shared our journeys with her. Miss you already Sugar.

Jill Halas

March 12, 2019

To the Mayfields... much love and prayers. Grateful that my childhood memories include feeling the love and hearing the laughter of your “Sugar” May she continue to live through your happy loving memories of her ❤️

Helen-Me Enslin

March 12, 2019

Helen Enslin

March 12, 2019

Tricia Nastasi

March 5, 2019

I believe my Sister truly spoke the best words of Aunt Sugar but I'll never forget the countless birthday cards with a book of stamps every year. I know she knew she was loved by the Vallillo's and now she can be with Glor and Nick and Pep and Ceil and have some laughs and maybe even that eggplant parm. I hope you are at peace Aunt Sug and pain free. I Love u always Tricia

Janice Pacifico

March 5, 2019

My parents were so blessed to have Sugar and Pat as very dear friends. My mom would bribe either of them with possibly eggplant parm , or basically anything homemade they treasured. My mom just loved Sugar, and we all know why. As her body was taken over by the rhuematoid arthritis, and to us she never complained,however we knew it looked painful . When mom and dad passed, I felt the need to keep close to St Patrick and St Arline . We have shared many good lunches together. Sugar you were blessed to have a best friend and husband watch over you with his whole heart and soul. No more pain for you, dear lady. You will always be in my heart❤️I have a photo of both of you next to my parents. I will continue to check on Pat, as I'm sure your wonderful children will also. You will never be forgotten.,There is only one "Sugar" and you were the best. I'm sure you will be watching over Pat also. Thankyou for being you. 💋💋💋💋Love , Janice.

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