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David H. Gray

June 21, 1962October 8, 2021

David H. Gray 1962-2021

Houlton – David H. Gray, 59, of Hogan St. in Houlton, formerly of Lisbon, died unexpectedly due to Covid-19 on Friday October 8, 2021, in his home. He was born in Bangor on June 21, 1962 to Harvey and Velva (Myers) Gray. He graduated with the Lisbon High School class of 1980, earned a B.A. from the University of Maine and a Master’s degree from the Catholic University of America, then went on to Officer Candidate School in New Port, Rhode Island. He proudly served his country in the U.S. Navy, including two tours in Iraq. David was a Federal Agent with the U.S. Customs and Border Patrol stationed in Houlton ME.

David enjoyed working around his house, gardening, and going for rides on his bicycle in nature. He could be found strumming his many guitars and enjoying the company of his two cats, Bianca and Bear.

He is survived by his mother Velva Gray of Topeka KS, his daughter Marsilla Gray and son Harris Gray of Tampa FL, and a sister Sandy Costello and husband Terry of Lisbon ME. He was predeceased by his father Harvey Gray and a sister Cindy Gray. He was a very caring man and will be missed dearly by his family.

Online condolences can be shared at www.crosmanfuneralhome.com. Visitation at Crosman Funeral Home on Monday 10/18 from 4-7 PM. A graveside service will be held on Tuesday 10/19 at 11 AM at Lisbon Center Cemetery in Lisbon Falls. Arrangements are under the care and direction of Crosman Funeral Home, 40 Main St. Lisbon Falls, 207-353-4951

Services

  • Visitation

    Monday, October 18, 2021

  • Graveside Service

    Tuesday, October 19, 2021

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Heidi Harper

October 20, 2021

My condolences to David's family and colleagues. I had the pleasure of working with David for many years, and have always appreciated his professionalism and dedication.
We had many conversations about family, travel, and history; it was evident how passionate you were about all the important things in life. You will be missed by all.

Greg Curtis

October 19, 2021

David and I were first friends in high school and then roommates at the University of Maine. We shared a passion for music, spending many hours talking about our favorite songs and listening to WBLM. I still have the mug we won by creating a cartoon for a contest at the radio station.
I will remember David as extraordinarily intelligent, passionate about his beliefs and possessing a mischievous sense of humor. In his too short life, he made a powerful impact in the lives of many.
I offer my deepest sympathies to David's family and all who knew him. Rest in peace, my friend.

Rachel Bartlett

October 19, 2021

"A man's reach must exceed his grasp"
I am grateful to have known David. We enjoyed inspiring and challenging discussions, bonded over movies, music, and our cats' health issues.
David encouraged me, and broadened my horizon -- he got me to search bookstores for the works of John Taylor Gatto, and more obscure authors like Florence King, and Robinson Jeffers. I wasn't even that much of a a fan of guitars until he made me listen to Paul Gibert. Still couldn't stop teasing him with how I preferred bagpipes.
And he made me try limoncello -- an adventure that ended with me having much more fun than I could possibly have had sober.
It was nice and comforting to have someone talk to me in German and Italian, and laugh about how living in different countries and cultures can make you scramble for words in all languages you think you know.
David had been through more than enough himself, but I saw him use his experience and insights to reach out and help other people in similar situations.
We only met one and a half year ago, and David had just become part of my daily life. -- Thank you, David. I love you, and I miss you so much.

Jim Baumer

October 19, 2021

What is the measure of a man? It’s hard to really know these days, as manhood has been so devalued by the PC crowd and erased by cancel culture. But I still hold certain qualities central—loyalty, courage, honesty, devotion to family--those are great places to start. David embodied these across his life cut short.

David and I met when he’d moved to Lisbon Falls. We were both in fourth grade. His dad had retired from the military after being stationed at BNAS and since Harvey had grown up in Lisbon, that’s where they settled-in.

At first, I thought this strange kid talking about Kansas and trying to impress me with what he knew (and even in fourth grade, I knew he had a lot more than I had on the knowledge front) annoyed the hell out of me. But it wasn’t long before we struck up a friendship that would last across our lives. He was my best man when my wife and I got married 39 years ago. He played "Wedding Song" on his guitar, beautifully.

He was precocious well before I knew what that word meant. He was smarter than anyone I’d known in my life at that time and he remained one of the truly gifted and brilliant people I’d meet over the next five decades.

David taught me about music, and politics, and turned me onto Alvin Toffler and got me reading. I was a jock who probably wouldn’t have trended in that direction on my own.

Sometimes when I look back, I wished I was the gifted guitar player and he’d been the star pitcher. I’ve found a great deal of comfort in the guitar years later after going through my own personal tragedy.

It was the guitar that brought us back together after not really talking or emailing much over the past few years. He’d seen some of my music videos and David being David, he couldn’t resist offering some “suggestions” on how I could improve my songs, or alter some of my chord choices. That’s how he rolled.

Thanks for being a great friend into our adult years. I will miss you.

Corina Going

October 18, 2021

Dave was a dear friend from UMO; yes, I remember many late nights spent discussing life, philosophy and religion. Dave had a deep impact on my life during a difficult time and I will always be grateful to him for his kindness and his desire to live his best life. Rest in peace, my friend. Sending prayers and comfort to Dave's family.

Craig Zurhorst

October 18, 2021

I was blessed to call Dave a close friend at UMO, where we shared countless conversations into the early hours of the morning about faith, life and the world, often with other friends. Dave was brilliant, exceptionally principled, a deep thinker, a very good writer and an excellent guitarist. He also had a mischievous side and dry sense of humor. As a practical joke on the Residential Life Department, Dave tried to arrange for his Marshall 210 guitar amplifier and 410 speaker cabinet to be his roommate, under the name “Mel Stack.” I lost touch with Dave early in his naval career, something he pursued with great passion and of which he was very proud. He has passed far too soon. Rest in peace, Dave, and may peace be with your family, your friends, and all who read this.

James Pochopien

October 15, 2021

Dave was a great friend and patriot, brilliant intelligence officer and loving dedicated father. I have enjoyed our hours long conversations on some of the worlds most vexing problems and your unique insights to all of them. As the proud father you are, I've enjoyed watching your kids grow and mature in your eyes over the years-you've set them on a path to success. You've had a profound impact on all that you invited into your life- I miss you already buddy. May you have Fair winds and Following seas my friend, I will see you on the high ground.

Joe Gonzalez

October 15, 2021

My thoughts and prayers to David Gray and his family. I had the privilege to work side by side with David Gray in Houlton, Maine. I enjoyed swapping sea stories while working on the mission. It is these unfortunate moments that remind us to appreciate the gift of life. Gray was a true career long sailor in the world’s finest Navy. Even after his military service he continued to work with the U.S. Border Patrol. That is a direct reflection of his love to this country. God rest your soul.

Fair winds and calms seas, LCDR Gray.
We have the watch.

J. M. GONZALEZ, LTJG, USNR
N3 Division Officer
Joint Intelligence Center 0470
U.S. Central Command

Carrie Linebaugh

October 14, 2021

God rest David's soul.

I grew up in the same neighborhood as David. We used to hang out as young kids and loved to climb trees together. We went to school together in Lisbon Falls, Maine and graduated HS on the same day from Lisbon High.

We stayed in contact throughout the years and I last saw him in 2017 at a HS reunion in Lisbon, Maine.

Rest in peace, my friend!

SETH PRINCE

October 14, 2021

My condolences to your family. I worked with David in Houlton when he started there in 2016. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Seth Prince

FROM THE FAMILY

Biography

Houlton – David H. Gray, 59, of Hogan St. in Houlton, formerly of Lisbon, died unexpectedly due to Covid-19 on Friday October 8, 2021, in his home. He was born in Bangor on June 21, 1962 to Harvey and Velva (Myers) Gray. He graduated with the Lisbon High School class of 1980, earned a B.A. from the University of Maine and a Master’s degree from the Catholic University of America, then went on to Officer Candidate School in New Port, Rhode Island. He proudly served his country in the U.S. Navy, including two tours in Iraq. David was a Federal Agent with the U.S. Customs and Border Patrol stationed in Houlton ME. David enjoyed working around his house, gardening, and going for rides on his bicycle in nature. He could be found strumming his many guitars and enjoying the company of his two cats, Bianca and Bear. He is survived by his mother Velva Gray of Topeka KS, his daughter Marsilla Gray and son Harris Gray of Tampa FL, and a sister Sandy Costello and husband Terry of Lisbon ME. He was predeceased by his father Harvey Gray and a sister Cindy Gray. He was a very caring man and will be missed dearly by his family.
Online condolences can be shared at www.crosmanfuneralhome.com. Visitation at Crosman Funeral Home on Monday 10/18 from 4-7 PM. A graveside service will be held on Tuesday 10/19 at 11 AM at Lisbon Center Cemetery in Lisbon Falls. Arrangements are under the care of Crosman Funeral Home, 40 Main St. Lisbon Falls, 353-4951