OBITUARY

Margaret Arleen Cook LaFlamme

July 6, 1927September 18, 2018
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Margaret Arleen (Cook) LaFlamme passed as gently as she lived into the arms of her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ on September 18, 2018 just before 5 p.m. She was comforted and attended by family, friends, and staff to her last soft breath.

Margaret (Nana) was born July 6, 1927 in Athens, Maine, a daughter of Victor Ernest Cook and Leona (Allen) Cook. She enjoyed a bucolic childhood with her three brothers and three sisters, and liked to point out she was in the middle.

She reminisced about her life wistfully; the main themes were her strict, but loving Christian parents and the joys and travails of rural living. We loved the story about her bumping along in the makeshift school bus-really a truck with an adjusted bed, that delivered her over hill and dale to school.

Margaret married Reginald Clayton LaFlamme on May 6, 1955 in Waterville, Maine. She glowed when she described an evening early in their marriage when they danced in New York City to a live performance of Peggy Lee.

They were blessed with two sons: Russell was born in Paducah, Kentucky and Brian in Stamford, Connecticut. She fondly recounted the early years of their adventures, but was glad to raise the boys in Maine near her beloved parents and siblings. Reggie was her great love and she listed his traits she observed in her sons and grandchildren: good looks, intelligence, an intuition of how things worked, and artistic inclinations. Margaret possessed an incredibly authentic work ethic that caused her to be appreciated, respected and promoted. She was a trained hairdresser, but supported her sons at Cole's Express, K-Mart, The King's Daughters' Home in Bangor and Reny's in Dexter. We reveled in her accounts of rearing two boisterous, active, growing brothers. She sometimes expressed concern for activities or games she missed due to work, but we promised her anyone who spent time with her sons as men...knew she raised them well.

Her most joyful work era was as a "Grammie" for the Foster Grandparent Program. Over a 13 plus year span she helped teachers teach children in Dexter, Gardiner, and briefly in Lisbon. When she lived in Gardiner and ventured downtown Nana was a Rock Star. Children from the Laura E. Richards School would gravitate from the places of business, the library, the park, etc. for hugs and words of endearment. She was a doting, fully involved Nana to Julie, Brian and Alexandra.

Her support, sense of fun, encouragement and abundant love has been unwaning. Nana has imparted to two year old and three plus months old Xavier an intense love that will inform his future- and for his part- he looked upon her with a perfect acceptance he saw reflected in her eyes.

The years she spent in Gardiner and Lisbon were a great blessing to the boys and their families. Nana was there worshipping and serving in our churches, at the recitals, parties, graduations, weddings, etc. in an even more intimate way. She often told Debbie and Connie that she had always wanted daughters...and now had them. In the last months she has needed tender and great care, but we never forgot the years of tender and great care we all received from her.

Nana is survived by her sons: Russell LaFlamme and wife Debbie of Richmond, Maine. Their daughter Julie Bickford and husband Jay and son Xavier Bruce Bickford of Bowdoin, Maine. Their son Brian D. LaFlamme and wife Wendy of Topsham, Maine. Brian P. LaFlamme and wife Connie of Gardiner, Maine. Their daughter Alexandra M. LaFlamme of Providence, Rhode Island. Sisters: Eleanor Hart of Brewer, Maine and Ruth MacDougall of Dexter, Maine. Sister-in-law: Delie Cook of Skowhegan, Maine. She is predeceased by her sister: Virginia McKenney of Skowhegan and by her brothers: Richard Cook of San Antonio, Texas; Norman Cook of Skowhegan, Maine; and Paul Cook of Bangor, Maine. She loved her many nieces, nephews and the families they created.

  • FAMILY

  • Nana is survived by her sons: Russell LaFlamme and wife Debbie of Richmond, Maine. Their daughter Julie Bickford and husband Jay and son Xavier Bruce Bickford of Bowdoin, Maine. Their son Brian D. LaFlamme and wife Wendy of Topsham, Maine. Brian P. LaFlamme and wife Connie of Gardiner, Maine. Their daughter Alexandra M. LaFlamme of Providence, Rhode Island. Sisters: Eleanor Hart of Brewer, Maine and Ruth McDougall of Dexter, Maine. Sister-in-law: Delie Cook of Skowhegan, Maine She is predeceased by her sister: Virginia McKenney of Skowhegan and by her brothers: Richard Cook of San Antonio, Texas; Norman Cook of Skowhegan, Maine; and Paul Cook of Bangor, Maine. She loved her many nieces, nephews and the families they created.
  • DONATIONS

  • Penquis Community Action Program Foster Grandparent Program
  • Boys and Girls Club of Gardiner

Services

  • Memorial Service Saturday, September 29, 2018
REMEMBERING

Margaret Arleen Cook LaFlamme

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Laurie Malcolm

September 26, 2018

I am so saddened to see this. As a teacher at the Laura E. Richards Elementary School, where "Grammie Margaret" gave so generously of her time and her love to so many children, I can promise you she made a difference in the lives of many. Her quiet steadfast ways and her evident abiding faith made her a role model to so many. A life well lived.

Nancy Morrell

September 22, 2018

Margaret was a very kind and gentle lady whom loved her family. She always had a nice thing to say about everyone. My sincere sympathies to her family & friends. She will be missed. Cherish your wonderful memories. XO. Nancy

Eddie Taber

September 21, 2018

I love the story that you have written which captures her so beautifully and all the wonderful photos you have shared. Margaret was such a good person...and a brave on when she needed to be....and she was very kind to me at times when I needed kindness most ! I have many memories of her at shared family events....the great nana that she was to Alex...the wonderful faith example that she was....but I think my favorite may be the relationship that she had with Teddy. Sometimes the two mother-in-laws don't get along in certain families....but those two were genuine friends and obviously enjoyed each other...and it made family events very comfortable....I thought they were an example to all of how it SHOULD be. All of you who love her and are hurting right now...you are in my prayers !

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Biography

Margaret Arleen (Cook) LaFlamme passed as gently as she lived into the arms of her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ on September 18, 2018 just before 5 p.m. She was comforted and attended by family, friends, and staff to her last soft breath.

Margaret (Nana) was born July 6, 1927 in Athens, Maine, a daughter of Victor Ernest Cook and Leona (Allen) Cook. She enjoyed a bucolic childhood with her three brothers and three sisters, and liked to point out she was in the middle.

She reminisced about her life wistfully; the main themes were her strict, but loving Christian parents and the joys and travails of rural living. We loved the story about her bumping along in the makeshift school bus-really a truck with an adjusted bed, that delivered her over hill and dale to school.

Margaret married Reginald Clayton LaFlamme on May 6, 1955 in Waterville, Maine. She glowed when she described an evening early in their marriage when they danced in New York City to a live performance of Peggy Lee.

They were blessed with two sons: Russell was born in Paducah, Kentucky and Brian in Stamford, Connecticut. She fondly recounted the early years of their adventures, but was glad to raise the boys in Maine near her beloved parents and siblings.

Reggie was her great love and she listed his traits she observed in her sons and grandchildren: good looks, intelligence, an intuition of how things worked, and artistic inclinations.

Margaret possessed an incredibly authentic work ethic that caused her to be appreciated, respected and promoted. She was a trained hairdresser, but supported her sons at Cole's Express, K-Mart, The King's Daughters' Home in Bangor and Reny's in Dexter.

We reveled in her accounts of rearing two boisterous, active, growing brothers. She sometimes expressed concern for activities or games she missed due to work, but we promised her anyone who spent time with her sons as men...knew she raised them well.

Her most joyful work era was as a "Grammie" for the Foster Grandparent Program. Over a 13 plus year span she helped teachers teach children in Dexter, Gardiner, and briefly in Lisbon. When she lived in Gardiner and ventured downtown Nana was a Rock Star. Children from the Laura E. Richards School would gravitate from the places of business, the library, the park, etc. for hugs and words of endearment.

She was a doting, fully involved Nana to Julie, Brian and Alexandra. Her support, sense of fun, encouragement and abundant love has been unwaning. Nana has imparted to two year old and three plus months old Xavier an intense love that will inform his future- and for his part- he looked upon her with a perfect acceptance he saw reflected in her eyes.

The years she spent in Gardiner and Lisbon were a great blessing to the boys and their families. Nana was there worshiping and serving in our churches, at the recitals, parties, graduations, weddings, etc. in an even more intimate way. She often told Debbie and Connie that she had always wanted daughters...and now had them. In the last months she has needed tender and great care, but we never forget the years of tender and great care we all received.

Nana is survived by her sons.

Russell LaFlamme and wife Debbie of Richmond, Maine.
Their daughter Julie Bickford and husband Jay and son Xavier Bruce Bickford of Bowdoin, Maine.
Their son Brian D. LaFlamme and wife Wendy of Topsham, Maine.

Brian P. LaFlamme and wife Connie of Gardiner, Maine.
Their daughter Alexandra M. LaFlamme of Providence, Rhode Island.

Sisters: Eleanor Hart of Brewer, Maine and Ruth MacDougall of Dexter, Maine.

Sister-in-law: Delie Cook of Skowhegan, Maine

She is predeceased by her sister: Virginia McKenney of Skowhegan.

She is predeceased by her brothers: Richard Cook of San Antonio, Texas; Norman Cook of Skowhegan, Maine; and Paul Cook of Bangor, Maine.

She loved her many nieces, nephews and the families they created.