OBITUARY

Carol Ann Messina

August 23, 1956May 21, 2020

Carol Ann Messina nee Bimbo (63) of Fredon, NJ passed away peacefully on Thursday, May 21, 2020 in Newton Memorial Hospital surrounded by her loving husband and son.

Born in Newark, Carol and her family moved to Roseland where she was raised and would attend Mount St. Dominic Academy. From a young age, Carol was admired by many, but her heart always belonged to her husband, Bruce. The story she most passionately told was that of when Bruce and she met in kindergarten. By first grade they would be ‘married’ in front of their classmates at Bruce’s childhood home. He endearingly presented her with a Cracker Jack box ring, which still sits along many other family mementos on her armoire.

Bruce and Carol were officially married on March 24, 1979 in front of lifelong friends and family. Shortly after their marriage, they scouted places to live and ultimately settled on a crop of land where they decided to build a home from the ground up. During construction, Carol chipped in like every other worker, meticulously staining all the house trim by hand for hours. Her memory still lives on in their Fredon home, with the trim outlining every doorway, entranceway, and stairwell.

Carol and Bruce welcomed their son Stephen December 30th, 1991, a day she would note as “take home day”, one of the happiest days of her life. Carol’s greatest passion in life was being a mother to Stephen, moving earths to make sure he was happy and taken care of. Every action, every move she made was to be close to him – from traveling around the world to watch him compete, to getting a job at the dojo where he studied karate. Once Stephen set his eyes on hockey, she would be by his side for every game and tournament spanning all North America. Anyone who shared a seat in the rink with her knew when he came out to play the puck because of her passionately reminding him to “Get back in the net!” Her pride and love for Stephen was known by anyone she met. Stephen is reminded of her favorite saying to him in times of adoration: “I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, as long as I’m living, my baby you’ll be.”

A host by nature, with an eye for cooking and a larger than life personality, Carol brought people together from all walks of life. Her dishes and desserts are renowned by many – especially her brownies, pepperoni bread, and black & white cakes which she made for birthdays. Known as ‘Christmas Carol,’ she cherished the Christmas season because it allowed her to give back to others and carry on family traditions which were so important to her. A special tradition she instilled while hosting Christmas Eve was writing the names of loved ones and family that celebrated with her on a special ornament. The ornaments would lovingly hang on the tree in the dining room months after Christmas Day had passed. She valued the time she spent with her adoring parents carrying on family traditions such as baking Easter Pies, rolling struffoli, and preparing a feast for Christmas Eve and Easter.

Carol’s love for others was unmatched. Her warmth was felt everywhere she went, supported by friendships she formed across the globe – from Holland to Alaska and everywhere in between. Although she had many underlying health conditions, she never complained and always put the needs of others above her own with a compassionate smile.

She was the beloved wife of 41 years to Bruce Messina and is survived by her son Stephen, her parents Edmund and Kathleen Bimbo (nee Calabrese), her sisters Donna Bimbo-Kupchack and Toni Vardiman, her brother-in-law Ross Vardiman, and nieces she adored, Alexa and Julia Vardiman. She is cherished by her family and will be missed, but her traditions will be carried on in her honor.

Due to current restrictions, services will be held privately under the direction of the LaMonica Memorial Home in Livingston.

A broader Celebration of Carol’s life will be announced and held at a later date

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  • Passed Away

    Thursday, May 21, 2020

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Jeannie (Hendricks) McGoldrick

July 1, 2020

I was so very sorry to hear of Carol’s passing. We met at MSDA in the early seventies and had some great times at basketball games, LBI and dances! Years later we met up again when our children played in the Newton Roller Hockey league together. I will always remember Carol’s exuberance and smile. To the Messina and Bimbo families, may your memories bring you peace and comfort.

Lisabel Biscaldi

June 9, 2020

Hi Carol,

What I’ll remember most about you is your sweetness and generosity.
During one of the summers I spent in New Jersey as a guest of Donna’s, you invited me to spend the day in your beautiful home; we first went to run some errands then we made brownies together, swam in the pool and talked. You were so incredibly welcoming and giving and you made me, a 15 year old away from her family for a month feel completely at home.
I’ll hold you in my heart forever.

I found a picture I took in July 2009, we were hanging out by the pool together.

Love always,

Lisabel

Mick Healy

June 8, 2020

Bruce, our deepest sympathies to you and Stephen and the extended Messina family on your wife’s passing. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Mick & Erin Healy

Maureen McGuire

June 2, 2020

My sincere condolences the the Messina and Bimbo families, and all of Carol's friends. I attended St. Anthony's grammar school and was a year ahead of Carol and Bruce. I recall Carol's smile and laugh. She attended MSD with my good friends Norma, Yasmin and Mary Ellen, and when I was informed of her illness, I prayed for her daily. I'm so sorry, Bruce, that you have lost the love of your life. May you and your son cherish the memories and eventually find peace. My sympathy to Mr. and Mrs. Bimbo as you put your daughter to her final rest and to her sisters.
May Carol rest in peace.
Maureen McGuire

Erika Lipton

May 28, 2020

Bruce and Steven, I'm so sorry about the passing of Carol.
Our family holds fond memories of her from our karate days and times at the Gaynor house together.
Hoping that time brings comfort, and your fond memories give you peace.💗

Barbara Brezina

May 28, 2020

I can recall an abundance of fond memories of Carol, far too many to mention all...this is just a few. Remembering Carol as a young girl I went on many car rides with her, Donna and their Aunt Judi. Many wonderful fun years in Ortley Beach where pretty much we were the last one's on the beach. Our all day shopping venture to Tinton Falls, her driving from Fredon to Clark and then onto T.F. Many rainy day trips over the bridge from Ortley to the Ocean County Mall, always a fun past time when rain ruined a beach day. Our day trip from Ortley to Atlantic City with the family was another great time. So many wonderful New Year's Day's at her home with family and close friends filling up on all her delicious dishes that she took pride in making. And how could I not mention when my dear sister passed how Carol came to the Funeral Home after working all day at a street fair zeppole stand and came in with the greasy bag of zeppoles and gave them to my sister's grandchildren. Carol was a fun-loving all around caring good individual whose absence is greatly missed. With Compassion & Love to Bruce, Steven, Kathleen, Ed, Donna & Toni.

Stella and Alan Wehner and Family

May 27, 2020

My family met Carol at karate and quickly became friends. She always had a quick smile, a willingness to help and immediately made you feel welcomed and wanted. I know she will be greatly missed by her guys and everyone who got to know her along the way. May you find comfort in the life she led, knowing she loved you both very much. May God Bless and comfort you.

Cindi Rivara

May 27, 2020

Oh how I remember meeting Carol in my fourth grade classroom at Fredon School. She became our Classroom Mother like no other! Carol breezed into school often with elaborate creative ideas for upcoming holidays. She had boundless energy and enthusiasm. Her love and devotion to Steven was endless. Carol helped our family when adoption was forthcoming. Our grandson who is now nineteen shares Stevens passion for ice hockey! May God bless you and hold you in the palm of his hands, Bruce and Steven.

Jeanne Battaglino

May 26, 2020

Carol , You will always be remembered for your love of life, your sense of humor and your kindness ❤️So happy that I was so fortunate to know you. We will find you sitting next to Jesus, I’m sure🙏❤️I used to live in Fredon until 2008.

Brandi Unchester

May 26, 2020

My earliest memory of Carol was down the shore on the annual “Hess” family summer vacation trip. She played on the beach and in the ocean with us all day. We wanted her to stay longer but she said she had to get home to her husband. I was shocked! I had no idea she was an adult or that she was married. She was probably about 25 at the time but, to me, she seemed no older than 16 or 17. She was so much fun! That’s what I remember most about Carol. And I’m very sorry we have lost her. 🙏🏻❤️

FROM THE FAMILY