Irwin "Red" Facher

September 13, 1939November 22, 2021
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Irwin (‘Red’) Facher, 82, of Maplewood, NJ, died peacefully at home on November 22, 2021. Born and raised in Newark NJ, he returned to Essex County to practice law after earning a BA from Dartmouth College and a JD from Harvard Law School. He practiced law for over 50 years and with his wife of 55 years, Marylou (Portnoy), enjoyed travel, theatre, music and sports.

His greatest pleasure was his family and many close friends. He will be remembered by all who loved him for his unparalleled humor, steadfast loyalty, sharp mind, and stoicism in the face of significant health challenges. A grateful recipient of a heart transplant in 2010, Irwin felt blessed to have 11 more years with his beloved family and friends. Irwin is survived by his wife, children Scott Facher and Betsy Facher Rauch (Evan), grandchildren Leo and Miles Facher and Delia and Sabrina Rauch, sister and brother in law, Ruth and Sid Massey, and his beloved nieces and nephews.

A funeral service for Irwin will be held Sunday, November 28, 2021 at 11:00 AM at Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel, 68 Old Short Hills Road, Livingston, New Jersey. Following the funeral service will be a burial at 12:30 PM at B'nai Abraham Memorial Park, 2600 Rt. 22 East, Union, New Jersey.

At the request of the family, all attendees are required to be fully vaccinated and wear a mask.


  • Marylou Facher, Wife
  • Scott Facher, Son
  • Betsy Facher Rauch (Evan), Daughter
  • Leo Facher, Grandson
  • Miles Facher, Grandson
  • Delia Rauch, Granddaughter
  • Sabrina Rauch, Granddaughter
  • Ruth Massey, Sister-in-law
  • Sid Massey, Brother-in-law
  • Also survived by his beloved nieces and nephews.

  • Billy Massey
  • Danny Massey
  • Bess Massey
  • Bonnie Massey
  • Peter Orlowsky
  • Mark Zucker


  • Funeral Service

    Sunday, November 28, 2021


  • Burial

    Sunday, November 28, 2021


Irwin "Red" Facher

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Rita Fenichel

November 28, 2021

My husband , Seymore,was Irwin's first cousin. I saw him growing up,a pride to his father, Sol. As an attorney, he was a respected capable, just, charitable, and ethical man. For several years, he was a great help to my handicapped niece, Linn, doing legal work for her,even traveling to Stockholm, N.J. where she lived. For his many hours on the phone with her and his advice, he took no compensation. I was proud to be a relative and friend. I was also very fond of MaryLou. I'm now 93 and live in Sarasota. My sincere condolences.

Steve Fenichel

November 28, 2021

Irwin was one of those larger than life people .
I remember feeling very proud of being related to him when I read an article in the Press of Atlantic City. It told of his taking up cases of police wrongdoing as well as their union protecting them from accountability.
That inspired me to contact him .

Than memories came flooding back such as his teaching me the fundamentals of basketball when I was 10 years old, in addition too him being very patient he was a great teacher,

He was my Grandmother Pearl’ s nephew . She was the sister of Red’s father.

Watching the funeral service it was clear how he was loved by all the testimonials.

Sincere condolences to Marylou and the family.

Steven Fenichel

Naomi/Larry stein

November 28, 2021

Our sincere condolences on Red’s passing. Inspiring to hear the remarkable impact Red had on his family and many friends. A life well lived! The world would be a better place if there were more like him.May his memory be a blessing and an example for all.

Mort and Susan Lynn

November 28, 2021

Dear Marylou, Scott and Betsy,
What an amazing tribute to a most amazing man. As Matty said, “he was one of a kind” and we feel privileged to have been part of his life. We remember the yearly Dartmouth games, where Mort shared Red’s giant sized enthusiasm for Dartmouth and the game of football, while Marylou and Susan had equal enthusiasm for such things as Creatiive Playthings at the Princeton games and various other non sport related activities.
We remember the fun times, the tiny quail alone on a dinner plate for which we had waited about two hours. Above all, we remember laughing. And of course, we think of the phone calls after so many difficult health crises. Red, when obviously suffering, presented a positive outlook on his condition and a well thought out opinion on the current political situation, never missing a beat.
It’s been 60 years sharing each other’s joy and sorrow, Through all this our friendship has endured and has been a source of support and pleasure for each other. We miss him.

Martha Rubinson

November 28, 2021

Our family, Judith, David and I, watched this beautiful tribute together, and many tears were shed. We recalled Red taking Adam to a 49er/Giants game at the Meadowlands. Adam brought his huge 49er finger and Red said that they almost didn’t make it to the car after the game alive. Judith remembers napping contests with Betsy at several shows. I recall when you borrowed our apartment once and left us with “rye bread” meatballs. So many wonderful memories, it is impossible to remember Red without laughing.
Your loss is great, but so are the wonderful memories he left us with. His memory is truly a blessing.❤️❤️❤️

Norma, Carl, Steven & Lisa Berlow

November 28, 2021

Dear Marylou, Scott & Betsy,

We have so many wonderful memories of Red that we will cherish forever. His smile, his sense of humor and his love for life and family were infectious. We always loved spending time with our cousin Red. He made us feel so special. We will miss him dearly. We’re sorry we couldn’t be there with you but know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Sending you all our love and heartfelt condolences.

We love you,

Norma, Carl, Steven & Lisa

Judith Kashyap

November 28, 2021

I have many memories of our two families spending time together in both NYC and SF as a child growing up. Some highlights are Betsy's famous tea concoction at Sammy's, Adam's survival at 49er game when he went with Scott and Red and taunted the NY fans, etc. Red and Marilou always made time to see me when I was in town. Famous Red lingo used regularly in my life is " hang a u-ey".
The service was beautiful and we wished we could have been there in person.
Love always,
Judith Rubinson Kashyap (and Anan, Anjali and Ari)

Ellen Greene

November 28, 2021

Dear Marylou, Scott and Betsy,

What a very meaningful service that so accurately portrayed Red's life and his genuine love for all his family and friends. He will certainly be missed by us and all whose path he crossed.

Our love to you three and your entire family, Ellen and Phil

Roberta Melli

November 28, 2021

We are celebrating Red’s life and memory today. All our love, Roberta and Rick Melli.

Linda and Dan Litwin

November 27, 2021

Dear Marylou, Scott, and Betsy,
A favorite, recent memory celebrating Red turning 80, recalling his beaming smile, his joy to be with family and friends, his enthusiasm for sports, and his world-class sense of humor.
With Love from Linda and Dan