Kenny was a wonderful friend and we became friends when we worked together at Roxbury District Court, Roxbury, Massachusetts (part of Boston) with me.  Kenny was such a kind  and always honest,  which are only a few great qualities  about Kenny.  We will truly miss Kenny and the fond memories will always be with us.  Our thoughts and prayers are with his family.     Colleen and John Walsh, Jamaica Plain, Massachusetts

Praying for Ken and family, and very sorry for the loss of such a good person. I met Ken through the recycling business and can testify he was one of the most honest, sincere and informative people in the business. So very sorry for his loss. Praying for family.

My deepest sympathies to all of Kenneth's family.
Word only reached me recently of his passing.
Like his father before him, taken to heaven much too soon..
I knew him as 'Kenny' since we were classmates in grammar and middle school prior to my family leaving Verona.
When I was invited to attend his high school class reunion in '07, and saw Kenny there, it was a true delight to catch up!
I had hoped to see Kenny when I flew East for another of his high schol class reunions in October '22 but he did not attend.
Kenny's memory  will always remain in the hearts of those who knew and loved him.
My sincere condolences,
Neil Sokoler
Los Angeles

Kenny was a wonderful friend for many years and we have great memories of Kenny as a loyal friend, great husband and father, which he will truly be missed.

Kenny was an intern during his college years working with John  Walsh at Roxbury District Court in 1980 along with our dear  friend Tom  Morse.  

Also, have great memories when Kenny attended our wedding on 6/10/1990, which seems like yesterday.   

These are only a few of the wonderful memories we have over the years of Kenny and we treasure them dearly. 

We send our prayers and thought to Kenny's wife and sons, which was were truly a gift in his life.

Rest in peace Kenny and until our paths cross again we will keep you in our hearts. 

Colleen and John Walsh, Jamaica Plain, MA

Sad to find out one of my oldest and greatest friends has passed. Ken and I have been friends since 1980 when we both went to college in Boston!  We were instant friends, through our love of music, sports and life in general. We had a great time living and working in Boston. We both worked at a courthouse in the roughest part of the city and became roommates after college. Our friendship lasted all these years through life's ups and downs. Ken was a great guy, loyal friend and he loved his family.  I was privileged to be his friend. I'll miss him a lot, especially his sense of humor. 

We. here at U.S. Lead are deeply sadden to hear of Ken's passing. We only knew him on a work level but he was highly intelligent in his field & we grew a great relationship over the years. Our prayers are with Kens family & friends as we know what a great loss this is. <3 



Sending our support and thoughts at this very sad time. Wishing you a lot of love and comfort during your loss of a loving, wonderful husband, father & friend. 
Laura & Ben Baker

Ken was an exceptional person not only to work with but when we would see each other out and about.  He will be missed by all of us who had the pleasure to know him.

Tom Eschmann and the Morris Township Public Works Department

We all worked with Ken years ago and would still get together occasionally. This  photo was from Saint Patrick's Day 2022.  We enjoyed spending that afternoon with Ken- sharing stories and laughs.  Smiles all day!  

God Speed Ken!- Joe, John, Will and Dave

Mike is great  he will be missed   Ran a great co   Always helped my finances RIP   GONE TO SOON 🔜  FROM RON  WEST

Kenny was an exceptionally kind and happy man who I always looked forward to seeing at family parties. He made his family and friends happier. I will miss seeing him. 

He was truly a mensch.

My deepest condolences to the Oettingers and Strasslers on your tragic loss. Kenny will be remembered with love by so many people. Wishing you strength and comfort now and always.

The Maged family from Cedar Grove Temple Sholom want to express our heartfelt sympathy. 
With love from Mitch, Marty and Joyce (Bivone)

This photo is of Ken & Cathy, warmly schmoozing with Thelma’s cousins at her 90th  birthday celebration, so sweet!

I am so grateful that Kenny, Cathy and dear Janet were there to share my mom’s (Thelma) 90th birthday with us!
It was a time of sharing and catching up with them too; so lovely!
It was so special to get our 2 moms together…
A loving memory of this wonderful, giving  man that shared our childhood on Woodland Ave, Verona…

Ken was an amazing man, father, husband, and friend. Between baseball, swimming, and goofing around at each other's houses, Ken watched me grow up with John and was like a second father to me. I felt like I saw him all the time with how much time I spent with John. And he was always very interested in my own hobbies, interests, and family. He made me feel like he really cared about me, and it was obvious he did. And that's how Ken was, an extremely caring man. I'd see the same behavior from him asking Andy about his band, or asking Greg about Romania. Ken knew how to connect with everyone. Ken will be deeply missed, not just by me, but by everyone he ever came in contact with. He is unforgettable. 

To Cathy, John, and Joe, I am truly sorry for your loss. He had so much impact on my life so the impact he had on all of yours is unimaginable. Love you all.

God Bless The Family...Mr Ken Always  Treated me with respect ..We had alot of Good morning  memories  before work at H&C...We always had good talks on certain  subjects and especially  music and rhythm..My Condolences  to All of his family..Mr Ken Will be Missed..I hope U all enjoy Our Great Memory we shared together...God Bless You All.....Sincerely  Melvin  Brown🙏

TranAct  Deepest Sympathy

May you get through this difficult time, with prayer
and comfort from friends and family.


Though I’ve never met Kenny, I’m saddened by this loss of a loved one.  My heart goes out and is heavy for Janet, his mom.  May he rest in peace.  Love, Ruth Frankel

I am heartbroken.

I sold Ken his Bar Mitzvah suit.

That's how long I know the family. My deepest condolences to his family, especially Janet.

May his memory be a blessing.

I never net Ken in person,  however our conversation were like if we knew each others , from teenagers.  Professionally,  he was very helpful,  we formed a bond from day 1, I could have called on him for any help or advice that was needed. 
One of my fondest moments was when I informed him I packed all my batteries and loaded my containers single handedly, he said "Nash, whenever we meet, remind never to ask you for a bear hug" we had a good laugh on that. 
To his wife and children, please accept my deepest condolences.  To the entire H&C metals, family,  like you, it's a great loss for us. 
May his soul rest in peace. 
I will miss you Ken .

OBITUARY

Kenneth A. Oettinger

October 6, 1959 – March 4, 2023

Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel

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