

Our most beloved Thomas Russell Kill (Tom) passed away unexpectedly on the morning of May 21, 2025. We will forever miss his humble and kind spirit, his brilliant mind, gentle wisdom, and the joy and light he brought to those around him. Known for his compassionate heart, his quiet acts of kindness, and the unconditional love that he offered so freely. Whether it was a thoughtful gesture, a word of encouragement, or simply being present with warmth and understanding, Tom had a way of making people feel seen, valued, and cared for. He was a true blessing to many.
Tom was born to Nancy Jo (Shafer) Kill and Donald Russell Kill on October 30, 1960, in Michigan City, Indiana. From a young age, it was clear that Tom possessed a rare and generous soul. He wasn’t just a playful boy who loved swimming and exploring the woods behind his house, he was a quiet guardian for those around him. He instinctively looked out for his three sisters, always stepping in with a protective heart. Whether it was giving advice, sharing a curious fact to spark wonder or whipping up his famous cheese and ketchup sandwiches for them. Those quirky little sandwiches, lovingly crafted with a bright smile, and a big heart, weren’t just snacks – they were early glimpses of the unwavering devotion Tom would carry through life, a quiet promise that those who he would love would always be nurtured, no matter how simple the gesture. Tom was indeed a soul destined to nurture, comfort and lift those around him. He radiated care, selflessness, and love. Even as a child, his heart seemed to beat not just for himself, but for everyone lucky enough to be near him.
While in high school, Tom attended Culver Military Academy as a freshman and earned his Eagle Scout designation. He graduated from Rogers High School in Michigan City, Indiana, in 1979. He went on to earn his Bachelor of Science degree in Chemistry from Purdue University in 1983. That fall, Tom entered Army Officer Training School. He served in the U.S. Army for seven years, including two years of foreign service. During part of the Cold War, he was stationed in Karlsruhe, Germany, at the Mackensen-Kaserne U.S. Army Installations. He was awarded numerous medals and ribbons in recognition for his military service, including two medals for his time overseas.
While in the Army and based in Europe, Tom took a writing course at Oxford University, which awakened a lifelong passion for storytelling and inspired him to begin work on his beautifully written novel titled West Baden Springs. Whenever he had a moment to himself, Tom would seek the tranquility of a park bench near the U.S military base in Karlsruhe, drawn to the simple peace it offered. There, with a pen in hand and thoughts flowing freely, he poured his heart into the pages, weaving a story born from both vivid imagination and rooted in a pivotal chapter of American history; the U.S. stock market crash of 1929. His novel was a labor of love; one he carried with quiet pride and deep fulfillment. Many years later, with the rise of technology and online shopping, West Baden Springs became, and remains, available on Amazon.com
Tom was full of quiet surprises. At a family gathering on New Year's Eve 1989, he wore a sharp tuxedo that drew admiring glances, not because he wanted attention, but because it simply suited him in a way that perfectly reflected his true nature, quietly graceful and classy. When someone asked where he bought it, he humbly replied, “Queen Elizabeth II gave it to me!” Some may have assumed he was joking. But as with many of Tom’s stories, the truth was even better, the Queen had really gifted the nice tuxedo to him during an official military ceremony held while he was stationed in Europe, serving in the Army. Tom rarely spoke of such moments, never one to draw attention to himself, he never needed applause or recognition. Yet behind his humble presence lived a lifetime of remarkable moments, moments that didn’t shout, but lingered softly like echoes of grace. He carried his stories not to impress anyone, but as quiet reflections of a life lived with humility and gratitude for the journey itself, and the boundless love he held for those who journeyed alongside him.
After completing his military service in 1990, Tom attended Indiana University, where he earned his Master of Science Degree in Chemistry. Driven by a deep curiosity and a passion for physics and science, Tom pursued further studies through additional teaching programs at California State University and UCLA, laying the foundation for a teaching career that would inspire countless students to explore the wonders of the physical sciences. He would go on to become a devoted teacher—patient, passionate, and deeply committed to helping his students succeed. For Tom, teaching wasn’t just a profession; it was a life calling he embraced with heart and unwavering dedication.
On August 22, 1991, Tom began working for the Los Angeles Unified School District and remained a dedicated and passionate teacher for over 33 years. His passion for teaching reached across several schools in the district, including Lincoln High School, Westchester High School, Monroe High School, Carson High School, and most recently, Mission High School. During his long tenure with LAUSD, Tom taught a wide range of subjects including AP Physics, Science, Biology, Chemistry, Earth Sciences and a few others. But it wasn’t just Tom’s inherent intellect, extensive academic preparation, or his effective and engaging teaching style that made a difference. It was the way he genuinely cared for his students. He had a special place in his heart for students from underserved and marginalized communities. He saw and believed in their potential, even when the world didn’t, and he made it his mission to lift them up. Through patience, encouragement, and unwavering belief, he inspired them to pursue higher education, not just to succeed in school, but to reach their full life potential and transform their lives as well as those of their loved ones.
Tom’s classroom was more than a place to learn about the mysteries of matter, energy and the universe; it was a place where every student, regardless of where they came from or what personal struggles they carried, could feel seen, heard and valued, it was a place where students felt encouraged to believe in a better future as Tom was more than an educator. He was a mentor, a coach, a lifeline, and for many students he was also a light of hope, encouragement and inspiration during some of their difficult moments. His legacy lives on not in test scores or lesson plans, but in the lives of the students which he helped shape. Tom’s impact will certainly echo through the many young lives he touched, long after the final bell.
Tom was also a lifelong traveler, driven by a fascinating and unstoppable desire to see the world beyond his doorstep. At just 11 years old, he embarked on his first great adventure across the Atlantic, visiting England, France, and Spain. At such a tender young age, that trip changed him. It awakened in Tom an unwavering passion for travel, discovery, for culture, and for connection. During his overseas service, he traveled extensively across Europe, and continued exploring the world throughout his life, whether on summer vacations, spring breaks, family trips, or memorable and adventurous journeys with his lifelong partner, Carlos Campos. For Tom, travel was never just about seeing new places; it was a way to deepen his cultural understanding, to enrich his life experience and connect with people. What he didn’t realize was that, in these moments of connection, he was also leaving behind something meaningful: his comforting warmth, affection, and a kindness that quietly enriched the lives of those he met.
With Carlos at his side, Tom also ventured through Latin America, visiting Argentina, Brazil, Chile, Peru, Uruguay, and most memorably, Mexico, a country that stole his heart from the moment he first arrived. The magic and beauty of Mexico captivated his heart completely. He was enchanted by its warm-hearted people, vibrant culture, storied traditions and festivals, and colorful landscapes. He especially loved Mexican cuisine and found joy in the simple pleasures of good food and great company. What began as a favorite destination eventually became a second home when Tom along with Carlos, bought a house in Puerto Vallarta, Jalisco, a place they returned to often for many years. Tom’s passport was a vivid reflection of a well-traveled life. Its pages filled so quickly with international entry and exit stamps that it often needed renewing long before its expiration date. Each stamp on his passport marked not just a destination he visited, but a treasured memory, a new friendship formed, a dream fulfilled, a special moment that made his world a little bigger and his heart a little fuller.
Tom’s international travels didn’t just fill old-fashioned photo albums or light up his iPhone camera roll, they sparked a passion for connecting with others on a more personal level during his journeys. This deepened his appreciation for diverse cultures, which in turn inspired him to learn multiple languages, allowing him to engage with people and places with genuine appreciation and respect. While stationed for two years at the Mackensen-Kaserne U.S. based in Karlsruhe, Germany and during his many visits back, Tom embraced the language and mastered conversational German so he could understand not only the people, but also the pulse of daily life. Much later in his life journey, that same passion blossomed into a deep dedication to learning Spanish. What began as simple phrases exchanged with Carlos and their Spanish-speaking friends, soon evolved into a more exciting way for him to bond, share and connect on a more meaningful level, in Spanish! Carlos was especially proud listening to Tom speak Spanish, particularly when he flawlessly rolled his R’s. It may have seemed like a small detail to others, but for them, it was a significant milestone; a reflection of Tom’s devotion to learning, his patience and the heart he brought to everything he pursued. He also studied French and Italian.
Tom was a kind person with a noble heart and a gentle soul, who walked quietly through the world, yet left footprints of immense kindness, wisdom, and love wherever he went. From his early years in Indiana to his devoted service in the U.S. Army, from his inspired path as a science educator to the many cherished moments he shared with his family including his beloved partner, Carlos, Tom lived with a grace that touched everyone fortunate to know him. His passions—for teaching, mentoring students, travel, history, culture, language, and, above all, connection—were not mere hobbies or fleeting distractions but reflections of his profound desire to live a life of meaningful purpose and grace.
Tom’s legacy lives on in everyday moments, in the many lives he touched with his gentle heart and spirit, in the laughter and joy that echo as family and friends lovingly share memories about him, in the many treasured friendships he nurtured through his genuine appreciation for connection, in the students who believe in themselves because he believed in them first. His impact continues in the countless lives he quietly and steadily uplifted, simply by being the kind of person you encounter only once in a lifetime, more than extraordinary, a true blessing!
Tom, you were cherished beyond measure—and your love, your light, and your quiet grace will live on in the hearts of those who knew you for the rest of our days. Your physical presence may be gone, but your light will continue to shine in everyone whose life you so lovingly touched. We will always love you!
Left to cherish Tom’s memory are his partner of 27 years, Carlos Campos; his sisters Kathleen Frisk (Gary), Kristi Stinson (Keith), and Karen Kennedy; his nieces and nephew, Anneke Swanson (Michael), Brooke Heyman (Adam), Lauren Hamel (George III), and Everett Kennedy (Alyssa); his great-nieces and nephews, Ilya, Everett, Poppy Mae, and Charlotte; his cousin Tina Pierce (David), and their children, Tyler and Justin; as well as many friends, colleagues, and students.
The family sincerely appreciates the outpouring of love and support from friends and colleagues.
A Celebration of Life Ceremony to honor our beloved Tom will be held on Saturday, June 28, 2025, from 1:10 PM to 4:00 PM at the Pierce Brothers Westwood Village Memorial Park Chapel, located at 1218 Glendon Avenue, Los Angeles, CA 90024. A gathering and service at his peaceful resting place will also be held the day prior, on Friday, June 27, 2025 from 2:30 PM to 3:30 PM at the same location.
For those who wish to make a donation in Tom’s memory to support students in foster care or experiencing homelessness, please donate to:
LAUSD Homeless Education Office
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