Swan Funeral Home

825 Boston Post Road, Madison, CT


David Anthony D'Alessio

March 17, 1964March 8, 2020

David Anthony D’Alessio of Madison, CT died on March 8, in New Haven CT at Smilow Cancer Hospital after a brief illness. He was born on March 17, 1964 in Baltimore MD. The son of Raymond and Patricia (Denver) D’Alessio, he grew up in Madison where he wrestled at Brown Middle School and Daniel Hand High School. He graduated from Southern Connecticut State University with a teaching degree so that he could return to Madison to teach and coach the sport he loved. He received his Master’s Degree and his 092 in Administration from Scared Heart University. He taught Science in Madison for 29 years, and coached wrestling at Daniel Hand High School for the better part of 33 years, where he taught young men and women lessons for life as well as wrestling. He was inducted into the Madison Athletic Hall of Fame as an athlete and as a coach in 2015. He loved his family, wrestling, cooking, gardening and fixing things. He also enjoyed the pick through pile at the transfer station, and couldn’t resist a good freebie on the side of the road. He is survived by his beloved wife of 29 years Diane, his devoted children, Andy of Clinton, CT and Hailey; siblings Kim Blackwell (husband Neal) of Pennington NJ, Keith D’Alessio (wife Jennifer) of Cary NC, Gina D’Alessio (Tony Grasso) of Durham CT; 3 loving nephews Zachary, Brad and Patrick D’Alessio and 2 nieces Tristina Blake and Gianna Balsamo.

Friends and relatives are invited to attend a graveside burial at 11:00 on Friday March 13, at Mica Hill Cemetery in Durham CT and a Memorial Celebration at 10:00 on Saturday March 14, at Hubley Hall at The First Congregational Church in downtown Madison.

Lastly, the family would like to sincerely thank the caring healthcare staff at Smilow Cancer Hospital for their exceptional care of Dave during his final weeks. Their gentle care and support are most appreciated. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Dave’s memory to Smilow Cancer Hospital P.O. Box 1849 New Haven, CT 06508.


  • Graveside Service Friday, March 13, 2020
  • Memorial Celebration Saturday, March 14, 2020


David Anthony D'Alessio

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David Yudichak

March 14, 2020

Coach, my goodness, I don't even know where to begin. I'll never be able to tell you how important your were to my life, how wrestling made my life what it is. You were a great coach, understood us teenagers, and drilled us hard. I loved it. We were definitely born of the same stuff. I fed off of you and for a guy who was always a pretty good wrestler, my senior year with you I was an undefeated state champion. I don't think I've ever been so focused and worked so hard for something in all my life. Thank you coach. I do so wish I had the chance to tell you that in person. My love to your family.

Lori Lodge

March 14, 2020

Diane, Andy and Hailey.

We are so sorry for your loss. Dave was such a warm person who was always interested in how our family was doing and so proud of his. You are in our thoughts and prays during this extremely difficult time. May you find comfort in knowing how many lives Dave touched and in the memories that you hold dear.

With our deepest condolences-
The Lodge Family - Lori, Nick, Heather & Neil

Kevin Hart

March 14, 2020

Dave was the epitome of what the term coach should mean. Yes, he cared deeply about his teams but more so the “individuals” that made up each team. These “individuals” weren’t just the kids on the mat., his primary focus. They were the parents and family of all those kids. They were the other teams, the refs on the mat, they were the fans in the stands. Dave coached us all in ways we didn’t even realize but are all so grateful for. Rest easy Dave, we will keep your lessons close to heart and mind

Tina & Jim Cusimano

March 12, 2020

Dave will be missed and fondly and remembered for his kindness, smile, helpfulness, his wonderful baked breads and for being a smoker bbq master. Our deepest sympathies and love to Di, Hailey and Andy during this sad and difficult time. Wishing you strength & peace in the days ahead. May the memories you shared together comfort you and and carry you forward.
Love and hugs Tina & Jim xo

Rich Bowen

March 12, 2020

Dave was a great coach and an even better human being. We had some good matches over the years and developed a great friendship and respect for one another through wrestling. My condolences go out to his family and friends.

Rich Bowen

Carole Pleines

March 12, 2020

I did not know Dave met him once or twice at the flower shop in Durham. Lovely man. I know his sister she’s as lovely as them come. My deepest sympathy to David and his family. Rest well.

Stephen Merlino

March 12, 2020

I knew Dave for many years. Never saw him often enough. He was a great soul, a great leader of young people and will forever be one of the best wrestling coaches CT has known. There are too few truly good people in the world and though there is one less upon his passing, I am sure his guidance fostered that goodness in many others. My condolences to Diane, Andy and Hailey. Rest in Peace Dave.

Craig Semple

March 12, 2020

Dave loved the journey he took with the kids in the Wrestling program. He treated all the kids with compassion, kindness, and competitiveness. Our student-athletes were better people under coaches leadership. He taught them many life lessons. His legacy is ingrained in our program forever. Condolences to his wonderful family.

Regina Taddei-Griffith

March 12, 2020

Dave was my neighbor of 25 years. One of the best neighbors a person can have! I am still in shock and disbelief and my heart aches for his entire family, his lovely wife Diane, his children , Andy and daughter Hailey and his dogs. He was a kind generous man with a heart of gold. He will never be forgotten by all and by his neighbors on Jasper Lane

howard moody

March 12, 2020

I was an assistant coach for one year with Dave. I enjoyed my time with him immensely. He was a wonderful coach and person. My condolences go out to everyone in his family.

Howard Moody