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Swan Funeral Home

825 Boston Post Road, Madison, CT

OBITUARY

Dr. Michael Franklin Parker

August 29, 1951May 21, 2019
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Dr. Michael F. Parker of Madison, Connecticut passed away on May 21, 2019 in the comfort of his home, surrounded by his loving wife and children. He was 67 years old.

Michael was born on August 29, 1951 in Snyder, Oklahoma to Margie and Claude Parker. The second of five children and the grandson of farmers, he was taught the value of hard work, self-sufficiency, and providing for the family. He lived his life in this spirit wherever he went—from his family’s move to Texas where he attended Austin College and Baylor College of Medicine, to his own journey to the northeast where he’d meet his wife Clara and, soon, build a family of his own.

The young physician and registered nurse met when Michael was an intern with the United States Public Health Service in a hospital on Staten Island. Theirs was a whirlwind romance; they fell in love and were married seven months later, in 1979. Dr. and Mrs. Parker started their life together in Alexandria Bay, but soon found their way to Connecticut and, ultimately, to Madison. While it was the antique auctions in the VFW hall and fried clams at Lenny and Joe’s that brought them to town, it was the cozy, safe, enchanted nature of the beautiful shoreline community that kept the Parker family here, in the same house, for nearly four decades.

Michael was compassionate, gentle, intelligent, and humble. He was the kind of doctor who would sit with you for a full hour during a physical to make sure he heard every word you had to say, and give you his home phone to call him on Christmas morning in case you needed to talk more. He was the kind of father who would beam with unbridled pride at the achievements—big and small—of his children, and stop at nothing to provide them with the very best opportunities and privileges imaginable. He was the kind of friend who would open his heart and mind to share in the depths of your sorrows and your joys, and give freely of anything he had if it could bring you comfort and peace. And he was the kind of husband who, after celebrating forty years of marriage, remained in awe of the fierce love and devotion his wife showed him and his children.

Dr. Parker was the perfect blend of artist and scientist—he read Walt Whitman and T.S. Eliot as often as he read Einstein. He was a lover of the classics and the contemporary—he could hum every note of Die Zauberflöte and Hey Jude. He spent his time in museums and art galleries, in the passenger seat of fast cars, and on the Atlantic ocean, chasing striped bass and bluefin tuna. Whether at his desk at Internal Medicine of East Haven, his home in Madison, or his getaway on his beloved Martha’s Vineyard, he was never without a subtle smile and a twinkle in his eye. He was a philosopher and a critic, a progressive and a man of traditions, a poet, a clamdigger, a primary care doctor, a dreamer. Most of all, he was a lover, and well-loved.

In his life, Michael endured the loss of his parents and his older sister, Jan. In his death, he will be remembered by his wife, Clara; his children, Caitlin (and son-in-law Rick), John-Michael, Luke, and Sam; his brother David and his sisters Andrea and Julie; his amigo Ioannis; and his staff, colleagues, family members, and friends across the country.

Michael’s services will begin on Tuesday May 28 with a wake from 4-9 PM at Swan Funeral Home, 825 Boston Post Rd in Madison. A mass of Christian burial will be held on Wednesday May 29 at 3 PM at St. George Parish, 33 Whitfield St in Guilford. In lieu of flowers, his family suggests that donations in Dr. Parker’s memory be made to any of the following: VNA Community Healthcare & Hospice (753 Boston Post Rd, Guilford, CT 06437), Madison A Better Chance (PO Box 371, Madison, CT 06443), or the Creutzfeldt-Jakob Disease Foundation (3610 W. Market Street, Suite 110 Akron, OH 44333).

Services

  • Calling Hours Tuesday, May 28, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Memories

Dr. Michael Franklin Parker

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Bill Datre

June 9, 2019

I am saddened to hear of Dr. Parker‘s passing. My brother and I were under his care for several years at the recommendation of our Dad, our first doc as we embarked on our professional lives. Not just a physician, I remember him for his compassionate, easy-going manner and smile. He was a true gentleman. Thank you for sharing the wonderful video and written tribute. It gave me some solace he enjoyed many family milestones and fun hobbies during his life. May these thoughts and loving memories comfort you during this difficult time.

Kathy Perrelli

June 7, 2019

RIP Dr Parker , I have no words . I can’t believe you are not with us ! Gone to soon , You were one great doctor 🙏

Scott Corcoran

June 5, 2019

Dr. Parker,

Thank you for the many years of care you gave me. I can't believe that you'll no longer be my doctor or that you're no longer here. It saddened me to receive the letter from Mrs. Parker that you were ill. I was hoping it was a fun filled, happy letter of retirement so you can enjoy your life after giving so much to so many! I am sorry that I missed our last appointment and that I ended up going to Quest instead of an office visit. I miss you terribly...and will sum up my time as your patient and how you treated me during that time by saying this. You always came in and looked at my blood pressure number taken by the nurse, you wouldn't stand for it, they would always ask me if I was nervous, I could never be nervous around you, you had such a calming presence and demeanor. You would take my blood pressure and it would be much improved over the nurses readings. That's pretty much it, I was always better off when you were involved!!! From the first physical I had with you and you said I did so well that I earned a free prostate exam and the laughter we shared with that set the pace for the next 20 some odd years, you always put me at ease. I will miss that and you terribly. My thoughts and prayers go out to your wife, children and family and friends!!! RIP DOC

Beyhan Duran

June 1, 2019

Dear Claire, John-Michael, and the Entire Parker Family,

I was shocked and saddened to hear of Dr. Parker’s passing! I would like to express my deepest and most sincere sympathy. I can only imagine what you all must be going through. I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you.

With deepest sympathy.
Beyhan

laina piscitelli

June 1, 2019

I was a 15 year old when I had my first appointment with Dr Parker and 47 my last. RIP Dr Parker!!

Kathy Stardellis

May 29, 2019

My deepest Condolences to the family of DrMichael Parker. Such a well respected and loved doctor by all. He has left a memory in everyone’s Heart that not many could match. May he Rest In Peace and May you find comfort being surrounded by your family and friends

Kerri Guida

May 29, 2019

Dr. Parker left us all way too soon. My heart is broken to hear about the news of his passing. He was my doctor for over 15 years. After many years of searching for a doctor who was willing to listen to my health issues, I was introduced to him. He was a blessing from above. Dr. Parker was patient, kind and determined to help you and others. On occasion, I would run into him at the deli in Madison and he was just so down to earth, there was no one like him out there. For the last three years, I’ve been driving from MA to CT to see him. He was the one doctor I would not give up. No one will ever replace him. I recall my conversation with him during my last visit, “don’t take this personal Dr. Parker, but I hope I don’t have to see you until next year” He chucked and agreed, stay well. If I could only see him one more time. Rest in peace Dr. Parker and thank you for being you. My sincere condolences to his family. May you find peace during this difficult time.

Kerri Guida

John & Christina Vanacore

May 29, 2019

Professional, personable, compassionate, sympathetic & caring. All words to best describe Dr Parker.
Dr Parker will be missed by all who knew him. Always a good talk about fishing or the Yale Hockey game among other things.
Sincere condolences to his family and staff.

Respectfully,

John & Christina Vanacore
North Haven

roseann franco

May 29, 2019

My deepest sympathy goes out to the Parker Family and his staff at Internal Medicine. I had the privilege to know and work with Dr. Parker for over 10 years, he will be greatly missed.

Mr. & Mrs. Michael Franco

Barbara Gettings

May 28, 2019


Dr Parker my Doctor of 30 years.
Soft spoken, kind, compassionate ,
caring. You were one of a kind. Condolences to your family. My husband and son were also patients and he would always ask me how they were. We will miss you dearly. 💔

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