Swan Funeral Home

825 Boston Post Road, Madison, CT


Roger Arms

September 22, 1951November 8, 2019

Roger Arms, 68, of Killingworth, formerly of Madison, who was married to Susan for 46 years, passed away unexpectedly on November 8, 2019 at home. Roger was born September 22, 1951 in Oak Park, Illinois to the late Richard and Renetta Arms of Omaha, Nebraska.

He attended UCONN and was employed by Rosewood Custom Cabinetry and Millwork in Killingworth, Ct.

He enjoyed photographing nature, playing with his dog Kaylee, studying Civil War history, collecting various trinkets of little value, tinkering in the garage and spending time with his family. He will be remembered for his warm, outgoing personality and sometimes inappropriate sense of humor.

He will be dearly missed by Susan, his son Brian and his wife Melissa of Clinton, CT, his daughter Lauren and her husband Andre of Ferrisburgh, Vermont and his two grandchildren, Sean and Topher.

A celebration of life will be held at the North Madison Volunteer Fire Department, 864 Opening Hill Road, Madison, on November 23, 2019 from 3-6pm, Tributes will begin at 4pm. Please feel free to stop in and share a memory.


  • Memorial Service Saturday, November 23, 2019


Roger Arms

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Rob Tracy

November 24, 2019

Roger one of my pirate buddies ,neighbor and all around great man....you are missed!

Nancy (Bardon Friye

November 20, 2019

Please accept our deepest sympathy to the Roger Bardon Arms family from his maternal Aunt Alvera Stegeman Bardon (husband the late Harold Bardon) & cousins Barbara Bardon Bockhaus (husband the late Roger Bockhaus) & Nancy (Bardon) Friye & husband Tom. We live in Quincy, IL, where Roger’s Mother Renetta was born & raised. It was very comforting & insightful reading the wonderful comments about their friend Roger. I’m sorry we never really got to know each other. Blessings to the family

Rene & Carol Arbour

November 17, 2019

Sue, and family,

As long time friends and neighbors we we deeply shocked and saddened when we learned Roger had suddenly passed. Every memory we have of Roger was of his fun spirt and always wanting to help you in whatever task you were involved with. We would always share a laugh or two when he would run down his driveway to chat. Roger will be missed and never forgotten by his long list of friends , family and his dog Kaylee.

Rene & Carol Arbour

Sandi Linton

November 13, 2019

Sue, Brian and Lauren

Paul and I send our sincerest condolences at this very difficult time.
Roger was a kind and gentle man. If met on the streets, he would give a hug and ask about our family.
May the days and weeks ahead ease your sadness as you recall the best of memories shared with family and friends.

Blessings and Peace
Sandi and Paul Linton

John Kosik

November 12, 2019

Such a stalwart friend for 50 years. Through all the ups and downs, the good and the not so good, a true friend and my Best Man. Too many memories to reflect on. Forever thankful for having traveled back to New England earlier this year for a long overdue visit. Back to the stars with you then. Safe journey. I will miss you terribly.

bethany taylor

November 12, 2019

Dear Roger was a wonderful neighbor for 15 years. He was always ready to help anyone in need and being new home owners, we were more than able to provide that need! As our pool began draining into our basement, he grabbed his chainsaw, cut through our deck and diverted the water to our driveway. When I heard of Rogers passing, I looked around our new condo with love and appreciation for his meticulously hung paintings and beautiful mantle designed, built and installed by this wonderful man. He was a gift to this earth and is blessing whoever he is meeting on his continued spiritual journey. Much love to you all.