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Swan Funeral Home

825 Boston Post Road, Madison, CT

OBITUARY

Timothy F Shay

April 22, 1947September 23, 2019
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Timothy Francis Shay, 72, husband of Mandy Farricker Shay, and father to Jack Farricker, passed away peacefully in his sleep after a long tiring illness on September 23, 2019. Tim was born in April of 1947 in Yonkers, NY to the late Frank and Denise O'Brien Shay. He was the first of three boys in the Shay family. Tim attended Cranwell Prep School in Lenox, Massachusetts followed by four years at St. Michael's College in Colchester, Vermont, where he was Captain of the Soccer team, a high achieving academic student and was chosen to the "Who's Who in America's Colleges & Universities" list, in 1968. Tim graduated in that same year in 1968 and received his MBA later in life.

Tim was a veteran of the Vietnam war, serving in the 101st Airborne division of the United States Army and was awarded the Bronze Star.

Tim spent every summer of his childhood, while in school, and throughout his adult life on the beach in Misquamicut, Rhode Island. Every summer, the Beach house was the central meeting spot for Tim, his brothers; Justin and Brian, along with so many friends and family. Being on the beach, with sand in his toes and the water out in front of him was where Tim was happiest. Tim was also very happy through the years racing sports cars at Lime Rock Park, in CT as well as on various race tracks in Rhode Island.

In 2001, Tim met Mandy and Jack Farricker and together they began a life of travel, laughter, happiness and family. Tim and Mandy married in October of 2003 and resided in Fairfield, CT until moving to Madison, CT in 2005. Tim was a devoted husband and a wonderful dad to Jack Farricker, who loved being with Jack and all of his friends, and hosting everyone at the beach house in Misquamicut, RI during the summer. Tim was incredibly kind, loving, generous, sincere and genuine, and loved to laugh. More than anything, he loved Jack and continued to connect with him almost every single day up to his death.

Tim was predeceased by his son, Christopher B. Shay and many dogs and cats along the way. Tim was Catholic and continued to hold on to his faith throughout his illness.

He leaves behind his wife Mandy, son Jack, Brother's Justin and Brian, Sister-in-Law Ellen, plus Nephews Timmy and Daniel and Niece Kate.

Calling hours will begin at 4pm on Friday, September 27th at the Swan Funeral Home, at 825 Boston Post Road in Madison, CT

Services

  • Calling Hours Friday, September 27, 2019

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Noreen Kokoruda

October 7, 2019

Tim was such a great guy. He and Mandy were neighbors in Madison. They were a special couple who quickly made everyone their friend. He was generous with his time and always had a kind and supportive comment. My condolences to Mandy and Jack. XO Noreen Kokoruda

royal hartigan

September 29, 2019

dear tim and family,

tim, we will miss you deeply, and hold you in our hearts always. i will keep you in my music and great memories of the times we had at st. mike's.

to mandy, jack, and tim's family, my condolences for the loss of a great guy. while i hadn't seen tim over the years, he is and will continue to be in my thoughts.

in spirit and music, royal hartigan

Tom Fisch

September 29, 2019

Goodbye old friend. Thanks for the days at St Mike’s! Always confident, happy and anxious to share friendship. I always admired that. God bless you.

Carl Roof

September 26, 2019

Tim was a great guy, friend and student at St. Mike's. We laughed often and almost every time he encountered me on the campus walking to class, etc., he would say " Hey, it's Rufus Thomas, walkin' the dog!", referencing my last name, Roof, and a wonderful R&B hit from 1963 by Rufus Thomas called Walkin' The Dog. Another great memory is of being at basic training in '68 at Ft. Leonard Wood and going to mass on Sunday and who should I meet but Tim and also Moose Trudeau. We enjoyed the rest of the day together and Tim really boosted my spirits about getting through basic. I send my thoughts, prayers and love to all of Tim's family.

gretchen japhet

September 26, 2019

I remember celebrating birthdays, Christmas, Easter as kids
I remember the Easter dances with Tim at the Racket Club
I remember all those “Broadway Shows”we did there
I remember what good fun Tim was at all the Park Hill parties we had with the “South Yonkers" crowd
I remember cheering him on at the North Yonkers TOILET BOWL games
I remember how often I went from Quonnie to Misquamicut because Tim & friends were there - & they were so much fun!
Goodbye Cuz!

Joan Guerrera

September 26, 2019

Justin and family- Laura informed me of Tim’s passing. I am so sorry to hear that. I remember him as a fun-loving, friendly guy! My deepest sympathy to all of you.
Joan

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