Arlene P Harlfinger

August 9, 1941March 23, 2021

Arlene Patricia (Hedden) Harlfinger, 79 of Ship Bottom, NJ passed away peacefully on March 23, 2021 with her family by her side. Arlene was born in East Orange, NJ, the daughter of the late Irvin W. and Mae Hedden. Arlene was raised in Long Beach Island with her family. When Arlene was in 5th grade she met William Harlfinger and that was the beginning of a beautiful love story. She married her best friend and love of her life in 1960. In 1971 she and her family moved to Ship Bottom to the home her husband built. There they resided and lived a wonderful life until his death in 2001.

Arlene was a communicant of St. Francis Parish. She took great pride in raising her family and spending her days as a dedicated stay at home mom until her children were grown. She then embarked on a career of her own working for Bank of America for over 20 years.

Arlene was a loving wife, and mother of 4 children, and a devoted grandmother. Arlene’s greatest joys centered around her children and grandchildren. If any of them were participating in a performance, sporting event or social activity, she was there. A highlight in her sporting attendance was her trips to Penn State University where she was surrounded by her family to support and cheer for her grandson on the field.

She was predeceased by her loving husband of 40 years, William Harlfinger and her beloved brothers Irvin P. and Walter Hedden, and her sister Joan Matejka. She is survived by her 4 children Linda Gesicki and husband John, West Creek NJ; Donna Gesicki and husband Mike, Manahawkin NJ; Kathleen Caldwell and husband Tim, Acworth Georgia and her son William Harlfinger, Ship Bottom NJ; Ten grandchildren and many nieces and nephews.

Friends and family are invited to the visitation which will be held at the Thomas L. Shinn Funeral Home, 10 Hilliard drive in Manahawkin on Tuesday March 30, 2021 from 4:30pm to 7:30pm.

A private funeral and burial will be held by the family.

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S Karl Mohel

April 7, 2021

Just found out yesterday. Such a devastating loss of a wonderful lady. She was so devoted to her children and family. An amazing woman whom I will miss for the rest of my life.

Jackie Applegate

April 6, 2021

I'm so sorry I didn't see anout her service earlier. Your Mother was one of the most special people I've ever known. I have so many wonderful memories of her & I working together, they were truly the best years. She could make me crazy & laughing so hard at the same time. She will be dearly missed. Oh, how she loved her family & missed her Bill, everyday. I am a better person, for knowing her. 💕

Eddy English

April 4, 2021

Arlene was a beautiful person I remember her when I was a kid and we use to go into Bowers pharmacy at 21st St. and Boulevard in Ship Bottom And she was behind the soda fountain with Rita Hickman ( partner in crime) at the time waiting on us kids with ice cream and soda’s . Again a very beautiful woman she will be missed.

David Hartman

April 3, 2021

A great lady and beautiful family. Love to the family and sorrow for your loss.

Heather Crawford

March 29, 2021

I can't even begin to express my condolences to the entire family. Arlene was such a joy to have as a patient. We spent many visits together going over more just her medical care. She always had stories or funny anecdotes about someone or something but what she always talked about most was her children and grandchildren. Her face would light up when she spoke of them. I'm so honored to have gotten to know Arlene and many of her family members. Heaven has gained another angel and I'd like to think that I have another guardian angel on my side. May you rest in peace Arlene and keep watching over your family from above!!!

Debbie Robbins

March 27, 2021

I remember my aunt Arlene as a loving, caring woman who loved her husband and family more than almost anyone I’ve ever met. She will be greatly missed by all the people she touched in her lifetime, most of all her family. I will always remember her, and her laughter, and how much she loved my parents. My deepest condolences to her family.

Barbara Spanier

March 27, 2021

Our deepest sympathy to. Linda,Donna,Kate, Bill, and families. We’ve been friends with Arlene for over 40 years. The last few years have been very special- talking and laughing out front so often. When we were in PA we spoke often on the phone. Our special time was watching the Penn State football games together virtually. We would text each other excitedly whenever high
points happened forPenn State. Arlene was a very dear friend and wonderful lady. We shall miss her.

Nancy Dunngan

March 25, 2021

So sorry for your loss of your mom . There are so many years of loyal and helpful memories that your mom and dad shared with my parents and family . Rest peacefully Arlene and your re joining with the love of your life , i hope mom and dad are also there to greet you

Janice Clayton

March 25, 2021

Arlene was my beautiful, kind, fun-loving cousin. We shared lots of good laughs & tears over the years and more recently thru texts and phone calls. I admired her greatly, how she lived her life. She loved her Bill dearly and her wonderful family. God bless you all. Love, Jan & Russ Clayton

Bea Zasowski

March 24, 2021

Arlene was a wonderful wonderful lady. She helped me so much they the death of my husband. I saw her every Friday at WW. I couldn’t wait till she walked in the door. We had so many laughs. I remember how she loved her children and adored her grandchildren. She will be missed. God Bless her wonderful family