Peter C Tomolonis

July 16, 1946July 21, 2018

Peter C. Tomolonis Jr., 72, of Barnegat, NJ passed away July 21, 2018 after a brave battle with cancer.

He is survived by his wife, Kathleen; his son and daughter-in- law, Christopher and Elizabeth of Jersey City, NJ; his son and daughter-in-law Michael and Sharon of Yardley, PA; his daughter and son-in-law Jennifer and Robert of Houston, TX., as well as six treasured grandchildren. He is also survived by his brother, Frank Tomolonis and his wife Joanne, of Hicksville, NY and several nieces and nephews.

Born in Brooklyn, NY, on July 16, 1946 to Peter and Katherine Tomolonis, Peter grew up in Richmond Hill, Queens. He began attending Fordham University at the age of 16. He continued on to Columbia University, pausing to serve his country in the U.S. Army during the Vietnam War. Soon thereafter, he met and fell in love with Kathleen. They married in 1972. Over the next 8 years, they had three children and Peter began his career at the Port Authority of NY/NJ, where he worked until 2003.

Peter held a great many titles in his 72 years, the most notable of which included son, brother, uncle, neighbor, friend, scholar, veteran, psychologist, 9-11 survivor, and docent at the 9-11 Memorial. His deepest devotion went to his title of Dad, and the role he most cherished was Kathy's Husband.

To those who knew him, Pete was a dynamic story teller, a true gentleman, and a kind soul. If you were lucky enough to know him, he was undoubtedly a friend.

Services will be held Friday, July 27, 2018 at Shinn Funeral Home on 10 Hilliard Drive, Manahawkin, NJ, 08050 from 2-4 PM or 6-8 PM. A Funeral Mass will be held Saturday July 28, 2018 at St. Mary of the Pines, 100 Bishop Avenue, Manahawkin, NJ 08050 at 11 AM. A Committal Service will immediately follow at St. Mary's Cemetery, Beachview Avenue, Manahawkin, NJ.

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Dr Richard Sattilaro

August 11, 2018

I'm am an old friend of Peter. For some reason today, August 11th, he popped up in my mind. I checked the internet and so sadly saw this obituary posting. He and I attended Brooklyn Preparatory at the same time. Each day we took the same train home. We both attended a Jesuit retreat at Gonzaga with others from BP and we all had separate small rooms. I remember he chipped his tooth on his room sink there.
What I remember most was that Peter was always highly ethical and gentle. I am so saddened. See you soon Pete.
Your old school-mate,
Dr. Richard Sattilaro

Thandiwe Lewis

July 27, 2018

Peter was one of many volunteers that I coordinated under the auspices of the 9/11 Tribute Museum. Being half of his age and life experience always gave me a slight uneasy feeling as "coordinator" of his museum activities. What always stood out to me was Peter's humility, generosity, and genuineness. I could surely tell him what the newest policy was at the museum but in exchange, he would give me buckets of wisdom from his life experiences. I truly felt it was an unfair advantage in my favour.

To the family of Peter, I don't have to tell you how cherished he was. As you remember and carry on, I thank God with you for the gift he was to unmentionable amounts of people.

Thandiwe Lewis, Cortlandt Manor, NY

Lillian Borrone

July 27, 2018

To the Tomolonis Family:
It is hard for me to put into words just what Peter meant to me and many at the Port Authority.
Yes, he was a kind, thoughtful gentleman. Yes, he went out of his way to be considerate, to help us gain insights into issues and problems, to encourage us to think both as public officials and as individuals, about our responsibilities and how we carried them out to assure integrity, honesty and loyalty were paramount. But, more than those attributes, I recall his enjoyment of the relaxed times, the parties and gatherings when we could let our hair down, share friendship and have fun.

I last saw Pete at the 9/11 Memorial. He joined in guiding me and other outside guests around the Museum and shared our sense of loss and memories of our days together at the WTC.

My thoughts and prayers are with Peter and you. He was a great colleague and I will always value the support he provided to me and my team over the years.

Lillian Borrone

holly blauser

July 26, 2018

To the family of Peter Tomolonis: I had the pleasure to work with Pete back in the days we called Human Resources the Personnel Department. We were doing a program together: his Training vantage point plus mine from Management Personnel. The program was how people who passed the test to enter the management ranks could "sell themselves" to a potential new boss. He talked about another program he wanted to do for middle managers, maybe not so likely to be next up on a promotion list. We all discussed a movie called Ground Hog Day, with Bill Murray and Andie McDowell. Murray repeats his weather forecaster day again and again and yet again. Pete wanted the middle managers to assess their skills and assets to maximize any enrichment that could be garnered from an examination of their life, job and extra-curricula activities etc. If they were missing one of the aforementioned ingredients, they could think about how to participate, and then gather some of the enjoyment from that item. All of us began talking and I remember we all said family (spend time as a grandparent babysitter), community (join the church choir or thrift sale), hobbies like joining a chess club. We each left the discussion ready to do some deep thinking about our own lives. (I also recommended him for the 9-11 Tribute Program, when I was involved in inviting retirees to Tribute.) I'll think fondly of him.

Karen & Joe Tobia

July 26, 2018

We both knew Pete from the Port Authority. He was always a gentleman, good natured, and helpful. He will be missed by many. May he rest in eternal peace.

Lorraine Walsh

July 26, 2018

I worked for Pete many years ago in the Personnel Dept at the Port Authority. He was the nicest supervisor I have ever worked for. Pete was always willing to share his knowledge with others in a patient and helpful manner. He was quick with a smile and loved telling cute stories about his kids! Thank you Pete for your friendship!

Guy Sanders

July 26, 2018

I met Peter when I became a docent at the 9/11 Tribute Museum. We did a few tours together and spoke from time to time at the Museum when our paths crossed. Peter was always smiling and always had a pleasant demeanor. Even during times when you could see he might not be feeling well, he always kept a smile on his face and never complained.

When doing tours with him, he was so full of information and when he told his story people were always enthralled, even when he injected humor into the tragic events of that day. As a person who also is battling cancer from that day, I hope that I can be as brave and cheerful and strong as Peter has proved to be. He will be missed.

For all who loved him, may his memories prove to be a blessing and may they buoy you during this time of grief. Let us all be happy that we had the pleasure of knowing Peter. It was a privilege.

Myrna Weinstein

July 26, 2018

I remember sitting with Pete on the 50th floor on February 26,1993. We were waiting to continue our escape down a congested stairwell when pulled off the stairs to wait in an office. Sitting on the floor making plans to have a drink once we got out of the building.
We never had that drink because we were separated in the pitch black hallway and stairs.
Here’s to you Pete, my dear friend.

Dan Pontecorvo

July 25, 2018

I am so saddened to hear about our good friend/docent from the 9/11 Tribute Museum. Only knowing Peter for a few years as a fellow docent, but his smile and kindness was always present. Peter, we will never forget you and our memories will live on. My deepest condolences to your family
Rest in Peace!

Brenda Berkman

July 25, 2018

I met Peter through the 9-11 Tribute -- we often saw each other over the years in the volunteer docents' lounge and at events. Peter was the definition of "kind." He always was caring and considerate of Tribute folks. I will greatly miss him. His memory will live on with his Tribute friends and out on the 9-11 Memorial. Sending love and deepest sympathy to Kathy, his family and friends.