Peter C Tomolonis

July 16, 1946July 21, 2018

Peter C. Tomolonis Jr., 72, of Barnegat, NJ passed away July 21, 2018 after a brave battle with cancer.

He is survived by his wife, Kathleen; his son and daughter-in- law, Christopher and Elizabeth of Jersey City, NJ; his son and daughter-in-law Michael and Sharon of Yardley, PA; his daughter and son-in-law Jennifer and Robert of Houston, TX., as well as six treasured grandchildren. He is also survived by his brother, Frank Tomolonis and his wife Joanne, of Hicksville, NY and several nieces and nephews.

Born in Brooklyn, NY, on July 16, 1946 to Peter and Katherine Tomolonis, Peter grew up in Richmond Hill, Queens. He began attending Fordham University at the age of 16. He continued on to Columbia University, pausing to serve his country in the U.S. Army during the Vietnam War. Soon thereafter, he met and fell in love with Kathleen. They married in 1972. Over the next 8 years, they had three children and Peter began his career at the Port Authority of NY/NJ, where he worked until 2003.

Peter held a great many titles in his 72 years, the most notable of which included son, brother, uncle, neighbor, friend, scholar, veteran, psychologist, 9-11 survivor, and docent at the 9-11 Memorial. His deepest devotion went to his title of Dad, and the role he most cherished was Kathy's Husband.

To those who knew him, Pete was a dynamic story teller, a true gentleman, and a kind soul. If you were lucky enough to know him, he was undoubtedly a friend.

Services will be held Friday, July 27, 2018 at Shinn Funeral Home on 10 Hilliard Drive, Manahawkin, NJ, 08050 from 2-4 PM or 6-8 PM. A Funeral Mass will be held Saturday July 28, 2018 at St. Mary of the Pines, 100 Bishop Avenue, Manahawkin, NJ 08050 at 11 AM. A Committal Service will immediately follow at St. Mary's Cemetery, Beachview Avenue, Manahawkin, NJ.

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Jennifer Saladino

September 25, 2018

I love you, Dad.

Richard Sattilaro, Ph.D.

September 11, 2018

Peter and I went to Brooklyn Preparatory school and often took the same trains home. During Prep school we went to a Catholic retreat at Gonzaga and I remember when Peter chipped his tooth front on the edge of the sink in his room next to mine at that retreat. Peter was one of the nicest guys I ever met. What else can I add more than I always admired Peter. You were a very special guy.
Love, Dr.Richard F Sattilaro, Class of '63

Mel Wasserman

August 28, 2018

I knew Peter casually as a colleague at the Port Authority. After retirement, we both joined the volunteer program at the Tribute Center (now Tribute Museum) and got to know each other much more personally. Pete was always a gentleman, and dedicated to his work. A great storyteller. Rest in Peace my friend.
Sincere condolences to the Tomolonis family, to whom Peter was totally devoted.

Mel Wasserman

Barry Weintrob

August 16, 2018

I would like to take this opportunity to share my thoughts about Peter Tomolonis, who I knew as a co-worker at the Port Authority.

Pete was a very special person.

His job at the Port Authority was to help make us all, at every level, the best that we could be. And, this is what he did, in his quiet, firm, and always understanding way.

Pete represented an important piece of what made the Port Authority such a great place to work, and such a great asset to the New York region.

The effects of his work will continue to live on for a long long time, through the lives of all the people he positively impacted.

May he rest in peace, and may his family be comforted by many pleasant memories.

Dr Richard Sattilaro

August 11, 2018

I'm am an old friend of Peter. For some reason today, August 11th, he popped up in my mind. I checked the internet and so sadly saw this obituary posting. He and I attended Brooklyn Preparatory at the same time. Each day we took the same train home. We both attended a Jesuit retreat at Gonzaga with others from BP and we all had separate small rooms. I remember he chipped his tooth on his room sink there.
What I remember most was that Peter was always highly ethical and gentle. I am so saddened. See you soon Pete.
Your old school-mate,
Dr. Richard Sattilaro

Thandiwe Lewis

July 27, 2018

Peter was one of many volunteers that I coordinated under the auspices of the 9/11 Tribute Museum. Being half of his age and life experience always gave me a slight uneasy feeling as "coordinator" of his museum activities. What always stood out to me was Peter's humility, generosity, and genuineness. I could surely tell him what the newest policy was at the museum but in exchange, he would give me buckets of wisdom from his life experiences. I truly felt it was an unfair advantage in my favour.

To the family of Peter, I don't have to tell you how cherished he was. As you remember and carry on, I thank God with you for the gift he was to unmentionable amounts of people.

Thandiwe Lewis, Cortlandt Manor, NY

Lillian Borrone

July 27, 2018

To the Tomolonis Family:
It is hard for me to put into words just what Peter meant to me and many at the Port Authority.
Yes, he was a kind, thoughtful gentleman. Yes, he went out of his way to be considerate, to help us gain insights into issues and problems, to encourage us to think both as public officials and as individuals, about our responsibilities and how we carried them out to assure integrity, honesty and loyalty were paramount. But, more than those attributes, I recall his enjoyment of the relaxed times, the parties and gatherings when we could let our hair down, share friendship and have fun.

I last saw Pete at the 9/11 Memorial. He joined in guiding me and other outside guests around the Museum and shared our sense of loss and memories of our days together at the WTC.

My thoughts and prayers are with Peter and you. He was a great colleague and I will always value the support he provided to me and my team over the years.

Lillian Borrone

holly blauser

July 26, 2018

To the family of Peter Tomolonis: I had the pleasure to work with Pete back in the days we called Human Resources the Personnel Department. We were doing a program together: his Training vantage point plus mine from Management Personnel. The program was how people who passed the test to enter the management ranks could "sell themselves" to a potential new boss. He talked about another program he wanted to do for middle managers, maybe not so likely to be next up on a promotion list. We all discussed a movie called Ground Hog Day, with Bill Murray and Andie McDowell. Murray repeats his weather forecaster day again and again and yet again. Pete wanted the middle managers to assess their skills and assets to maximize any enrichment that could be garnered from an examination of their life, job and extra-curricula activities etc. If they were missing one of the aforementioned ingredients, they could think about how to participate, and then gather some of the enjoyment from that item. All of us began talking and I remember we all said family (spend time as a grandparent babysitter), community (join the church choir or thrift sale), hobbies like joining a chess club. We each left the discussion ready to do some deep thinking about our own lives. (I also recommended him for the 9-11 Tribute Program, when I was involved in inviting retirees to Tribute.) I'll think fondly of him.

Karen & Joe Tobia

July 26, 2018

We both knew Pete from the Port Authority. He was always a gentleman, good natured, and helpful. He will be missed by many. May he rest in eternal peace.

Lorraine Walsh

July 26, 2018

I worked for Pete many years ago in the Personnel Dept at the Port Authority. He was the nicest supervisor I have ever worked for. Pete was always willing to share his knowledge with others in a patient and helpful manner. He was quick with a smile and loved telling cute stories about his kids! Thank you Pete for your friendship!