Woody Funeral Home-Atlee Chapel

9271 Shady Grove Road, Mechanicsville, VA


Stephen Joseph Toomey

January 29, 1951June 20, 2020

Stephen “Steve” Toomey, 69, of Hanover County, VA, passed away on Saturday, June 20, 2020.

He was surrounded by his daughters Melissa (Luc) Belhumeur of Hanover, VA; Megan (Rob) Smith of Hanover, VA; and Amanda (Jerad) Nielsen of Henrico, VA. He will be greatly missed by his best friend, Jane Toomey, whom he was married to for 38 years and by his loving grandchildren Ainsley, Mason, Gillian, Cooper, and William. He is survived by his brother David (Nanci) Toomey of Airmont, NY and sisters Joan Toomey of Plant City, FL, Pat (Charles) Lynch of Suffern, NY, and Judy Zdanis of West Milford, NJ; and many nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by his son, Peter Toomey; his parents Joseph and Dorothy Toomey; and close friend and brother-in-law, John Zdanis.

Stephen was born on January 29, 1951 in Paterson, NJ. He graduated from West Milford High School in 1969, where he played baseball, football, and basketball. He had a special appreciation for baseball and softball growing up as a Yankees fan and attended many games as a child. He was active in the softball community as a coach for his daughters and as a player and umpire. He had a successful career as a welder that took him to Hanover, VA in 1992, working for Alfa Laval Thermal until retirement. He will be best remembered for his sarcastic wit, tenacity, and his dedication to his family.

The family would like to thank the staff at MCV and Ashcake Family Physicians not only for their exceptional medical care, but also for their kindness and counsel. A special thank you to his daughter, Megan, for being his caretaker in his final years.

A Funeral Mass will be celebrated at Church of the Redeemer in Mechanicsville, VA on Friday, July 10, 2020 at 9:30 am. A private entombment will follow at Signal Hill Memorial Park.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the American Stroke Association.


  • Melissa Belhumeur (Luc), Daughter
  • Megan Smith (Rob), Daughter
  • Amanda Nielsen (Jerad), Daughter
  • Jane Toomey, Best Friend
  • Ainsley, Mason, Gillian, Cooper and William, Grandchildren
  • David Toomey (Nanci), Brother
  • Joan Toomey, Sister
  • Pat Lynch (Charles), Sister
  • Judy Zdanis, Sister
  • many, nieces and nephews
  • Peter Toomey, Son (deceased)
  • Joseph and Dorothy Toomey, Parents (deceased)
  • John Zdanis, Close Friend and Brother in Law (deceased)

  • Stroke Association


  • Funeral Mass

    Friday, July 10, 2020


Stephen Joseph Toomey

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ruth Smith

July 10, 2020

To Jane and the girls, I remember teasing him alot when your Mom first married Steve. He always had a great smile. My prayers are with you all. Blessings Great Aunt Ruth

Megan Smith

July 10, 2020

Dad, I remember sitting in the recliner and watching rainbow brite and fraggle rock while you fed me dinner because I refused to eat any other way. I think you always knew I had your stubbornness. I remember falling asleep on your chest while you rocked me to sleep. I remember wrestling with you and Mandy placing a napkin down before she jumped on you, as if it wouldn’t hurt that way. I remember listening to def leopard as loud as it could go in your truck while we went to softball practice. I remember when you and Mason would play fight and punch each other when he was real little, he would catch you off guard and deck you right in the jaw and we would all laugh so hard. I remember when you were sitting on the deck and that frog jumped on your bone hawk and you threw it on Rob. I remember sitting outside with you to smoke as you swatted away all the “bat wings” that would land on you. I remember you always calling my cat Milo. We’ve been taking turns sleeping in your bed. Your room still smells like you and your cup still smells like coffee. I hope that smell never goes away. I miss you terribly, I never knew something could hurt this much. Please look out for Mason and help him to make the right decisions and keep him safe. I hope you felt how much I loved and appreciated you. Until we meet again, please come see me every single day, I feel lost without you. I love you so much Dad.

Kurt and Roxie Dimpel

July 9, 2020

We were very saddened to hear of Steve’s passing. We had many wonderful times when we were neighbors in King’s Charter. So much laughter and love shared between our families! He adored his girls and all his grandchildren. We send our love to all of you! We will meet again , Steve....till then....you are in our hearts and memories.

Trish Reynar

June 27, 2020

All my love to Jane and my cousins. I have so many great memories of my Godfather and Uncle( although at that time it was more like brother not uncle :) Lots of laughs and sarcasm between us. Shooting hoops , early morning rides to band practice with Magic Carpet Ride/ Steppenwolf and Creedence blasting down Johnsontown Road, Watching Yankee games on the black and white, Sneaking into his frig to steal his freshmade Tunafish- He made the best ! Him always telling me not to care what others think about my size and lets not leave out "Bustin Beula's Chops" which he got a kick out of . I know that he is watching over you all ! Until we meet again Steve.... XXOO Love You Trish