OBITUARY

Patricia Ann McDermott

April 16, 1958December 17, 2019
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Patricia Ann McDermott was born on April 16, 1958 in Teaneck, New Jersey to Arthur J. and Mary T. McDermott. She passed away unexpectedly on December 17, 2019.

Patty graduated from Miramonte High School in 1976 and the University of California, Berkeley with a BA in Social Science. She worked as a Staff Services Analyst II for the Merced County Child Support. Patricia was a loving, outgoing, wonderful mother, daughter, companion and friend. Patty's greatest joy and pride were her two children, Derek and Lisa! She spoke of her kids with pure love knowing that she did everything she could to see them both become successful adults. She lovingly cared for her elderly Mother, Mary, working tirelessly to provide for her. Besides her children and Mother, Patty loved life and two of the places she loved to be was either on the beach, (Monterey and Trinidad State Beaches,) where she could enjoy the crashing of the waves and the smell of salt water in the air. The other place was any where she could hike along a mountain trail and marvel at the simplest thing, (Big Trees, Yosemite and Kings Canyon. She sought out the intrinsic beauty in the tiniest pinecone to the natural design on a whole sand dollar she stoop to pick up. Her smile would light up any room she walked into... However, the one thing we always loved and found amazing about Patty was that she genuinely befriended and would sit and talk with anyone no matter his or her lot in life. Patty looked forward to retiring and planned to visit her ancestral home in Ireland.

In her younger days, Patty loved to play beach volleyball, softball and ran track. She was also very good at bowling and even won an award. She had the best sense of humor and her laugh was contagious. She was a great listener and would always give great advice. She loved her job and put 100% into it. She enjoyed reading and journaling. She liked Yoga and massages. She especially like to take what we called “death marches” aka walking ALL day long to where we could no longer feel our legs and were sore for days. She loved animals and was always rescuing them. Patty will be always loved and greatly missed by everyone whose life she touched. She was a remarkable woman.

Patty is preceded in death by her father Arthur J. McDermott. She is survived by her children, Lisa Marie Robinson of Salinas, Ca and Derek Orlando Robinson Jr. of Merced, Ca; her companion Sean Pierre Fox-Wilson of Twain Harte, Ca. her mother Mary T. McDermott of Merced, Ca; Brothers Michael A. McDermott of Concord, Ca and Robert McDermott of Redding, Ca.

In lieu of flowers the family has asked that donations be made in her honor to New Beginnings Animal Rescue at www.newbeginningsforanimalsmerced.org.

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    Sunday, January 5, 2020

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Michael McDermott

January 14, 2020

I would like to thank all those who shared their thoughts about Patty over the years. A big thank you to Sean for all the photos he posted for our viewing. Also a big thank you to Derek and Lisa for the service conducted for her along with Sean.

I will simply say that Patty went too soon. She shouldn't have gone this soon. I will leave it at that as I am still in quiet shock about her sudden loss combined with our father in February. I have stopped by his grave in the National Cemetery to let him know what happened. I will miss both of them quite a bit for a long time.

Julie Sanchez

January 4, 2020

Patty was such a sweet, kind, unique petite soul. She would also defend anyone or anything in a heartbeat, if needed. She was so tiny, but so mighty strong! One of a kind for sure! She had a knack for listening as well as talking. I loved our daily conversations at work. I would wait for her to pass by at 8:06am and say good morning. (She arrived on “Patty time” as she would say. ❤️) Then she would go get her coffee or tea and return and chat for a bit. I loved hearing about her elementary school days, the nun, her high school days, her children and her life long fiends she held on to so dearly. We loved discussing books and what we should definitely research next. Haha. She loved her parents dearly & missed her dad a great deal after he passed away. She was a such a devoted daughter who took great care of her mom. She was so proud of her kids as well! She said she didn’t care if she had grandkids or grandfurbabies, she was happy with anything. Her love for animals was unconditional as well. She would always make sure the stray cats around the office were fed and taken care of. I’m so sad that she didn’t get to retire as planned. She was so very close to retirement and everything lined up perfectly. Our office was in such shock when this happened and we were so heartbroken that Patty is gone. Our office will just never be the same. She will be missed dearly. I will really miss those long and short chats! 😢. Rest In Peace, Patty.

judy haxo

January 4, 2020

Patty and I were best friends for nearly 50 years. We met as freshman at Miramonte High School in Orinda, CA. We had both just moved into the area. We were nearly the same height, weight and coloring. We had both been born in New Jersey. I would start a sentence and she would finish it for me. Over the years she was my defender, my support, my therapist.....my "BFF". We may have connected only irregularly since she moved out of the Bay Area, but when we did it was like no time had passed. We just picked up where we left off. There was so much we planned to do together when she retired. I will miss her the rest of my life.

Michael Jacobson

January 4, 2020

Michael Jacobson

January 4, 2020

Michael Jacobson

January 4, 2020

Michael Jacobson

January 4, 2020

Patty, I miss you and the friendship we were re-discovering. Along with our friend group from High School, with Art, Judy, Damien, Steve... after 40+ years, a gap filled with a lifetime of memories and experiences to be shared. Just before you left us, we had some wonderful long chats, about everything from politics and work, our favorite Netflix and Amazon shows, our families, our children, caring for aging parents, to your decision to retire early and what you were going to do next. That last part was filled with hope - so much more on your side I'm sure, and on mine thinking how good it would be to meet more often. We were becoming friends once again, and those things that I remembered had not changed - a sharp and critical wit that came from a smart intelligence, a quiet observer, perhaps a defensive shell to those who didn't know you, yet with a smile and a look that revealed a caring softness inside. But when you needed to fight, for someone or something you cared about, you were fierce!
So much of the early memories are faded now, only the core of who you always were remained. We could have filled in the memories (remember the trips to Tahoe, the adventures in SF and Berkeley; were you with us when we shared that enormous ice cream sundae?). Creating new memories is what I was looking forward to, most likely simple get-togethers with old friends when you would visit the Bay Area (I remember your visit with Judy and Art, the restaurant in Lafayette; and the wedding in San Jose). I miss the friendship, your voice, your gentle laughter. Too soon, too sudden, and yet gone. Farewell, Patty. You are missed greatly.

Carol casados

January 3, 2020

My favorite memory of Patty was the brilliant smile she seemed to always have on her face. She would light up a room with her smile. I'm so grateful that we got to have coffee and conversation together with Marci and Carole at Starbucks on one of my trips home. I will always remember her kindness and love for all people. Rest well my friend. You will never be forgotten.

Sandra Mooneyham

December 29, 2019

I want to thank you for these beautifully and thoughtfully written long tributes to Patty. They both demonstrate the true essence of her sweet and generous spirit. They do not eliminate my sadness, but they brought to mind such fond memories. The pictures are perfect Sean! Thank you for sharing them with all of us who loved and appreciated her smiles in the face of trials, her enthusiasm at all of our celebrations, her intellect when we needed clear informed direction and her caring nature for her family and friends. I will always remember her dancing to Feels Like A Woman while dressing Chuck up in drag, her as a flower child for the 60’s bash, in the trio of slinky dressed gals singing a 50’s song complete with feather boas and microphones (was it My Boyfriend’s Back??), her amazing test questions for the Pirate theme, and tons of others where she was willing to do whatever it took to make us all laugh. May you Rest In Peace sweet Patty, folded safely in God’s arms.

Lisa Clinton

December 27, 2019

I’m so sorry for the loss of Patty. She had a beautiful smile and was always kind. She was a special person and I will miss seeing her.
-Lisa

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