Tou Fue Thao

Tou Fue Thao was born on June 1, 1982, in Santa Barbara, California to Vang Thao and Pang Yang. At the age of six, his family relocated to Santa Ana before settling in Merced, where he grew up and made his home.

As the fourth of eleven children, Tou Fue was surrounded by a large, loving family, with three older sister and seven younger brothers. From a young age, he displayed a helpful nature and an easygoing attitude, embodying a spirit of curiosity, mischief, and independence. He was a unique and intelligent person, quick on his feet and strong-willed.

He had a passion for sports, excelling in wrestling and soccer, showcasing his athleticism, determination, and competitive spirit. Beyond athletics, he enjoyed fixing cars and working on various projects, whether to make them functional or to enhance them. Music, cooking, running, working out, and spending time with loved ones were also an integral part of his life.

Throughout his life, he faced significant hardships, including struggles with substance use disorder and incarceration. These challenges strained his relationships, particularly with his family and his children. Yet, he often expressed a deep desire to strengthen those connections and hoped for a better future together. He acknowledged the obstacles ahead of him, but remained hopeful about regaining stability and moving beyond his past and not letting it define him.

Tou Fue leaned on his friends during difficult times. Even in the face of adversity, he maintained a positive outlook and kept a smile on his face, ready to help others. His optimism and plans for the future were a testament to his enduring spirits as he navigated the complexities of life.

Tragically, his life was cut short on December 13, 2024. As we gather to celebrate his life, we remember not only the challenges he faced but also the warmth he brought into our lives. Tou Fue was not a perfect person, but he was a normal person who, like many of us, grappled with issues and sought connection. His spirit will remain in our hearts, reminding us to live fully and support one another through life’s ups and downs.